At the age of 35, he is homeless, has no teeth due to cocaine use, but seems nice. He says he’s been clean over a month and wants to get his life together so I can be with him.
Only problem is, how could I be with a guy who wears dentures at the age of 35, especially if it was due to his own lack of concern for himself? I try very hard to be attractive, and do my utmost to maintain good personal hygiene, but I have a very hard time finding a man who will do the same. This coupled with the fact that he used to be somewhat of a mean, insensitive prick to me because I was a geek makes me feel like his soul is the same but he’s more desperate now. Otherwise, he’s a really nice guy.
I really can’t get over the fact he has no teeth at such a young age because I like to kiss, and I care a lot about the condition of my teeth. I know infection/bacteria of the mouth can be transmitted from person to person and I don’t want to have any teeth problems.
Right now I’m with a guy whom I find unattractive and has bad teeth as well. I don’t like his personality, but he is financially responsible and lives in a decent place.
Should I leave a very unhappy but stable situation to be with a nice, broke former coke head? — Contemplating the Coke Head
I don’t know what’s worse: the fact that you think the missing teeth is the biggest negative of this broke, homeless coke head who has a history of being an “insensitive prick” to you, or that you’re seriously weighing him against an option who sounds equally unattractive and has a “bad personality,” but who has the saving grace of a “decent place.” Honey, it’s time to aim higher.
My advice is to leave both of these guys alone, take a little time for yourself to figure out why you sell yourself so short, and maybe do some more research about the way bacteria is spread. (A person can have great teeth and still give you cooties when you kiss him.).
*If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, send me your letters at [email protected] and be sure to follow me on Twitter and ‘like’ me on Facebook.
Zepp June 1, 2012, 9:07 am
Is this was it comes to post 31?? Man, there really is nobody left.
Amanda June 1, 2012, 9:11 am
Amanda June 1, 2012, 9:23 am
OK I read the letter now, but I’m convinced that it’s fake. Are people really this desperate to be in a relationship that they will date people that they don’t like? This doesn’t make any sense. In the event that this is a real letter though, LW WTF? You claim to be with one guy you don’t like and are contemplating leaving him for a crackhead. What are you doing with your life? Break up with whoever you are currently seeing and take a break from dating. A LONG break. Perhaps get yourself into therapy to find out why you are drawing these undesirable people to you. It’s up to you to make a change.
cporoski June 1, 2012, 9:41 am
I think it is too crazy to be real too.
iseeshiny June 1, 2012, 9:57 am
I sincerely hope you’re right. If it isn’t a fake I really don’t want to know!
mcj2011 June 1, 2012, 11:14 am
Definitely not real!
Should I date the toothless, homeless, coke head or the bad teeth, unattractive asshole? I’m really concerned about getting mouth disease through rotted teeth.
iseeshiny June 1, 2012, 11:39 am
Then we’re all agreed? Yes? We hereby call shenanigans.
Anna June 1, 2012, 12:39 pm
Everyone go get your brooms!
CatsMeow June 1, 2012, 11:18 am
This HAS to be fake. And I never call fake!
6napkinburger June 1, 2012, 2:21 pm
Didn’t we also have a different “help – he has no teeth” letter?
I agree. Fakety-fake fake fake. Because while someone MIGHT consider dating someone in this situation, they wouldn’t write in about the teeth being the main concern. They just wouldn’t. Not while listing no other attributes other than he “seems like a nice guys” (other than the fact that she thinks he’s the same douchebag but desperate.
I bought the other letter, because it was what to DO about the no teeth in a wedding, while acknowledging that it was shallow/personal/whatever. I would even believe it if she was lamenting the fact she was frustrated that she couldn’t find a guy who took care of himself at the basic level like she did and she was sad/frustrated at the world/her lot in life. I get like that when I’m feeling especially self-pitying.
But No. That’s not what this is. Should I date the cokehead with no teeth that I still am harboring a grudge at even though I’m scared he may give me strange teeth diseases and he totally disgusts me because he may or may not be an “nice”-ish guy? I don’t buy it.
Slamy June 1, 2012, 2:07 pm
For real!! I would rather be alone than date either of these guys. Hell, I don’t know if I would even be friends with either of these guys. Is that bitchy? Probably.
BTW, a month clean and sober is nothing. They tell people in the program not to even date until they’ve been clean for at least a year. The pressures of relationships can be enough to cause someone to start using again.
FireStar June 1, 2012, 9:11 am
That’s it – I give up. Bittergaymark is right after all.
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 9:21 am
Literally laughed out loud.
Brad June 1, 2012, 10:49 am
So did I
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 10:56 am
Are you flirting with me? If you are, I’m totally dumping my BF stat. Where are you? I should start driving now.
Brad June 1, 2012, 2:29 pm
Umm I guess I could be if you wanted me to, lol. But I was just agreeing with you and Firestar. Your belief that I was when I wasn’t trying to be flirty it is quite typical to my experiences offline though. Everytime I actively try to flirt with someone it doesn’t go well (either they can’t tell or I’m doing it wrong or something). It certianly didn’t work the other night when I tried to send a teasing/flirty message over my dating site the other night. But I get accused of it all the time when I’m not try to. It’s kind of annoying really. :-/
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 2:48 pm
I was just trying to make a joke sounding like the LW here. I guess my mistake was not including the Amiright since others misinterpreted it as well.
Brad June 1, 2012, 2:51 pm
‘sok. Now I don’t have to rush to get those towels folded when I get home…
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 2:53 pm
I like messy towels too. I put “just west of DC” in my GPS. Be there soon hunny!
Brad June 1, 2012, 2:32 pm
And I live just west of DC for the record.
Oddy June 1, 2012, 2:33 pm
Not sure how agreeing with you would be seen as flirting…times are a changing.
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 2:48 pm
iwannatalktosampson June 1, 2012, 2:50 pm
There is no humor on DW. Especially not on a Friday.
P.S. I’m tailgating for my pedicure later. Which is happening at a place where they serve wine. What has unemployment done to me?
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 2:54 pm
WTF? Tailgating for a pedicure. That’s the most genius thing I’ve ever heard. Way to combine two awesome activities Iwanna! I really need to work on becoming unemployed.
iwannatalktosampson June 1, 2012, 3:05 pm
You do! You can join Addie and I on our daily chats. I mean when else is it acceptable to day drink by yourself other than when you’re unemployed? I mean technically I’ll be getting a pedicure with a friend, but that wouldn’t really stop me either way.
Lili June 1, 2012, 3:33 pm
I want to join in on this day drinking, maybe I can sneak something in a coffee mug to work. I’m so hyper not like anyone would notice…
Vathena June 1, 2012, 11:48 am
He is right. But to be fair, there are probably a lot of men out there with these same self-inflicted issues. I’m guessing men are less likely to write to advice columnists (based on the commentariat here, most readers of advice columns are women, so it follows that more women would write in with problems).
Re: this letter…forehead, meet desk.
Will.i.am June 1, 2012, 11:50 am
BGM is all knowing.
bittergaymark June 1, 2012, 1:45 pm
Wow… This is the BEST string of comments yet… 😉
bittergaymark June 1, 2012, 1:46 pm
See? See?! 😉
JK June 1, 2012, 9:13 am
I didn´t know cocaine made you lose your teeth (I thought that was meth).
Seriously LW? I really don´t see this as a question of either/or. If youpre not happy with your current BF, and you know you´re not going to be happy with this other guy, why the hell would you decide to be with either of them??
I know that it can be tough finding someone worthwhile dating, but that doesn´t mean you have to settle for one of 2 undesirable choices.
Read Wendy´s last paragraph several times, until it sinks in (my 4 year old has a better grasp on bacteria transmission than you do).
sarolabelle June 1, 2012, 10:26 am
I think she has drug confusion.
JK June 1, 2012, 11:28 am
OK, I googled it… apparently cocaine can bring tooth troubles (due to grinding), but also in those that rub the cocaine on their gums.
EscapeHatches June 1, 2012, 1:52 pm
The more you know. *makes hand wavy gesture like the rainbow*
SpaceySteph June 1, 2012, 1:15 pm
The LW did. She must be a genius. 😀
Christy June 1, 2012, 9:18 am
I legitimately thought this was a Dear Miles.
Christy June 1, 2012, 9:20 am
More to the point, I literally don’t see anything appealing about this guy. What? He had a crush on you years ago? He seems nice?
Nadine June 1, 2012, 11:43 am
I know! What has happened in her life in the intervening FIFTEEN YEARS to make her think he is the only man in the world?
Look at your life. Look at your choices.
Vathena June 1, 2012, 11:50 am
You forgot that he says he’s been clean for a full MONTH!
mcj2011 June 1, 2012, 12:02 pm
I totally think she should go for the guy with bad teeth! Just saying!
Emily June 10, 2012, 5:15 pm
Assuming the LW is a real person and the situation is real, I declare her desperate. There are times when we form “relationships” and attachments to avoid deep issues within ourselves. Dating can be a great escape from reality sometimes. I suspect that if we were to go to any random bar tonight in a decent area we could pick two better men at random by having LW spin around a baseball bat 5 times and pointing at two random men in her dizzied haze. I hope LW gets some healing, therapy, and self-esteem for that matter.
The first step to a better dating life is to better you! Work on you, learn more about who you are, your needs, communication, boundaries, and the elements of a healthy relationship. When you do meet a great guy you will be able to appreciate him more, and be a better partner after working on you. I keep being reminded that a lot of dating and relationship issues I have had stem from issues within me, not my partner.
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 9:19 am
“the age of 35, he is homeless, has no teeth due to cocaine use, but seems nice. He says he’s been clean over a month and wants to get his life together so I can be with him.
Only problem is…” I’M CRAZY.
ReginaRey June 1, 2012, 9:21 am
I just re-read the “he’s been clean for over a month” and got really sad. I understand that for an addict, being clean for a month is probably a big deal, but it isn’t something to brag about or be impressed by, on the part of the LW.
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 9:24 am
I can’t even entertain this as being real. 31? Are people really that desperate to be in a relationship? One homeless, toothless addict says he likes you and that’s all she needs?
But yea, even an “ideal” version of an addict whose only clean for a month is the worst idea EVER.
amy June 1, 2012, 9:25 am
It’s good that he has been clean for a month, kudos to him, but she doesn’t know if that’s the truth or not. This is not something she should get into, especially given her problems with her self esteem, which is obvious in this letter.
SweetsAndBeats June 1, 2012, 11:47 am
It’s actually a very bad warning sign that this (probably fictional) guy says that he wants to get clean for her. Not only is that a classic manipulation, but also helps to cast addicts who are new to the program but are very dedicated to it in a negative light.
ReginaRey June 1, 2012, 9:20 am
I just….no. This can’t be real. If this is real, then the world is in even deeper shit than I realized, and I just don’t want to deal with that this morning.
I know I suggest therapy a lot, but I mean it more now than I’ve probably ever meant it before. If this is real, LW, then you REALLY need to get some counseling. This isn’t healthy. The horrifyingly low standards, the huge lack of self-respect, the seeming desperate for male attention. I don’t mean to offend, but it’s truly not normal to be so hard-up for ANY romantic connection that you’ll actually consider settling for a toothless, homeless, former cocaine addict who used to treat you like shit. Not normal AT ALL.
I suspect you may have had a difficult life at times. Maybe you had a hard time as a child or adolescent. Maybe no one served as a role model in your life. Maybe no one taught you what self-worth is, or showed you what a healthy relationship is. Well, you’re 32 now and whatever happened…you’re still suffering from it, and it’s taking a BIG toll on your life presently. But at 32, no matter who may have screwed you up in the past, you’re too old now to make anyone else take the responsibility. It’s all on you to set the bar for yourself, to find your self-worth, and to make discoveries about who you are and why. I highly suggest you start researching therapists, and stop Facebook messaging toothless addicts…that’ll be a big step in the right direction.
ReginaRey June 1, 2012, 9:24 am
And wait, since when do homeless people have access to Facebook? This has to be fake. Please, lord.
Christy June 1, 2012, 9:35 am
Actually there’s research done into homeless people’s access to the internet. Basically, they don’t have access to the internet like people with homes, but they still can access it. For example, at a public library. Free public internet access ftw!
(This message has been brought to you by library students everywhere.)
Tax Geek June 1, 2012, 9:40 am
And many homeless have cell phones, and possibly smart phones.
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 10:05 am
I know there are cell phones that work only to call 911 that are free, but how could a homeless person have a smartphone that actually has internet? Mine costs about $100 a month.
Tax Geek June 1, 2012, 10:25 am
Many are on diability and get checks from the government as a result. Instead of spending on a cheap apt they go homeless or stay with friends/family and spend money on other stuff.
SpaceySteph June 1, 2012, 1:48 pm
Yeah not every homeless person is the stereotypical bum on the corner. There are many homeless people who have some amount of income or government assistance where they might be able to afford $100 a month on a cell phone but not $500 a month rent. And maybe you wouldn’t spend that $100 on a fancy cell phone to save money until you could afford a home, but not everyone is smart with their money or has the same priorities.
theattack June 2, 2012, 11:33 am
My homeless clients who have phones had them before they lost their homes. It’s not like they’re sleeping under the bridge and then marching over to Verizon and signing a cell phone contract. It’s a good thing for the homeless to have phones, because they then have much wider access to social services to help them, and those services aren’t always within walking distance. It’s always been MUCH harder on my clients who don’t have cell phones, because they can’t easily make calls that would help them get housing and employment.
mBookish June 4, 2012, 6:36 pm
I have an old, old e-friend as a facebook friend. He’s been homeless for years and somehow facebooks regularly. He once tried to talk me into joining him like some Kerouac ripoff. I guess he”chooses” to live like that or something?
Fabelle June 1, 2012, 9:21 am
Isn’t tooth loss more of a “meth” thing? (Sorry, that was my first thought.)
My second thought is… W T F. LW, maybe you need to move? I don’t understand why it’s “very hard” to find a man who takes care of basic hygiene & health needs. Seriously, there are more people out there than the two toothless dudes currently in your life.
amy June 1, 2012, 9:21 am
I agree with Wendy.
Also, don’t get together with someone who says “this is what my life is, but I want to change for YOU because you can be good for me to get my life back on track”. It doesn’t work that way. I’ve been there, done that with someone who was a prescription drug user that said “I want a better life, you can be a good influence and help me”. Trust me, that does not happen.
No, just… no.
And leave the current situation you are in lol.
iseeshiny June 1, 2012, 12:51 pm
Yes, this! Fakeness of the letter aside (it is! completely!), that whole “be a good influence on me” thing is bullshit. I understand changing a destructive lifestyle means cutting out the toxic relationships and surrounding yourself with healthy, supportive people, but putting all that pressure to improve you on your SO is unfair, unhealthy, and doomed to failure.
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 9:22 am
Wendy, do you really think this is real? Are you running low on letters coming in? If so, I could start meddling in people’s relationship and then ask them to write in about their troubles.
Fabelle June 1, 2012, 9:30 am
Yeah, I’m actually having a hard time believing this is real. It reads as if it’s crafted to be the “perfect” nightmare LW.
katie June 1, 2012, 9:23 am
ok, first, how does this work?
“Now I’m 32 years old and I noticed him on a family member’s Facebook page, so I sent him a message…..He says he’s been clean over a month and wants to get his life together so I can be with him.”
you literally sent him a message and over facebook he said he wants to get his life together so he can be with you? i dont even know what to do with that.
LW, you need help. i cant provide it and i dont think anyone here can. but you freaking need it.
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 9:28 am
Or maybe just accept defeat, meet up with him in the cardboard box and take all the crack your little hearts desire. This, my friends, is kismet.
katie June 1, 2012, 9:34 am
you bring up a good point. how does he have access to facebook while in his cardboard box?
CatsMeow June 1, 2012, 11:23 am
Well, homeless doesn’t always have to mean “on the streets.” He could be technically homeless but couch-surfing or something.
katie June 1, 2012, 11:54 am
theattack June 2, 2012, 11:35 am
Public libraries, employment centers, a friend’s house (almost all homeless people have friends that they stay occasionally if not all the time), work computers, etc.
anonymous June 1, 2012, 9:28 am
This letter is so awful, I can’t even believe it. LW, what would you say if your best friend asked you these questions? Wouldn’t you wonder why she’s considering these to be the only available options? Sure, these may be doors “A” and “B”, but there’s always door “C” : be single for a while, figure out why you’re so down on yourself that you consider these to be your only options. I mean, really, I’d much rather be single than put up with either of those losers. Plus, being single lets the better choices know that you’re available.
How would you feel if your “soulmate” passed you over because he saw you with guys like this? Because not only will he see you as “taken,” he’ll also think that you — who know yourself best — think you’re only worthy of this type of companion…
Amybelle June 1, 2012, 9:28 am
“Should I leave a very unhappy but stable situation” Yes
“…to be with a nice, broke former coke head? ” No
bethany June 1, 2012, 9:31 am
Wendy’s faking us out, right??
Please let this be fake.
bethany June 1, 2012, 9:36 am
You guys- this cannot be a real letter…. I mean seriously. I can’t even begin to even *think* about what to say to this LW because I keep thinking FAKEFAKEFAKE.
Maybe Wendy is trying to teach us all a lesson by showing us how desperate some people are to be in a relationship….???
Please let that be the case.
JK June 1, 2012, 9:39 am
I´m thinking maybe BGM wrote a letter like he was threatening to the other day (granted, he said it would be an update to another letter, but maybe he thought that would be too obvious?) But, I do know people that would be all too capable of asking something like this, so you never know…
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 9:43 am
It’s definitely BGM. The fact that he hasn’t come on here yet to slam all women is telling – he wrote this letter and is sitting home laughing his ass off at us. BGM, we are on to you!
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 9:45 am
If that’s true, we should’ve given heartfelt advice about how great they will be and about giving people chances.
dabbler June 1, 2012, 9:53 am
My first thought was for the love of god this has GOT to be a troll. It just can’t be real. Then I thought of an aquaintence I knew who used to basically be a truck stop hooker. So maybe being with an unattractive guy, inside and out, but has stability, a “decent place” and is willing to take care of her could be preferable, but still miserable? So then a “nice” guy shows interest so that’s now intriguing?
I’m not really even sure what my point is. I still can’t get past the face that the missing teeth are the only thing that’s making her think twice, for fuckssake.
dabbler June 1, 2012, 10:00 am
ReginaRey June 1, 2012, 10:36 am
I basically stopped comprehending what you were saying after “truck stop hooker.”
dabbler June 1, 2012, 10:49 am
Yeah, that was kind of an odd situation. Friend of a friend kinda thing, that I was told a bit of her past after the fact.
DMR June 1, 2012, 9:43 am
Okay, could be a fake. If not a fake, here’s the deal.
First, dump your current partner.
Second, help out Mr Coke if you want to, but make it clear that there’s no relationship involved, now or never. he’s clinging to you like a drowning man climbing out of the sea. So help him out. It’s okay to be nice to him and help out an old friend without handing over your entire future and selling yourself into poverty. To reiterate, never have sex with him. Not even once, for old time’s sake. And at some point, he will ask.
Kristina June 1, 2012, 9:43 am
I kept thinking this can’t be real, except I have been in a similar situation (drug addict, technically homeless, etc), and I know my mind was warped about it at the time. But in my defense, I was a lot younger so it makes sense I didn’t know better. But at 32, you really, really should know better. And since you don’t, that’s just sad. And having dated a few addicts before, if someone says they’ve been clean for a month, I don’t buy it. If this is real, then go to therapy and work on yourself for a long, long time.
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 9:44 am
I’m so bummed. When I first saw that hobo picture, I thought this was going to be an update from the LW with the toothless groom. …. I want to hear from her! Though, I think she was not very appreciative of everyone’s advice.
JK June 1, 2012, 9:47 am
Maybe she´s one of the ones that wrote comments complaining about what bitches we all are.
I´m glad Wendy used this photo again,though, it makes me smile. 🙂
katie June 1, 2012, 9:48 am
yea i wonder what she ended up doing…
Budj June 1, 2012, 10:05 am
TaraMonster June 1, 2012, 10:29 am
I forgot about that one!! Now I REALLY want to know what happened. Didn’t she show up in the comments with her head exploding from rage?
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 10:38 am
She did. She was one pissed off little girl. I spent a good deal of time trying to figure out who she was, because she said she was a frequent reader and commenter. But no luck.
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 10:41 am
Maybe if we do another deleted thread, I will confess. I mean she will.
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 10:47 am
You know what? I even considered *you* as the LW because I looked back and realized you hadn’t commented on that thread. And about that time you had just revealed that you had a SO, but I hadn’t known that, so I thought to myself, “if lbh didn’t admit to having a SO until now, maybe she’s actually engaged to him, but, you know, just didn’t admit that yet, and *this* LW is lbh!” But knowing you like i do know (intimately and deeply, of course), there’s no way it could be. But do you like my thorough detective work?
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 10:53 am
I’ve looked to see who didn’t comment before too. Remember the anonymous story, written by a Nancy? I thought that was you for a while, but then you commented.
iwannatalktosampson June 1, 2012, 10:55 am
Yeah but can’t you totally see AP commenting on a story she wrote?
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 10:58 am
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 11:00 am
I can totally see AP commenting on her own story, to either sing it’s praise or whip of controversy anonymously because she’s such a chicken shit.
I don’t remember the Nancy story. I have a friend named Nancy. Which is funny because she’s my age and not 65 like you might expect a Nancy to be.
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 11:01 am
I would leave my life for Nancy Botwin.
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 11:14 am
*gasp* me too. i’d take my life, though, if it were Nancy Grace.
TaraMonster June 1, 2012, 10:45 am
You have peaked my interest, AP! Now I want to go ferreting through old posts detective style. But I have a deadline today… if I miss it I’m gonna blame you! Ok. I won’t really. I just want an excuse to NOT have to write test prep questions for ninth grade social studies exams because it’s boring me to death.
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 10:48 am
let’s all spend the day trying to crack LWs’ identities. (god i have so much time on my hands these days!)
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 10:49 am
This is a really good idea for an ongoing post. Lets make new forums under the sign off name of the LWs and everyone can contribute their ideas.
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 10:53 am
GASP – I MAY HAVE AN AWESOME IN-HOUSE OPPORTUNITY to start IMMEDIATELY in …. CHARLOTTE, NC. DO I TAKE IT?
I DON’T KNOW WHY I AM TYPING IN ALL CAPS. BUT IT’S *THAT* EXCITING. WHAT TO DO WHAT TO DO WHAT TO DO.
IS THERE BIKRAM IN CHARLOTTE? I CAN’T LEAVE CHICAGO IN THE SUMMER TIME. THAT’S LIKE KILLING A CHILD OR SOMETHING EQUALLY HORRIFYING.
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 10:54 am
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 10:56 am
I MEAN, WHAT’S IT LIKE DOWN THERE? IS EVERYONE REPUBLICAN? I AM AFRAID OF THE SOUTH. NO OFFENSE TO SOUTHERNERS IT’S JUST I HAVE NEVER BEEN AND I’VE SEEN LOTS OF MOVIES.
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 11:01 am
Just get a straw hat. Those are big down there. Down where? Down theeeere.
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 11:05 am
I’m actually wearing a straw hat right now. For real. I had been Skyping with a friend this am and she saw it on a shelf so I put it on… and i haven’t taken it off. I’m wearing a straw hat, a tee shirt, and underwear. Sitting on the couch, drinking coffee. With freaking Hoda and Kathy Lee on in the background. This has basically been my life for the last 2 months.
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 11:06 am
One thing that worries me about this job is that i’ll have to put pants on.
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 11:08 am
I’ve never been so jealous of anyone in my whole life.
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 11:11 am
Hey, lbh, “if i was your boyfriend i’d never let you go.” … (I turned off the Today Show and turned on Bieber. Still jealous?)
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 11:23 am
Are you drinking yet? That would clinch it for me.
CatsMeow June 1, 2012, 11:35 am
THIS IS AWESOME.
GatorGirl June 1, 2012, 11:39 am
Don’t be afraid of Charlotte. It’s not really the south in my opinion. Due to the high number of transplants it’s actually a really liberal place. Charlotte is one of the cities which the majority voted against Amendment One. There is also an awesome downtown with lots of great bars/restaurants and tons to do.
The only thing I would maybe be afraid of is the rural towns surrounding Charlotte. But seriously my fiance and I love Charlotte and plan on moving there once he’s done school. FWIW he spent a week in Chicago this summer and loved it and also loves Charlotte.
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 11:59 am
The wine and the hiking are major PLUSES. Plus, I want to meet a guy who wears seersuckers.
I have to decide by next Wednesday, like in 5 days.
GatorGirl June 1, 2012, 12:07 pm
There are also a ton of breweries in Asheville. Highland is the biggest name right now but Sierra Nevada is opening a brewery there next year I beleive. Also minor league baseball in NC is awesome.
theattack June 2, 2012, 11:39 am
The South isn’t scary at all, and North Carolina seems pretty awesome. I say move anywhere that gets you closer to the Smoky and Blue Ridge Mountains, because they’re pretty much amazing.
SiSisodaPop June 1, 2012, 3:12 pm
Only offering my opinion cause you didn’t seem to direct the question at any certain person………I say GO FOR IT! Broaden your horizons. See what people in other places are really like. You just might be surprised. And if you don’t like it there, well, I’m sure you’ll at least learn a few new things, and maybe make a few new friends – maybe even become friends with someone you never thought you would like to be friends with…..and not everyone wears cowboy boots, straw hats, and chews on hay. You can always go back to Chicago if you hate it too much.
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 10:55 am
No, don’t take it. There will be no time for DWing.
HOLY CRAP THOUGH. THAT’S SCARY! I SAY GO FOR IT, YOLO (learned this from my little brother yesterday, means you only live once). So, YOLO.
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 10:57 am
yolo. i love it. i tried to get “hoyo” started but no one followed my lead. (that’s short for “hot yoga” in AP language.)
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 10:59 am
Nice. I also met his girlfriend (he’s in 7th grade). She was a HOTTIE. Wearing cutoff shorts that look like underwear, flat ironed hair. I highfived him. Then he turned red. So cute.
iwannatalktosampson June 1, 2012, 10:57 am
TAKE IT! Maybe you can get a short term Denver assignment!
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 11:03 am
Isn’t it fun to hijack the comment sections with tangents? I miss those days.
If I take the job in Charlotte, I’m going to wear cowboy boots to work. It’ll be like Halloween every day for me!
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 11:05 am
Sweet. I’m jealous now. Remember to say Howdy Partna and place a piece of wheat in your mouth like those cool guys with toothpicks do.
call-me-hobo June 1, 2012, 11:16 am
ADDIE!!! Come to NC- you could live by the beach (And closer to me and RR!!)
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 11:19 am
Would I develop that cute southern little accent that both you and RR have?
call-me-hobo June 1, 2012, 11:25 am
If you come down here- I PROMISE to take you drinking in Nashville at all the little touristy honky-tonks, and I can also promise you an accent. BOOM. Reserve your tickets.
call-me-hobo June 1, 2012, 11:37 am
If you move to Charlotte, you are only 2 hours away from the awesome Biltmore vineyard in Asheville.
THINK OF THE WINE, ADDIE.
jlyfsh June 1, 2012, 11:39 am
call-me-hobo the wineries in nc are great aren’t they? and you can go to boone and hike grandfather mountain!
ReginaRey June 1, 2012, 12:07 pm
I do not have a southern accent!!!! Northern Virginia doesn’t count as the south, I swear! But if you moved to Charlotte, I’d definitely come visit you…if that sways you any.
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 12:13 pm
You guys, Regina has a lovely little southern accent, it’s adorable.
GatorGirl June 1, 2012, 12:17 pm
@ReginaRay Virginia is definitely in the South! It is below the Mason-Dixon line and therefore in the South!
ReginaRey June 1, 2012, 12:32 pm
Virginia is definitely the south, I won’t argue. But Northern Virginia is basically a suburb of DC…where there are no southern accents, AP! I swear we all have non-regional-sounding accents here…but maybe I’m too used to hearing it…
rachel June 1, 2012, 1:29 pm
AP! You should totally take the job. One of my best friends lives in Asheville, which is not super close to Charlotte, but close enough, and he really likes it there.
And I’m moving to freaking Oklahoma! Like, all of the politicians are completely insane Oklahoma! We can commiserate about crazy local politics.
katie June 1, 2012, 1:33 pm
rachel, did you see the link on facebook today about the doctor in oklahoma who wouldnt give emergency contraception to a rape victim who came in? she had to go to another hospital… sad.
rachel June 1, 2012, 1:36 pm
No..I haven’t seen that yet. *sigh* Funny thing is, the good friend who lives in NC is from OK originally, and he’s planning on laughing at me as I get frustrated with all of the crazy there.
katie June 1, 2012, 1:39 pm
one million pissed of women posted it this morning, if you wanna go find it.
yea, it sounds like its pretty crazy there. BUT maybe if your there you can help to vote better people into office!! right…? lol come on superwoman save the world.
iwannatalktosampson June 1, 2012, 11:22 am
I love southern accents. I say y’all all the time. Just because it’s awesome. And so is fried chicken. And watermelon. I was born to live in the south.
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 12:16 pm
After everyone convincing AP to move, I think I want to also. Accents, fried chicken, watermelon, straw hats. What more could a girl want?
Grilledcheesecalliope June 1, 2012, 12:20 pm
Me too, I made chicken and pancakes (couldn’t find the waffle maker) for dinner this week and drank white wine spritzers.
PS we need another denver meet up
iwannatalktosampson June 1, 2012, 12:54 pm
GCC! We totally do since we missed each other on the last ones. In case we didn’t give a recap I showed up in work clothes that no longer fit because I got fat during bar prep. Then I drank two margaritas at lunch, which seemed kind of weird. And finally, I got to meet Katie and Rachel who are just lovely.
katie June 1, 2012, 1:24 pm
for the record, sampson is nowhere NEAR fat.
i still think about the way they presented their nachos whenever i want nachos.. that was genuis..
iwannatalktosampson June 1, 2012, 1:33 pm
Oh man I forgot about that. That place is genius! And they make their margaritas homemade so none of that nasty mix. Are you missing Colorado yet? Are you planning on any trips back? Maybe we could plan a meet-up for that date!
katie June 1, 2012, 1:37 pm
missing it… yes and no. i used to live here in chicago, so im enjoying being here a lot right now. and really just adjusting to everything still. jake just got here like 2 weeks ago, so it was like moving in again with all his crap. my house is STILL not clean like i want it. yikes..
no trips planned as of yet. my mom is actually coming out here for the fourth of july… and then later in the fall me and jake have plans to go see his family… so nothing concrete. but, when i do make some plans i will let you all know and we can try to all get together! that would be awesome.
rachel June 1, 2012, 1:39 pm
Yes, Katie, when are you coming back to CO? I would love to meet with you all at least once more before I leave.
Guy Friday June 1, 2012, 11:10 am
Would they give you time to take the bar, or does reciprocity attach?
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 11:12 am
r e c i p r o c i t y, b a b y
otherwise, i’d say F that. i’m licensed in THREE states and because of my bad timing, i had to take the bar in EACH OF THE THREE STATES. never again.
Guy Friday June 1, 2012, 11:21 am
Nice. Yeah, I’m staying in Wisconsin until reciprocity attaches in Illinois in a couple of years. Unfortunately, the whole “diploma privilege” thing kind of screws with reciprocity in many states.
*HmC* June 1, 2012, 1:40 pm
“Unfortunately, the whole “diploma privilege” thing kind of screws with reciprocity in many states.”
Well the upside to that is that you DON’T HAVE TO TAKE THE BAR so I don’t feel sorry for you. You deserve for other states to screw you!
Ok I’m 100% kidding and 100% jealous! 🙂
bethany June 1, 2012, 11:31 am
Yes there is! 1800 Camden Road! Just looked it up.
A girl I went to HS with is a news anchor there.
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 12:09 pm
I don’t see a studio in Charlotte NC, not on the Birkam site. Where did you find that Camden Rd one?
bethany June 1, 2012, 1:11 pm
I’m not sure if it’s legit or not though… They have “Silent Birkam”– Not sure how you can do Bikram w/o the dialog??
GatorGirl June 1, 2012, 11:32 am
Charlotte is an awesome place. Lots of transplants from all over the county with all the wonderfulness of the south. Go to Charlotte.
jlyfsh June 1, 2012, 11:36 am
If you move to Charlotte you will only be 3 hours away from me and my beaches and my adorable dogs. I think you should take it. Charlotte is a great town. I’ve only heard really great things from people who live there. And believe it or not there are some awesome awesome wineries in NC that I’m sure having some awesome red wine 😉
call-me-hobo June 1, 2012, 11:40 am
Plus, NC is kind of like- Southern-lite. It’s not so southern that you’ll see a lot of the crazy stereotypes, but southern enough that all the tea you order is automatically sweet!
jlyfsh June 1, 2012, 11:44 am
i agree, it definitely is southern lite. you can visit the crazy stereotypical southern people in the small towns near you while being in the city with your sweet tea!
ColorsOfTheWind June 1, 2012, 1:09 pm
As a northerner who lives near Charlotte I have to say it is definitely not marrying-your-cousin south but cute and quaint south. It’s such a great city. You should definitely come AP!
theattack June 2, 2012, 11:44 am
Maybe I’m sensitive about it, but I take issue with “marrying-your-cousin South.” That’s kind of offensive, Colors. That’s not what the South is like at all, despite how much other people might joke about it.
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 12:00 pm
we could have a beachy meetup!
call-me-hobo June 1, 2012, 12:39 pm
A beachy meetup with A LOT of local wine.
katie June 1, 2012, 11:37 am
north carolina is really nice! i have friends that live in raleigh, and then my boyfriends brother and some other friends live in south carolina… so i get to go there pretty frequently!
bittergaymark June 1, 2012, 1:22 pm
Just don’t go lesbian or they will burn you at the stake….
katie June 1, 2012, 1:30 pm
i was actually so happy when my boyfriends new SIL shared that picture that got around facebook after that north carolina amendment crap- the someEcard “north carolina, where you can marry your cousin, just not your gay cousin”. i was like, thank GOD shes not a crazy southerner!!! she grew up there. so thankfully its not everybody. but your very right, unfortunatly…
6napkinburger June 1, 2012, 2:31 pm
When it comes to accepting, remember why you left your old job and whether this will fulfill the needs in your life. Starting again can be wonderful or it can be isolating. If the point of quitting the old job was just to stop doing heinous hours, that’s one thing. But if you quit to allow yourself to have a fulfilling life — time with friends, time to do yoga, time to experience chicago, time to meet someone and raise a family — all of those things, mentally picture yourself doing them in chicago and in charlotte (after you visit). Are they equal in your mind? do you really secretly want to do one and not the other but you feel like you’re trapped or pressured because of money? Are you too scared that you won’t get another offer?
Don’t just take the job because it’s a job. you had a job and you left it to be happy. Really consider your potential for happiness and to achieve the goals that you left your other job for. Don’t let fear control — fear of not finding another job or fear of moving. Your gut will tell you which is right for you.
(I speak as someone who still has the job you had. And I took two bars too, and separately 🙂 )
katie June 1, 2012, 1:28 pm
so i just went back and re-read some of that toothless groomsman letter… dang. that was a good one. good as in mildly crazy and inciting a ton of debate.
now i really want to know what happened!
iwannatalktosampson June 1, 2012, 1:34 pm
Ah how did you find it? I was thinking about re-reading it on this lazy Friday.
katie June 1, 2012, 3:56 pm
i just googled dear wendy toothless groomsman
you can find like any letter as long as you can remember something about what the title was. thats how i always find old letters. dear wendy + keywords i remember
Brad June 1, 2012, 9:45 am
Is this letter serious … as in not fake??? Please tell me this isn’t serious… Mark!
bittergaymark June 1, 2012, 1:00 pm
I think it’s gotta fake… It’s just wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too absurd.
Brad June 1, 2012, 2:34 pm
I certainly hope it is as the alternative is just depressing. Wish these LWs included pictures of themselves with the letters, lol. That might sound mean but I just can’t help but wonder.
DMR June 1, 2012, 9:50 am
Let’s treat it as serious, folks, not a fake. It’s not obviously fake, other than the fact that the two men in the story are remarkable for the fact that they are such poor candidates as boyfriends.
My take is that the LW is seeking something in Mr Coke Head that she’s not getting with her current partner. He reminds her of times gone by when she was younger, single and attractive; things that might have been. Plus, he’s a really nice guy. And he needs rescuing. Just like the LW!!! So he is pressing a lot of emotional buttons for her, deep down.
The core problem clearly is her unhappiness with her current relationship that’s driving all this.
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 10:07 am
Oh crap. I hate to agree that this is possible.
Lindsay June 1, 2012, 9:54 am
No to both men. Find one you like who has teeth and no addictions. Not sure where you live that you can’t find any men with good hygiene.
Leroy June 1, 2012, 12:10 pm
Tamaqua Pennsylvania we’re thinking of you.
rachel June 1, 2012, 1:23 pm
I can think of a few towns in that area…
Leroy June 1, 2012, 3:35 pm
but none of them have as many werewolves as Tamaqua.
Budj June 1, 2012, 10:05 am
So I just need to wait till I’m in my 30’s…keep my teeth…and hold my job and I will be beating the women off me. Good to know.
Addie Pray June 1, 2012, 10:08 am
Don’t worry, boyfriend, I’ll beat the women off you for you.
Speaking of “boyfriend,” doesn’t the new Justin Bieber song, “If I was your boyfriend…” bug the shit out of everyone? If I “were,” not “was,” Justin, if I “were” your boyfriend! Don’t get me wrong, I’m still going to listen to it a lot and be really ashamed about that.
Brad June 1, 2012, 10:12 am
“I’ll beat the women off you for you.” You know there’s more than 1 way to read this Addie and some interpretations are naughty, lol!
And If I never heard/read Justin Booger’s music/name ever again it would be too soon.
dabbler June 1, 2012, 10:18 am
Haha I’m pretty sure I’ve only ever heard a Justin bieber song once. I had to YouTube to see what all the fuss was about, and that was more than enough for me…
dabbler June 1, 2012, 10:21 am
Also why do I suddenly have a picture of a cat as an avatar? I think that’s Bethany’s. Or is it just a quirk on my phone? I’m confused.
bethany June 1, 2012, 11:34 am
He’s just trying to be cool, like me 🙂
Slamy June 1, 2012, 2:22 pm
I actually like the song. I can’t help it. 🙁
Budj June 1, 2012, 4:48 pm
I really enjoy call me maybe…sorry…shoot me if you must…I can’t help it.
Slamy June 1, 2012, 6:15 pm
Me too. That one is on my running playlist. You know, for when I’m running. IT’S SO GOOD TO RUN TO.
Jessibel5 June 1, 2012, 10:15 am
Jay June 1, 2012, 10:37 am
This letter is a joke. :)))))))))
ele4phant June 1, 2012, 10:41 am
Do you even like him, non-withstanding of all the MAJOR red flags? Or the guy you’re with now. It sure doesn’t sound like it. Just because someone likes you, and is “nice”, doesn’t mean you’re obligated to give it a go.
Leroy June 1, 2012, 10:54 am
In the country of toothless men the bucktooth man is king!
I have no doubt that this letter is sincere. The LW is a girl who likes a good set of chompers. There’s nothing wrong with that.
My guess is that she’s living somewhere where there aren’t a lot options beyond toothless meth heads and jerks who can get by on the fact that they have a house.
Budj June 1, 2012, 11:27 am
I own a house, wanna *%#@?
iwannatalktosampson June 1, 2012, 12:51 pm
No….but I know a few DW girls that would love to get all up in your junk.
Budj, meet AP. Also meet LBH. And while we’re at it meet RR. Anyone else I’m missing?
bittergaymark June 1, 2012, 1:16 pm
Uh, exactly where is this house, Budj?
Budj June 1, 2012, 1:19 pm
looool. I wish I owned a house 🙁 We could just call it “Fuck City”
buttoned June 1, 2012, 10:05 am
Y’all, I think we’ve just been Punk’d. Or Wendy’d. (DW’d?)
LW, there are many men in the world who have a full set of teeth. Not sure if you live adjacent to a back alley that you stroll through to go scouting for men, but you should look elsewhere..
landygirl June 1, 2012, 11:16 am
LW, run, don’t walk, to the toothless, homeless man. Since he has no teeth there is a better chance that his breath won’t be as bad as your current beau. Sure he was mean to you, but that’s because he totally had a huge crush on you and when boys like girls, they’re mean to them. I think you’re soulmates who are destined to be together.
You should consider asking your current beau if the THM (Toothless Homeless Man) can move in with you two. He is homeless after all. I’m sure BBM (Bad Breathed Man) and THM would get along swimmingly since they have so much in common. This way you can have your cake and eat it too. It’s a scathingly brilliant idea.
TaraMonster June 1, 2012, 10:40 am
I’m not sure if I buy this letter (I mean c’mon!), but there are a lot of lonely people out there who don’t realize they sound bonkers when they write stuff like this. I actually thought the tone of this letter sounded very similar to a friend of mine who is OBSESSED with dental hygiene. She also has a (mild, and manageable through medication) mental illness that causes her to miss the fine points in situations… like that a toothless, maybe-former drug addict shouldn’t be considered an eligible romantic partner. I’m just sayin’- it could be a real letter. Maybe.
bittergaymark June 1, 2012, 11:40 am
Wow, I don’t even dare comment on this letter…
Yeah. Nothing to say here, people. Nothing to say here…
EDIT: Okay, I lied. Homeless? Broke? Toothless? Former Cokehead?
Almost sounds like too much of a good thing to be true…
JK June 1, 2012, 11:43 am
C´mon Mark, admit this was you. 🙂 (Please? I really don´t want to think this was real)
oldie June 1, 2012, 11:47 am
Yeah, clearly a spoof. Either Wendy is spoofing everyone, the LW is spoofing her, or the great toothless one is playing a major facebook prank on LW. In any case, this isn’t real. It can’t be.
bittergaymark June 1, 2012, 12:47 pm
Nope. Wasn’t me. If I did a fake letter it’d be one cleverly designed to expose double-standards and, more importantly, would never be this obvious….
rachel June 1, 2012, 1:33 pm
Damn, I was hoping it was you too!
Nadine June 1, 2012, 11:48 am
Guys, we know Wendy was just dying to use the toothless man photo. I’m glad too.
Amybelle June 1, 2012, 11:56 am
I wish the toothless man photo illustrated every letter.
FancyPants June 1, 2012, 12:07 pm
I was just coming on here to say that I think it’s telling about the world we live in where one of Wendy’s stock images is a toothless man, haha. Great minds or something.
june June 1, 2012, 12:56 pm
…aaaand that it’s been used multiple times to represent multiple letters. Sexiness.
Trixy Minx June 1, 2012, 12:21 pm
One time i was riding the bus and there was this really hot guy that was cracked out of his mind. I almost wanted to make out with, he was greek god hot, but i didn’t cause he was high and no matter how long its been with having a bf my standards will never go low enough to date someone who actively does drugs.
Fabelle June 1, 2012, 12:58 pm
Could’ve made out with him, though 😉
Trixy Minx June 1, 2012, 2:28 pm
He was talking to himself..
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 2:50 pm
I’ve always liked a chatty fellow…
Trixy Minx June 1, 2012, 4:36 pm
Only if they are hot and willing to be gagged. 😉
Brad June 1, 2012, 2:47 pm
No! It’s this exact kind of behavior that rewards those kinds of guys. You want men as a whole to start treating women better then stop sleeping/making out with guys just because they’re hott. Same way guys need to stop sleeping with bitches/drama queens just because they’re hott.
Budj June 1, 2012, 2:51 pm
But my penis told me to do it!
Brad June 1, 2012, 2:56 pm
Well tell him no! Trust me it get’s easier. (Most of the time I think I’m too damn good at it…but that’s another story).
Trixy Minx June 1, 2012, 4:35 pm
I was really joking about the making out part. The guy was beyond gorgeous, I should also add very clean cut, but it was really sad to see someone talking to themselves on the bus with fresh track marks.
MsMisery June 1, 2012, 12:33 pm
After reading this and the last post, I’m glad I have been out of the dating world for three+ years (honestly lost count at this point). Pre-pre-nups and toothless hobos are our options!! I’ll just stay home with my Law & Order and my cat.
Anna June 1, 2012, 12:45 pm
I get the feeling that this letter is fake too, but sadly it may not be. I know someone who is that desperate for male attention that she has dated some major losers. Mostly raging alcoholics, including one who constantly badgered her to get on the back of his motorcycle when he was wasted. He ended up dying in a motorcycle accident, surprise surprise. Her most recent ex was unemployed and spent all day, every day drinking beer…roughly a 24-pack a day. So yeah, it could happen.
seven7three June 1, 2012, 12:57 pm
All of the other…strangeness…of this letter aside, I’ll address ONE issue:
My grandmother has had dentures since the age of 30. A combination of infections when her adult teeth were coming in and growing up during the depression (lack of dental care), led her to have them all removed. She had been married to my Poppa for more than 50 years (he passed away last June) and he never got any “bacteria” from her wearing dentures. He died with all of his own teeth.
You can get bacterial, fungal and viral infections from any mouth, with or sans real teeth. Thrush, herpes, etc.
theattack June 2, 2012, 11:48 am
Good points! And some people just have horrible teeth naturally. My grandmother had some strange tooth condition where they just crumbled away when she was a young teenager. And I have some weird tooth problems too that I’m constantly fighting off and having surgery over, despite my impeccable oral hygiene. I’m sure I’ll end up with dentures at a young age. Oh, and neither one of us do drugs.
*HmC* June 1, 2012, 1:00 pm
Sue Jones June 1, 2012, 1:13 pm
Clean for a month? That’s nothing! Ew! This is a joke, right?
Caris June 1, 2012, 1:26 pm
Is this letter for real? O.o
I got a novel idea for you LW : Break up with your current bf and stop talking to Mr ex coke head who has no teeth and used to treat you like crap. I think it’s time for you to be alone for a while.
lets_be_honest June 1, 2012, 12:33 pm
AKchic June 1, 2012, 1:39 pm
Fucking idiot. That’s all I can think about when I think of the LW right now.
I may actually post a response that is a little more kind, later. Or, I might not. Right now, I’m still trying to decide whether or not this letter is fake.
Sunshine Brite June 1, 2012, 1:54 pm
Wow, what? I mean… what? I’ve worked with some homeless people and they’re wonderful, caring, people… but that’s not EVER what I would consider in a relationship. Higher standards. Especially since there’s a weird obsession with teeth that’s blocking that insight.
If that’s not enough, please recognize that he’s not actually adhering to any addiction program I’m familiar with. No misplacing a void or the flood of emotions with a new relationship for at least a year of sobriety.
Enough on that one, 2nd dude now, YOU DON’T EVEN LIKE HIM. If that’s not enough, I’m done.
And I also hope this is ridiculously fake along with most everyone else.
katie June 1, 2012, 1:59 pm
yea actually can we talk about the weird teeth obsession? because thats weird too…
Budj June 1, 2012, 2:01 pm
Maybe it’s just coinci”dental”…sorry…couldn’t help myself.
katie June 1, 2012, 2:05 pm
bittergaymark June 1, 2012, 2:08 pm
I don’t believe in coincidences, Budj. Stop being so silly. It’s obviously just acci”dental.”
Brad June 1, 2012, 2:49 pm
lol lame jokes ftw. I make these sorts all the time. The eye rolls and groans make it worth it!!
Taylor June 1, 2012, 2:55 pm
Puns are exactly what my wretched day needed! Thank you!!
GatorGirl June 1, 2012, 3:01 pm
I have a “thing” about teeth. I’m really turned off by crooked or mis-colored teeth. It’s important to me that my fiance and myself have clean, straight, white-ish teeth. So I don’t think she is totally nuts to bring it up. But I could be a little nuts so.
Tracey June 1, 2012, 2:49 pm
I wanted to come up with a pithy, wise reply, but I keep hitting my forehead against my keyboard every time I read this letter.
LW, please leave them both alone and get yourself some help. You can do better. For real.
OUCH! This keyboard really hurts….
Tracey June 1, 2012, 2:55 pm
Just read this letter to my mom. She face palmed herself and shook her head. “What drug is she on?” Mom asked. “Is this letter for real?”
jubietta June 1, 2012, 10:03 pm
If ever a letter cried out for a fresh start in life, this is one. With so many people crying “fake” I hope the LW gets a sense that her world (and maybe worldview) is incredibly skewed toward unhealthy. This might just be Reality knocking on the door. Let it in, embrace it, let it introduce you to its friends: self-help books, counseling, and self-reliance. No matter where you are, that’s a starting point for what’s to come.
And I agree, get away from both those guys. One month without drugs is not sober. Dental hygiene is not magic. The past is gone and done, let it go and look forward.
DMR June 2, 2012, 12:31 am
nice. thumbs up to you.
Zepp June 5, 2012, 1:24 am
I suppose it’s entirely possible the LW herself is a pretty big mess too. There are female drug addicts/general fuckups and they have to date someone. These sound pretty horrible but she’s probably at the same level as them.