It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
I’m a 33-year-old woman and my boyfriend is 24 years old. We have been together three months so far. He’s a Scorpio and I’m a Capricorn. He wants to have a baby with me. He has two kids from a previous relationship. I don’t have any kids yet. What do I do? — Cautious Cap
Wait, he’s a Scorpio and you’re a Capricorn? Run! Also, it’s probably not a great idea to discuss babies with some guy you’ve only been with three months — a man who already has two kids at the age of 24.
I’m 19 and my boyfriend is 23 and we’ve been friends nearly three years and dating for several months. He works in the mines and I have been traveling a lot for work, so we haven’t lived in the same place. We have made plans to move in together next year and I’m so excited, but the one problem we have is when he comes up for a few days to visit he never any interest in meeting my parents. I have met most of his close family, but when I ask him to meet mine, he says: “Why would I want to? That’s just awkward?” My parents and older brothers are always hounding me about bringing him around and it’s not giving them a good first impression that he refuses to come. I’m not even asking for him to come around for dinner — only to pop in with me on our way past my place. How do I let him know how important it is to me for him to meet my family without being that naggy girlfriend? — Not Naggy
Pay attention to the message your boyfriend is very clearly giving you: he’s a jerk, and he has no interest in being a loving boyfriend to you if he can’t even be bothered to stop by your parents’ house on the way to your place. I mean, if he can’t even commit that most basic act of showing you he cares, DO NOT move in with him. If you do, it won’t end well, I promise you that.
I have been dating this guy for two months. We have excellent chemistry. In fact, it’d be hard for me to date again because of it, not that I’d want to anyway. The problem is, this guy moves at a snail’s pace and I think he’s starting to get comfortable and he doesn’t pay attention to me as much anymore. How can I get him to move more quickly? — Faster Than a Snail
What does moving too slowly at two months even look like? Has he not kissed you yet? Has he not told you his middle name? Do you not know where he lives? Just relax, enjoy getting to know each other, and quit trying to push this into relationship land
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