I’m sorry Cleo. The whole thing sucks. I find it very relieving to “feel” everything and be sad willingy during times like these. People try too fast to be “fine”. So, be sad and cry and it will all get better eventually. You’re very brave for making this decision. I hope you have a good support group and if not, there’s always this community. When I broke up and posted it here, a lot of messages were super helpful and I read them a million times and kept coming back.
Curly; I don’t think you can tell if a date will be a waste of time or not from a couple questions. You just have to go for it. I’ve had really boring dates with people that sounded fun in texts. And funny dates with a couple guys that I went out with not expecting anything because they were kind of lame on texts. I think that’s the clue: not having expectations at all.