Reply To: “Do Her Mixed Signals Mean She Wants Me Back?”

All right, if I understand correctly, you were in a long-distance situationship for a few months, with 2 in-person meetings, and she is about 20 years younger than you. She has a different lifestyle, I’m assuming, and a different attachment and communication style than you do. Am I getting all that right? And some of your biggest problems were with what you consider her poor communication and your poor responses to her communication. And she’s told you she loves you but doesn’t want to be in a relationship. And you’ve told her to give you a timeframe that she may be ready for a relationship and she hasn’t responded since then?

So to me, like, we don’t even have to talk about fault here and who was the worse communicator and who was sending inconsistent messages. It doesn’t matter. What matters is you two were a bad fit, and a relationship was never going to work. You tried it, it didn’t work. She said she doesn’t want to do it anymore. Chapter closed. Tried and failed. It’s fine. It’s okay. Most relationships fail, and a common time to split up is 3-4 months in.

Do you have any follow-up questions? Has she responded since your last message?