“I Hate the Gift He Gave Me”

My husband is deployed in the middle east, and he really wanted to get his daughter (my step-daughter) and me something from that area for Christmas. He asked me what I would like from there, and I told him anything pretty, and that I would like enough saris to be able to make a canopy for our bed. He sent his daughter a beautiful camel bone jewelry box, but he sent me a rhinestone-encrusted scorpion pill box. Scorpions aren’t my thing. I don’t like them; I don’t like bugs in general, and this is just plain ugly. My concern is that if I tell him that I like it, he may continue…

“How Can We Make HIS Bachelor Pad OUR Apartment?”

After two years of dating, my boyfriend and I decided to move in together. Due to location and space, I moved into his apartment. For the most part, the transition was smooth…until I started rearranging furniture and adding my personal style in an attempt to transform HIS bachelor pad into OUR apartment. For example, he had a kitchen bar he stacked magazines, a framed photo of his grandmother and other random trinkets on top of. I cleared it — there was gorgeous granite hiding underneath — and placed his things neatly on top of his book case. I also purchased some bar stools and placemats, and replaced his old comforter — a…

Quote of the Day: Evidence Says 19-25 Most Optimal Age for Women to Marry

There were a few interesting quotes in this article about the benefits of marriage — um, too bad gay people are denied those benefits in most of the country/world — but the one that stuck out to me the most was this: “Evidence shows the optimal time for men to marry seems to be after the age of 25, whereas for women it is between 19 and 25 years,” [an academic in England] said. Wow, really?? I know I get flack for my attitude toward early twenty-something relationships (hi, AnitaBath), and I’ll concede that part of that is simply cultural (I’ve spent the last 10 years in big cities where people simply…

“My Boyfriend Collects Photos Of His Female Friends On Facebook”

I am in my late 20s and have been with my boyfriend for about five years and living with him for about 3.5 years. This past spring my computer broke, and he gave me his to use. While I was using it, a bunch of porn sites came up in the autofill, as well as his download folder. Curious as to what he was downloading, I opened the folder and found hundreds of pictures of his (and my) female friends taken from Facebook. We were kinda in a bad place at the time; sex was infrequent at best — once every month or so — and I had given up moving (for…

“My Husband’s Mistress Confronted Me”

A little over two years ago, I discovered that I was pregnant with my boyfriend’s baby. We were both incredibly excited and a few weeks later, he proposed. The wedding was this past summer, and everything about it was perfect. However, a month later, I received a long and detailed message on Facebook from a woman who said she had started dating my husband a few weeks after he began dating me, and that he didn’t break off their relationship until he found out about my pregnancy. She said that she knew about me the whole time. She also sent a link to an amateur adult website where there were pictures and…

“How Do I Tell My New Boyfriend About My Misdemeanor?”

A couple of years ago I was dating my loser of an ex-boyfriend and on our way to a concert in Tennessee, we got pulled over. He had marijuana in the car and since he had a previous felony for marijuana, he asked if I would take the blame for it. The officer that pulled us over told me that I would have to fly back for court, pay some fines, and after a year of probation, it would be cleared from my record. My ex promised to pay for everything, so I took the blame, a decision I wished a million times I could go back and change. Flash forward to…

DearWendy.com Launches

Hi! Welcome to the launch of DearWendy.com. If you’ve found yourself here, you’re probably familiar with my advice column on The Frisky, where I’ve been a contributor since 2008. While I still plan on making regular appearances there and elsewhere, from now on, this will be the official home of the Dear Wendy advice column. I am very excited about this next step and I promise to do everything I can to make this the kind of community you want to spend some of your precious free time. If you’ve been an avid follower of my column, you’ll find the same kind of letters and advice you’re used to reading, plus a…

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