Reply To: How Can I Stay With My Soulmate When He Won’t Stand Up For Me?

So, I think the first thing you need to do to accurately evaluate what’s going on is to start dispensing of language like “soul mate” or “the one”. When you think like that, you are kind of setting yourself up to pretty much excuse anything a person does, because you’re essentially saying that you are destined to be with this person. It’s not a healthy way to build a relationship.

More specifically though, I can’t be the only one who thinks something here doesn’t add up. His story is definitely SUS. Essentially his ex either attempted to sexually assault him or she actually did, yet he’s taken minimal steps to avoid her and even now is going to over to her house? The fact that he is spending time at her house casts doubt on his story.

I don’t really see a path forward here toward rebuilding trust, short of with the aid of a professional relationship counselor. You have a lot of reason to be wary and I think your alarm bells are going off for a valid reason.