
The two weeks before Christmas are thought to be peak breakup season, according to Match.com. But UC Berkeley psychology professor Dacher Keltner, author Born to Be Good: The Science of a Meaningful Life, which explores how to be happy in relationships, says there’s one thing couples should do on a regular basis if they want to beat the odds and stay together…
They should laugh together! “For couples who divorced on average 13.9 years after they were married, it was the absence of laughter that predicted the end of their bond,” stated the research. “In the early stages of a marriage, anger and contempt are highly toxic. In the later phases of intimate relations, it is the dearth of laughter that leads individuals to part ways.”
So, if you’re running around, still trying to figure out what to get your significant other for Christmas, may I suggest tickets to a comedy show? Who knows, it might just be what gets you through to Valentine’s Day…
ktfran December 20, 2018, 4:08 pm
I bought the husband the Snoop Dogg Cookbook. If that doesn’t make him crack up, I don’t even know who he is and we should probably part ways.
JD December 20, 2018, 4:25 pm
Oh I didn’t know that was a thing. Looking it up! As i tell him often, you don’t love me, you just love my doggy style. Luckily he finds me amusing.
I got my aunt 50 Shades of Chicken last year.
ktfran December 20, 2018, 4:33 pm
It’s a thing! From Crook to Cook: Platinum Recipes from Tha Boss Dogg’s Kitchen
I CANNOT WAIT until he opens it. Seriously.
MissD December 20, 2018, 6:57 pm
I must look into this for my boyfriend!!
TheHizzy December 20, 2018, 4:28 pm
I swear I laugh with FH every freaking day. He’s too ridiculous and funny.
quokka December 20, 2018, 6:09 pm
Hmmm. Ok, this will make me ‘that person’ but correlation isn’t causation! Could be that laughing together ’causes’ relationship longevity, or could be that couples who have the necessary attributes for relationship longevity are more likely to laugh together. If it’s the latter, then creating ‘laughter situations’ won’t necessarily help improve a troubled relationship- might of course, but without further data we can’t exclude the possibility it will hinder. Thanks for coming to my lecture today guys! 🙂
Ange December 20, 2018, 8:02 pm
One thing my mum says about me and my husband is we’re always giggling about something. Having someone who makes you laugh in the house is so much better than some perpetual misery guts, I would 100% agree with that. And we do enjoy the sillier things, I got him this tshirt for our Christmas party tonight: https://www.redbubble.com/people/rosadinardo4/works/34949939-nakatomi-plaza-christmas-party-1988-t-shirt?p=t-shirt