Reply To: “How Can I Stop Desiring a Partner and Be Happy Alone?”

I’m curious what your personal life looks like outside of romantic relationships. Do you have platonic relationships with friends and family that you find fulfilling? Hobbies that you look forward to? Are you actively looking for a job that is a better fit? When I was single, having a routine and life I genuinely liked made finding a partner feel like less of a priority. I still wanted partnership, but having a full life meant I didn’t have the same urgency around finding a good match, took the process more in stride, and made better decisions.

IMO this reads like you’ve been dating from a place of desperation over the past few months when you’re also not even a year out of an 8+ year unhealthy relationship (and your prior marriage was also long-term and unhealthy). I assume there are deeper issues going on and therapy would be a great place to start.