Reply To: Ex’s and funerals

I don’t think this is weird.

I’m curious if there are larger issues of jealousy or lack of trust at play here since you seemed to feel insecure when you thought she was just a HS friend from 20 years ago.

I’m not tight with everyone I went to HS with anymore (I’m creeping up on 20 years removed myself). Same is true for college friends. I don’t live locally to most of these people. I still love them for who they were and what they meant to me years ago, even if we no longer share that day-to-day closeness or speak often (which does also include a couple exes, none of whom I have lingering feelings for). And I remember some of their parents very, very fondly, too. I once burst into tears at an airport when my mom called to tell me a childhood best friend’s grandpa died — he was awesome! It’s not weird to fall out of touch but still have love in your heart. It’s not weird to want to pay your respects at a funeral when given the opportunity. I think you ought to let it go.