It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss herpes, youthful engagements, and time to MOA.
Maybe, since you are a friend of this man, you should politely suggest he end his engagement since he’s having such obvious trouble committing. And then you should tell him that you’re concerned that he never asked whether you’d been tested for STDs (assuming that’s the case), and if he’s going to cheat on his fiancée, he should at least make sure the women he’s banging have been tested for STDs. And then he’ll probably ask whether YOU have an STD, to which you can say, “Well, I don’t, but I’m not the one you’re currently sleeping with, am I?”
Oh, honey. It’s probably better to get to know a person BEFORE you agree to marry him. Why don’t you go back to just dating, put ideas of engagements on hold, and move out on your own and become independent from your parents before you start talking about marrying someone.
overboard? — Lonely in Alabama
If, after only two months, your relationship is already in the shitter and your boyfriend makes you feel worthless, it’s time to MOA. And, yes, you are going overboard — not by being upset that you have a boyfriend who makes you feel like crap, by insisting you love him and that he’s your best friend. Girl, it’s been two months. I have cheese in my fridge that’s been around longer than that.
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