I appreciate the points that you’ve brought up Wendy. And quite frankly I’d be fine with getting married this fall or by the end of the year but I think no matter when we get married, if it’s before her, it will upset her.
Maybe I am in the wrong here. I just happened that their anniversary fell on a good day to get married and we could get a good deal on the venue and so I got excited about it. I don’t even want to talk about the possibility of the grandparents not being there because any of us could be hit by a bus and I’m not naive, it was just something I wanted to do for them once it presented itself as an opportunity.
I’ve not said anything to his sister or his family. I’ll just keep my mouth shut for a few days and think this all through.