It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
Are you wrong for “feeling any type of way” by a so-called friend who is disrespecting you by asking you not to talk while he calls another woman to come over to his house right after you and he had sex? Um, no. You don’t have to be in a romantic relationship with someone to feel offended by disrespectful actions. You describe your relationship as “friends with benefits” but this guy isn’t treating you like a friend. You feel like trash because that’s how he’s treating you. I can’t imagine that the benefits of this situation are great enough to outweigh the negatives. Girl, MOA.
He only told you what he thought you needed to hear in order to continue having sex/your being intimate with him. Believe him when he says he doesn’t see a future with you. That’s also code for: This relationship is just for fun until I get bored or find someone I like better so consider yourself warned and don’t give me drama with I move on. Girl, MOA.
There’s a reason you’ve never heard anyone say: “Find yourself a man who looks at you like he looks at other attractive women,” and that’s because literally no one wants that, including you, so why are you still with the loser? Girl, MOA!
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