It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
I am a senior in college and I’ve been flirting on and off with this guy since freshman year. We’re in the same friend group and have so much in common and he’s a gentleman around me! Last week when we were in Cancun for spring break, he slept with a mutual friend of ours. The night before, he spent the night rubbing my back while I slept on his chest, and two years ago when he thought I had a boyfriend, he got extremely mad at me and ignored me for days until he found out it wasn’t true. So I’m confused about why he slept with this other girl. What do I do? Does he respect/like me if he’s having sex with my friend even if we’re not together? (Oh, and he has an on/off girlfriend, which is anther story completely!). Is he just too much drama?! — Senior Crush
Yes, too much drama. No, he’s not interested in dating you if he’s sleeping with your friend. And no, his having a girlfriend is not, in fact, “another story completely.” It’s part of the same story, the moral of which is: MOA, girl, MOA.
Nick and I have been together for almost a year and half. Within the first six months he asked me to move in with him at his parents’ house, which wasn’t a problem at first because I loved his mom and dad. But shortly after I moved in, his mother became very mean. I would do everyone’s laundry, cook dinner, and clean the house an a daily basis, but Nick’s mother was still hateful toward me. Normally, I would love going places with her, but once she turned so hateful and admitted she was jealous over Nick’s and my relationship, I wanted out of their house. So, I need advice on how to try and get my boyfriend out of his mommy’s house. If we’re not up by 6 am, we have a wake up call by her saying, “Nicky, wake up!” Help me!! — We’re Both Over 18 But Under 30
The question should not be how to get your boyfriend to move out of his mommy’s house; it should be: why are YOU still living at his mommy’s house? If you’re over 18 and don’t like living with someone who is hateful to you, jealous of you, and wakes you up at 6 every morning, MOA (Move Out Already).
My friend has a relationship problem I want to help her with. Her boyfriend has a sister he does everything for, like tuck her into bed at night. He doesn’t shower or change his clothes, even though he smokes cigarettes all day, and he doesn’t eat with his girlfriend but will eat with his sister all the time. His sister picks out all his hygiene products for him. When his girlfriend asks what he likes, he doesn’t say anything, but when his sister asks, he tells her and she gets it for him. He drinks coffee all day long and goes to the bathroom a lot — like 3-4 times in a hour. So, can you let us know what your opinion is on this matter? — Just Looking Out For My Friend’s Interest
I have someone I’d like to introduce your friend to. His name is MOA and he knows how to treat a lady.
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