It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
The best way to find out if your cross-dressing fiancé wants a sex change is to ask him. Even if he does, there’s a strong possibility he’ll hang on to that penis of his that you like so much. Would you be ok dating/marrying a lesbian with a dick? (Some women might consider that the best of both worlds, you know). On the other hand, he’s probably perfectly happy being a man who likes to slip on a gown from time to time. Just ask!
Well, making a profit is kind of the point of being a landlord and charging tenants rent. You just didn’t realize you were your boyfriend’s tenant. Obviously, a conversation about your relationship and your living situation is long overdue. If you don’t think you should have to pay anything toward rent, explain why. But don’t be surprised if your boyfriend decides that paying for the groceries and doing the cooking and cleaning isn’t “paying your way” enough. It sounds like what he’s looking for is more than a domestic partner, and, indeed, a tenant and roommate he can make some money off of. If that doesn’t sit well with you, it’s probably time to look for a new place to live.
Regardless of what your sexual orientation is, if you’re in a relationship where you feel like something is missing, you are not entirely fulfilled, and you want to experiment with other people, regardless of their sex, then you probably should end your relationship. Your boyfriend isn’t doing it for you. Maybe that’s because he’s a guy and you aren’t truly into guys, or maybe you just aren’t into him. Either way, it’s time to MOA and give yourself the freedom to do the exploring you want and need to do.
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