Reply To: “Do Her Mixed Signals Mean She Wants Me Back?”

Ah, I see. I am in the field, yes. Wouldn’t you see that it is easier solving others problems than your own? When someone is in the throes of a relationship that isn’t functioning, clinical skills only go so far. Applying pressure is what I already mentioned several times – it means that I didn’t like her avoidance in the most casual way of letting those around her know she is taken. It’s very simple and don’t understand why you, and others here, don’t understand that this could be interpreted as sneaky behavior. I wouldn’t do this if I were working with all women and my partner was uncomfortable. I would meet their needs and say something, but I wouldn’t need guidance because I would have done it without asking. Should I include her own words that she wasn’t afraid of me, but in our arguments it made her uncomfortable. This was the final text so I didn’t know exactly what she was feeling because she rarely/if ever shared her feelings. This was an issue and I was really good, for a while, in learning to understand her. She doesn’t want to let others in (her words) and puts up a wall. You could say I violated boundaries by pressing this issue. Again, unintentional. As for 1000 miles away, we bonded on very similar beliefs and values in a social media chat and it just took off. I’ve never done long distance, nor had she, so therefore we needed an extra level of transparency and I didn’t receive that from her. It is her fault for this and my fault for responding in a way, over time, that pushed her further into her avoidance.