“Do I Have to Invite My Mother to My Wedding?”

I recently announced to my family my engagement to my live-in boyfriend of five years. I am very relaxed about the whole wedding plan because I am just thrilled to be marrying my best friend. I am excited to share the day with everyone with the exception of my mother. She and I have not exchanged more than five emails in the past ten years since I left home. She has never called me and has visited me only twice (both trips ended badly). She was verbally, physically and emotionally abusive to me growing up, for which I have sought therapy. When I found out my parents had gotten divorced I thought,…

“My In-Laws Didn’t Give Us a Wedding Gift!”

I thought I would see what your thoughts are on my in-laws not only not getting us a wedding gift, but how they haven’t even told their son happy birthday for at least eight years! Yet, they give their other three children a free place to live, helped pay for ones’ wedding and made her wedding dress, etc. When I confronted them about this, they told us they could barely afford the gas to come to our wedding! When approached about how they could have just given us a free family heirloom that would have meant the world, they told us we were way out-of-line. Am I out-of-line for bringing something up…

“Being a Bridesmaid is Breaking My Budget!”

A friend of mine from high school asked me in December to be one of her bridesmaids in her July wedding. I was surprised she asked me, particularly because while we were close in our teens, she was usually too busy with her now-fiance´ to catch up or respond to me when I was visiting our hometown. We talk occasionally and I know she does not have many female friends and considering how close we once were, I said yes. Well, fast forward to today and I really regret saying yes. Her older sister is the Matron of Honor and is an honest nightmare. The sister refuses to plan anything the way…

“Should I MOA From This Friendship?”

Two days ago I became a married woman. I had been engaged since September of last year and have had the wedding date set and bridesmaids selected since October. By Thanksgiving, the venue had been picked, the dresses (mine and the bridesmaids as well) had been chosen and prices calculated. I offered to buy the $140.00 dress anyone who could not afford it just to keep everything stress-free but all the bridesmaids turned the offer down, including the Matron of Honor. Now a little background on my Matron of Honor: we’ve been best friends since sixth grade. After I joined the Navy, she married a younger man who joined the Army at…

“Do I Have To Let My Bridesmaid Bring Her Deadbeat Boyfriend To My Wedding?”

I am getting married next May (I cannot wait!!!) and “Carrie,” one of my closest friends is going to be a bridesmaid. She’s very sweet and beautiful and I couldn’t imagine having another friend be a bridesmaid. With that said, she’s dating the lowest piece of man I have ever met. They are constantly making up and breaking up. He’s been arrested numerous times for drugs, as well as for hitting her and other women. He’s currently in a rehab facility where he will be until November. With Carrie being in the wedding, I know that she will most likely want to bring him along as her date. Am I allowed to…

Updates: “Fast-Track Bride” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Fast-Track Bride” who had just taken an out-of-state job and decided to elope with her fiancé — rather than wait until their original wedding date — do he could get on her insurance. Her question was how to share this elopement news with their friends and extended family. After the jump, find out what they decided to do.  

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