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It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
Uh, duh. I hope if you haven’t already, you’ll delete the revealing photo from your phone. I’d also suggest losing this guy’s number and explaining to your husband you are uncomfortable remaining friends with him since he has a clear lack of respect of personal boundaries. (For the record, the appropriate response to seeing a photo he should not have seen would be to never speak of it again, NOT to ask you to send more to his personal number).
Maybe he wasn’t the only one to see these cute but not totally nude photos of you that you placed in easy-to-find spots in his truck. Maybe a friend (or two or three) saw them and teased him or made some other inappropriate remarks that bothered him. You probably won’t give him revealing photos again, but, if you do, keep ’em private and out of public view (I mean, a steering wheel, really??).
Start using some damn birth control. Multiple kinds of birth control. Or better yet, move on and leave this guy with all your drama and history in the past where he probably belongs. But, still use birth control. Lots of it.
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