It’s time again for Shortcuts. This week we discuss drunk dialing an ex, bickering couples, and when a boyfriend and BFF know each other a little too well.
Every time I drink I call my ex, only because he was my first time and I’m attached to him for that stupid reason. I have a boyfriend whom I love and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. He’s my best friend and I don’t want to lose him. But I called my ex last night when I was drunk and he wanted to have sex with me. And me being my drunk self, said: “Come pick me up.” But he couldn’t leave his house and pick me up, so we never met up or anything — we just wanted to. I can’t decide if I should tell me boyfriend or not. If he finds out, I want it to come from me. I don’t want him to find out by my ex or anything. What do you think? — Drunk Dialer
Don’t tell your boyfriend since nothing actually happened, and for God’s sake delete and block your ex’s number and quit being such an irresponsible drunk.
From the forums:
Unfortunately, my boyfriend and I have become one of those couples that tend to bicker, if you will, in front of our friends. It doesn’t happen all the time, but I can understand how annoying it must be when it does. I’ve been feeling pretty down because my best friend informed me a couple days ago that he doesn’t want to come over to our house or go out with us together because he “just wants to have a good time and not have any arguments.” Had he addressed the issue before coming to this conclusion, I definitely would have made a change. Now, I’m feeling like I will now have to choose between the two. I just know that if the tables were turned and one of my boyfriend’s friends didn’t want me coming along, I wouldn’t like it if my boyfriend continued associating with that person. — Bicker City
Good lord. Grow up and quit being one of “those couples” all your friends hate being around. You’re annoying, and, if you don’t quit being annoying, NO ONE will want to hang out with you anymore. Apologize to your friend, tell him you hadn’t realized how out of hand your bickering had gotten, promise to work on it, do things with him separately for a little while, and in a couple months ask him if he’ll consider hanging out with you AND your boyfriend since you’ve gotten your acts together and are no longer awkwardly bickering in front of people.
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost nine months and I found out about six months ago that he kissed my best friend before we met. I didn’t make a big deal of it, but today we got in a fight over him not wanting to hang out with her because he “hates her” and, while he was arguing with me, he informed me that they shared much more than one kiss — they hooked up completely. I can’t believe he lied right to my face about it. I don’t know what to do. — Lied to About a Kiss
If he “hates her” and refuses to hang out with her, then there’s more to the story than just a one-time hookup. Get to the bottom of that story — by talking to both of them — and then decide if their previous relationship and the fact that both kept it a secret from you is a deal-breaker or not.
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