Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Thanksgiving Day Open Thread

To everyone celebrating, Happy Thanksgiving today! To all you lovely non-Americans, Happy Thursday! Since most readers will be enjoying holiday activities today, I thought I’d post this Thanksgiving Open Thread for anyone who’s able to escape from the madness for a few minutes and wants to say ‘hi’ to your DW family. Feel free to live-comment the Macy’s Parade, or the National Dog Show (Is that what it’s called? I’m too lazy to Google it right now), or just complain about how crazy your mother-in-law or crazy Uncle Carl is making you.

Also, since it’s Thanksgiving and all, I thought this would be a good time to list some things we’re all thankful for this year. I am thankful for so much! It’s been the least profitable year of my whole adult life if we’re talking mere finances, but in every other way I’ve been blessed with an abundance of good fortune. I’m thankful I was able to get pregnant so easily when I know how heartbreaking it can be to have difficulty conceiving. I’m thankful I managed to stay healthy enough through my pregnancy, despite some scary bumps in the road, to deliver a beautiful, healthy baby boy. I’m thankful I still have two living grandparents who now get to experience the joy of being great-grandparents. I’m thankful my mother’s knee operation (two days after Jackson was born) went smoothly and that the heart complications that were discovered while she in the hospital were managed and she’s doing well today. I’m SO thankful Miles is well and healthy today after nearly dying from a serious illness in September. I’m thankful for my wonderful friends who showed great support to me through my pregnancy and early days of motherhood. They threw baby showers, gave me hand-me-downs, sent lovely gifts, cooked us food, drove us to and from the hospital, and have come from near and far to visit and meet the baby. I’m thankful I am married to someone who has been so generous with his love and support — whose encouragement has been instrumental in the success of this site. If it weren’t for him, there’d be no Dear Wendy.

And, finally, I’m thankful for YOU. When I started this site ten months ago (to the day!), I hoped I’d have at least a few hundred readers a day. I hoped I’d get letters to answer and that people would comment on posts and that we could build something of a community here. Now, thousands of you read the site every day and you can see for yourself the kind of community you all have built. I’m thankful you care enough about other people to give thoughtful advice and to reveal so much of yourselves. Thank you to those who have trusted me with your letters and personal stories; thank you to those who help answer those letters with so much passion; thank you, thank you, thank you to my guests columnists and contributors, whose investment of time and talent has helped lend some texture to this site (and given me a little extra time to spend with Jackson during these early weeks of his life); thank you to people who have written such sweet and thoughtful notes of encouragement to me; and thank you to you many silent readers out there — your presence is felt (in more ways than just pageviews, although those are nice, too).

To everyone: thank you for your generosity of spirit. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving and holiday season!



44 comments… add one
  • Addie Pray November 24, 2011, 10:17 am

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone! This is my favorite holiday. All about being thankful and eating — wonderful things. Hey, is there a parade in Chicago? I gotta find something to do with these nephew and niece of mine. I guess I could google it, which I’ll do now…

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    • Wendy November 24, 2011, 11:40 am

      Happy birthday!!

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      • Addie Pray November 24, 2011, 4:34 pm

        Aw, thank you! I just ate a pie with a shit ton of candles on it. A very waxy pecan pie. Happy Thanksgiving!

      • McLovin November 26, 2011, 10:33 am

        Happy belated birthday! Plus a long weekend with family too, awesome.

    • JK November 24, 2011, 12:21 pm

      Happy Birthday AP!!! I hope it´s a good one. 🙂

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      • Addie Pray November 24, 2011, 4:35 pm

        Thank you, buddy!

  • KD November 24, 2011, 10:20 am

    I wish we had more holidays like thanksgiving- nondenominational, centered around food, and focused on family and thanks. It’s something everyone can enjoy! Happy thanksgiving!

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    • Addie Pray November 24, 2011, 10:23 am

      That’s what I love about it too – it’s for everyone (well, everyone in the USA), no matter what religion, and it’s not centered around buying things.

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      • Addie Pray November 24, 2011, 10:27 am

        Plus, there’s always some really shitty sequel that just opened at the movies that I’m secretly dying to see and get to drag family to… I’m just saying, that’s an added perk.

      • SpaceySteph November 27, 2011, 11:08 am

        I like that about thanksgiving too. One of my coworkers said to me “you’re Jewish, do you even have thanksgiving?” Um, yes, I’m american! Being Jewish you get left out of the hype and have to use vacation days for your major holidays… but not this one! New years eve I also love for the same reason!

        Also Addie, in case you were wondering, I’m not engaged… but all the parents seemed to get along!

  • MissDre November 24, 2011, 10:36 am

    I guess this means I have no Dear Wendy letters to read while I’m at work! Boo! Oh well… I’m thankful that there’s only one month til Christmas and I can take a week off.

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  • amber November 24, 2011, 10:59 am

    Happy Thanksgiving everyone! 🙂

    Also has anyone had a dog that had anxiety attacks? Our rescue flipped out last night and today when something dripped in to the bottom of the oven and burned. It didn’t even get smokey enough for the fire alarm to go off but he is going crazy. He’s currently hiding on the porch, shaking from nose to paw. Last night my husband picked him up and rocked him like a baby (yes my dogs are spoiled) and it helped. Hopefully he will come inside and we can cuddle with him again soon. I’ve never had a dog do this!

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    • FireStar November 24, 2011, 11:31 am

      Aw – poor little guy. We adopted from the rescue as well – a brother and sister just over a year ago. The boy puppy was very skittish and easily frightened because of his wretched past. In researching, we found that you shouldn’t make a big deal about it (no there there-ing when they are very agitated since it apparently reinforces to the dog that there is something terribly wrong – admitted this goes against our nature as humans and I always have to stop myself but seemingly it prolongs the event for the dog when we do this) You just wait patiently beside him and when he calms a little, slowly guide him back to whatever upset him – in your case the stove – for him to sniff around it and to see that it is okay now. This may take a moment – there is no rushing a dog with anxiety. When he is relaxed near the object you shower him all the good puppy praise his little heart can take. This has worked wonders on our little guy and he has graduated to be a very good guard dog and is WAY more confident.

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      • amber November 24, 2011, 12:41 pm

        yeah, i had to stop myself at first from smothering him with hugs. he went to my husband after a bit and climbed in his lap. he’s his safe place, it’s so sweet. he’s better now. we’re still working on getting back in to the kitchen. he keeps giving the oven the eye. poor baby. one day hopefully he won’t be so scared!

      • FireStar November 24, 2011, 12:48 pm

        We have already had our Thanksgiving in Canada but Happy Thanksgiving to you all celebrating today. I remain grateful for the health and well being of all my loved ones, for the wagging tails that greet me at the end of the working day, and for all my many blessings. And on a day like today, I’m a little thankful for the soul who invented seat warmers.

      • JK November 24, 2011, 2:09 pm

        Is it very cold up there??? Today I have 31°C (around 88°F), as soon as the sun goes down a bit I´m going out to the poll with the girls. 🙂

      • JK November 24, 2011, 2:10 pm

        And by poll I mean pool of course.

      • FireStar November 24, 2011, 2:20 pm

        It was -1 C when I left home today and the trees had a thin layer of ice coating them – not terrible but it still hurts my feelings since I know the truly wretched weather is around the corner…

      • JK November 24, 2011, 2:25 pm

        At least you get a white Christmas (I´m guessing), with all the yummy food that goes with it!!! Our winter is just cold, humid and rainy.
        I know what Canadian winters can be like though, hope this one isn´t too bad!!!!

      • FireStar November 24, 2011, 5:06 pm

        Thanks! Though on cold snowy days there is nothing better than curling up in front of the fireplace with some hot chocolate. 😉

      • honeybeenicki November 24, 2011, 9:33 pm

        I kept telling myself today that it was 80 and sunny out, but when I would go outside I found that wasn’t quite true. I’m not as far north as Canada, but I’m in Wisconsin so I should be used to cold weather (and today wasn’t bad), but I still hate it.

  • SpyGlassez November 24, 2011, 12:05 pm

    Happy Turkey Day! I am so thankful for family and friends, and for everyone I love.

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  • fast eddie November 24, 2011, 12:12 pm

    I’m very thankful that I have everything I need which include a loving wife and good friends. The DW community is among the joys of my life. Our 3 cats that love it when I build a fire at our comfortable home in the country far from the madding crowd. I’m super glad to be healthy and comfortable without having to go to work on Monday.

    Happy Thanksgiving everyone. (hugs)

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  • JK November 24, 2011, 12:23 pm

    Happy Thanksgiving for all the US DWers!!!
    Ipm having a crazy day, my husband got diagnosed with pneumonia a couple of hours ago so I´m going to have a busy busy weekend (here in Argentina it´s a long weekend, with Monday off). And we all know what a sick man is like!!!
    Oh well, hope the turkeys all come out delicious!

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    • JK November 24, 2011, 12:26 pm

      PS, what a sweet post Wendy. 🙂

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    • honeybeenicki November 24, 2011, 9:31 pm

      My husband claims sick men “aren’t that bad”… apparently he’s never had to deal with one that wasn’t himself. Hoping for a quick recovery for your husband. Pneumonia sucks.

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      • JK November 25, 2011, 7:46 am

        Luckily today he´s doing much better, thanks.

    • rainbow November 25, 2011, 8:31 am

      Ey, no sabía que eras de Argentina. de qué parte? Yo ahora estoy alternando entre el campo por el verano y Rosario, pero viví en Cba y Bs As también.
      Y posta es feriado? Me acabo de enterar. Aguanten los feriados sorpresa!

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      • Caris November 25, 2011, 8:43 am

        Si, es feriado 😀 aunque no tengo idea porque 😛

      • JK November 25, 2011, 12:48 pm

        El dia de la Soberania (algoque ver con la Vuelta del Obligado). Fue el domingo pasado, no se por que pasaron el feriado al lunes este.
        Yo vivo en Ranelagh, provincia de Buenos Aires. MIra que sorpresa varias argentinas aca! Igual yo por adopcion. 🙂

  • Rachel November 24, 2011, 12:34 pm

    Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

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  • AnotherWendy November 24, 2011, 12:53 pm

    Discovered DW a few weeks ago and I’m thankful for finding it!

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  • Painted_lady November 24, 2011, 12:54 pm

    Happy Turkey Day, DW family! I am so thankful for my job and my students, who push me daily to be a better person. I’m thankful for a wonderful partner who is kind and funny and supportive of me in all things and with whom I will be able to wake up in the mornings in one month! I am thankful for my family, who have been there in the toughest times, cheering me on and holding my hand. I’m thankful for my mom especially, who, while nosy, is one of my favorite people. I am thankful for my amazing friends who are the reason I haven’t lost my mind yet, especially my best friend, who is honest and funny and unconditionally in my corner.

    I’m also particularly thankful that my roommate’s crazypants boyfriend will be in another state far, far away until after I’ve moved out. He’s there for 45 days – he says a court case, I’m pretty sure it’s jail since there’s a time frame on it – and I can’t believe my luck. I was actually all ready to go through with moving out this week because my roommate Jane had continued to ignore the boundaries I had set for our house, including my big one that he couldn’t be here alone because he’s already gone through some of my things and my dog keeps “accidentally” getting into Jane’s room with her cats when he’s here. And then, poof! He’s no longer my problem.

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    • Painted_lady November 24, 2011, 1:00 pm

      Oh, also, I’m thankful for my increasingly-bizarre-with-age labradoodle. He’s way too smart for his own good (the fridge has a bungee cord on it so he won’t help himself, he won’t stay in my room because he can open my bedroom door, and he can pull a plate off the counter and eat the contents without breaking it), but he’s funny, sweet, cuddly, and he would do anything to protect me. He’s been sleeping in front of the door since Crazypants started coming around. Also, he and Painted Dude together? Kind of the cutest thing in the world.

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      • mcminnem November 24, 2011, 5:26 pm

        Yay, I was dying for another update on crazypants 😛 I would call that karma, for your excellent handling of a tough situation. Here’s to hoping everything continues to work out.

    • JK November 24, 2011, 2:07 pm

      I´m glad it´s all working out for you. 🙂 Shame your roommate hasn´t seen the light yet.

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    • Katie November 26, 2011, 3:23 am

      yay for happy accidents! i always think that it means i must have done something good and now i get to have a break in my life for it…

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  • TheOtherMe November 24, 2011, 2:44 pm

    Happy Thanksgiving all of you !!!

    -* Canadian T.O.M. hangs her head & goes back to work *

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    • ScrambledMegs November 24, 2011, 3:06 pm

      Feeling your pain!
      Happy Thanksgiving neighbours!

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    • mcminnem November 24, 2011, 5:28 pm

      Yeah, I’m in lectures till nine tonight. I feel ya!

      Though I am glad we had our thanksgiving while it was still warm enough to enjoy the fall scenery 🙂

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  • honeybeenicki November 24, 2011, 9:29 pm

    I have a lot of things to be thankful for this year. I’m thankful that I only had 2 dinners to go to today (it is usually 3-4) and everything went smoothly – only one little fight, no fist fights, lots of great conversation with my huge family.
    I’m thankful that my beautiful bulldogs are still healthy even though they are starting to get a little older.
    I’m thankful for my 2 fantastic step-kids. I’m especially thankful that my stepdaughter (who just turned 14) hasn’t become a horrible teenager just yet and my stepson is still the crazy little boy I remember meeting for the first time.
    I’m thankful for my husband. Even though he’s made stupid decisions, he’s still someone I can depend on.
    I’m thankful for my parents, especially my mom who pretty much single-handedly raised me and did a damn good job of it.
    I’m thankful for my own health, my family’s health, and my friends’ health.
    I’m thankful my mom and I have started the process of buying a duplex together so we can always be neighbors (right now we rent a 2 level house together) and the fact that the home buying process is going much smoother than either of us expected.
    I’m thankful that my new blog is getting a decent amount of traffic, including from some of the bands I have reviewed.
    And I’m thankful for DW. Some days, I’m pretty sure I’d have some minor nervous breakdowns at work if it weren’t for my DW breaks.

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  • jess of citygirlsworld.com November 25, 2011, 9:42 am

    Thanks to you Wendy for making a warm and engaging community on the web — a rarity in my opinion. Happy Holidays to you and yours.

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  • cdubs November 25, 2011, 12:24 pm

    Very sweet post Wendy! And it’s nice seeing what everyone is thankful for 🙂 So, my turn!

    I’m thankful for my family, who is relatively healthy
    I’m thankful for my (new) husband; he is a wonderful person, and really makes me a better person. I love him to death, and am so excited to get to spend the rest of my life with him
    I’m thankful our (recent) wedding went off without a hitch (no drunken relatives causing problems, no fights, lots of people on the dance floor, yay!)
    I’m thankful for my friends
    I’m thankful my husband and I have jobs and job security, especially in this ecomony
    I’m thankful I live in a country where I have so much freedom, especially as a woman
    I’m thankful I have a roof over my head
    I’m thankful my in-laws and I get along so well

    And I’m also thankful that my FIRST time hosting Thanksgiving, for 9 people, including my mom, stepdad, grandfather, mother- and father-in-law, and two brothers-in-law went wonderfully! I didn’t burn anything, everyone got along, and my first attempt at an apple pie went ok 🙂

    I hope everyone else had a wonderful Thanksgiving! And to the non-US readers, I hope you have a great upcoming weekend 🙂

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  • Katie November 26, 2011, 3:32 am

    i have to say that i am the most thankful for my job this year. i went from a really crappy job making no money (and always stressing about money) to being able to take 10 days off to go to my boyfriend’s wedding and make their cake as a gift for their wedding. not having to stress about money is something that i am so grateful for. not having lavish amounts of money to spend- just not having to stress every month if i was getting enough hours to cover my bills.

    my second thanks this year is to all the little ones i have gotten to meet, and are still waiting to meet. the bride at my boyfriend’s brother’s wedding already has a 3 year old kid, who is the absolute cutest thing in the world, and i almost cried when they referred to me as aunt katie. my best friend from high school is having a baby next year sometime. another friend is due in february. yet another friend had her baby the day of the wedding (11-11-11!) and i got to meet her when she was only a day old… amazing. my friend whose 3 month old baby girl died about a year and 3 months ago gave birth to another little girl on thanksgiving (how appropriate, right?)… and then of course i get to read all about Wendy’s little one and see lots of cute pictures. so really i dont need to have any kids. after not having any in my life ever, i have gone to having a lot of them!!

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