At the age of 35, he is homeless, has no teeth due to cocaine use, but seems nice. He says he’s been clean over a month and wants to get his life together so I can be with him.
Only problem is, how could I be with a guy who wears dentures at the age of 35, especially if it was due to his own lack of concern for himself? I try very hard to be attractive, and do my utmost to maintain good personal hygiene, but I have a very hard time finding a man who will do the same. This coupled with the fact that he used to be somewhat of a mean, insensitive prick to me because I was a geek makes me feel like his soul is the same but he’s more desperate now. Otherwise, he’s a really nice guy.
I really can’t get over the fact he has no teeth at such a young age because I like to kiss, and I care a lot about the condition of my teeth. I know infection/bacteria of the mouth can be transmitted from person to person and I don’t want to have any teeth problems.
Right now I’m with a guy whom I find unattractive and has bad teeth as well. I don’t like his personality, but he is financially responsible and lives in a decent place.
Should I leave a very unhappy but stable situation to be with a nice, broke former coke head? — Contemplating the Coke Head
I don’t know what’s worse: the fact that you think the missing teeth is the biggest negative of this broke, homeless coke head who has a history of being an “insensitive prick” to you, or that you’re seriously weighing him against an option who sounds equally unattractive and has a “bad personality,” but who has the saving grace of a “decent place.” Honey, it’s time to aim higher.
My advice is to leave both of these guys alone, take a little time for yourself to figure out why you sell yourself so short, and maybe do some more research about the way bacteria is spread. (A person can have great teeth and still give you cooties when you kiss him.).