Reply To: “My Former Client Broke My Heart”

At first, I was skeptical because many separated men use women as emotional lifeboats, only to leave them when their lives stabilize.

Ok, and this is exactly what happened. You were totally right. After making the jump to his new life, he first pulled away and then actually broke up with you. This was a breakup: saying he couldn’t give me the attention I deserved and didn’t want to hold me back while he sorted out his life.

But then, being a selfish jerk, he couldn’t just make a clean break, he had to keep bothering you. He doesn’t care at all about your feelings but kind of enjoys checking in with you for attention and validation that you still care. He’s almost certainly in another relationship.