Today is the last day of the Donation Drive. For the last few days, I’ve been encouraging readers to contribute and invest in the future of DW. Running this site isn’t free (it’s not even cheap) and your donation will help cover some of the costs, like server fees, tech assistance, a marketing and photo and editorial budget, and a small salary to me so I can continue investing many hours a week in creating the content you (hopefully) love to read. If you have ever considered donating, this is the time to do it (donate here; you can make a one-time donation or click the little box to make a recurring monthly donation) — even donations of $5 will add up and help reach the goal of $5,000 for the next six months. Over the next week, I’ll be posting some drawings for donors to win some fun giveaways. So far, we’ve raised $1910 — over 76% to the (new) goal! Thank you so much. And now to our regularly-scheduled programming:
It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
Your girlfriend feels violated by you because she WAS violated by you. (That you “stopped” when she “stirred” indicates that you weren’t actually trying to get her in the mood — you were trying to use her body while she was unconscious, which is despicable). This is a toxic, unhealthy relationship that is unsatisfying and frustrating for you both and it hasn’t even been one year. Cut your losses and move on.
Block your ex on whatsapp and find a private way to communicate with him about your daughter like, oh I don’t know, talking to each other on the phone.
Yes, and beyond that it would be setting a (bad) tone for the rest of your married life as part of this extended family. It was incredibly rude for you to be excluded from the wedding, but you were invited to the reception and that’s something at least. Be the bigger person and go and play nice. And when it’s your time to send out invites to your wedding, be gracious and include both your BIL-to-be AND his high-heeled wife.
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at firstname.lastname@example.org.