It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
I’m not exactly 120 pounds with big busts, but I always catch my man of two years staring at these type of women. I have felt so disrespected that I’m considering getting implants and I am trying to lose weight. I have told my man how he makes me feel and he tries to control himself but then he sees these women and there he goes. He’s fancinated with strippers — something I can’t be. We have four kids total (one together) and I will not change in front of him because he said my boobs are saggy. I love to have sex but I don’t want to with home anymore because I feel like he fantasizes about other women. What do I do? — Not a Stripper
Wow, he sounds like a prize. Honestly, if I were romantically involved with a man who couldn’t stop staring at other women, was fascinated by strippers, and told me my boobs were saggy shortly after giving birth, I’d kick his ass to the curb so fast, there would be skid marks down the driveway.
My boyfriend is a drunk and we have a 4-month-old son together. He said he was going to cut back on the drinking but he hasn’t. He hardly wants to help with the baby. I’m lucky if I can get him to feed the baby twice a day and maybe change a diaper once a day. Every time he has money he buys one thing of diapers and some wipes and then the rest goes for his cigarettes and beer. What should I do? I want to get away but I dont want to take it to court. I will let him see his son whenever he want. I just need to know what I should do. — Tired of the Drunk
You may not want to “take it to court,” but in order to protect both yourself and your son and to ensure not only some sort of financial support, but also cover your butt in case your boyfriend tries to sue YOU for support or custody, you need to speak with a family attorney asap. And then round up your closest support system and get all the help and assistance you can while you move on and make a new home for you and your baby boy.
I have a guy I like so much and who also likes me too. He buys me stuff and is always willing to be around me. The “but” is that he has a girlfriend who is so far away from here but they have been dating for quite a while. Should I date him? — Likes a Guy
I think you should aim higher than some guy with a girlfriend who is “willing to be around you.” How about a guy who doesn’t have a girlfriend and loves being around you?
You can follow me on Facebook here and sign up for my weekly newsletter here.
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at firstname.lastname@example.org.