How many showers are you going to have?
My family is also from Missouri and I also got married in my 30s. I was the oldest of any of the women in my extended family to get married and, to my knowledge the first – and so far only – woman not to have a bridal shower. I just didn’t want one and I said so and that was that. You honestly don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. I couldn’t have imagined having a party thrown for me that I didn’t actually want – not when it’s work and expense for other people; I just don’t see the point! But, yeah, if you have a shower, people gonna be bringing gifts. Just do a registry with stuff at various price points – maybe you want to upgrade sheets or kitchenware or something. You can also do pricier gifts, like say a Roomba, that multiple people can contribute to. I personally wouldn’t do a honeymoon registry but I’ve seen them done before and have contributed to them and, like, whatever.
But, really, if you don’t want a shower, just tell the people who offered that you so appreciate their offer but since you’re 35 or however old you are, you don’t really need the stuff that a traditional shower sets you up with and that you can’t wait to celebrate with everyone at your wedding.
Showers seem so outdated to me. I can’t believe they’re still so popular!