Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Thanksgiving Open Thread

Those of you who subscribe to my newsletter already got a Thanksgiving message from me on Tuesday in which I thank you all for your support and loyalty and spirited discussions. DW turns two in January and it’s been a thrill to watch as the site, and more specifically, this community, grows into something even bigger than I hoped. Thank you for being part of it.

In addition to you, I am thankful this year for so much, including:

1. A healthy family (including Miles and Simone!). There have been a rocky moments in the last year, but everyone is still kicking and doing relatively well. I’m lucky to spend today with loving in-laws (including a lively 6-year-old nephew and a spirited almost-five-year-old niece who are sweet cousins to Jackson), and Christmas next month with my parents, sister, and extended family (including both my maternal grandparents who are thrilled to have lived long enough to spend time with their first great-grandchild) in Missouri.

2. Friends, old and new. This was a great year for friendship despite having less child-free time than ever to hang with pals. There are a handful of people I now consider good friends that I barely even knew a year ago. I consider that a success. And my older friends are still just as awesome as ever. I’m grateful that at some point this year, I got to see just about every single person I consider a close friend.

3. Thyroid medication and a great endocrinologist. Back in February I thought I had developed PPD. I was depressed, anxious, angry, and exhausted. My endocrinologist ordered some more blood work and it turned out that my thyroid levels were way out of whack. She increased my meds and within weeks, I was feeling like myself again. I even managed to finally drop the 15 pounds that hadn’t budged since giving birth.

4. Jackson’s babysitter. Back in February, when I was feeling overwhelmed, I hired a woman to help me with Jackson a few hours a week. Since then, I’ve tripled the hours she spends with him, allowing me to invest time in running this site. More than giving me the time I need, she gives me peace of mind. Jackson lights up when he sees her, and friends in the neighborhood who see them out together comment on how engaged and loving she is with him.

5. Karaoke. Always.

What about you?

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  • Wendy's Dad November 22, 2012, 11:06 am

    So where are all of the comments? Surely I’m not the first one. But I am thankful for a loving wife, and two lovely daughters including the writer of this post. And a son-in-law and a very smart grandson (good genes, you know). But I need to question you on one thing, Wendy. Did you check to see if any other countries are celebrating Thanksgiving? Particularly your neighbor to the north? You might catch hell if you left anyone out. I can tell you for sure that Germany does not celebrate Thanksgiving the same way that we do. They have an “Erntedankfest” in certain locations, but it is a local decision. But I can tell you that this Sunday is Totensonntag. In many communities (especially in the Evangelische Kirche, which would be the Protestant churches), this day is set aside to remember the dead. So that’s your cultural lesson for Thanksgiving day.

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    • Jshizzle November 22, 2012, 1:46 pm

      Canadian Thanksgiving has come and gone, but thank=you Wendy’s Dad!

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    • Addie Pray November 22, 2012, 2:29 pm

      Happy Thanksgiving, WD!

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      • Wendy's Dad November 22, 2012, 2:58 pm

        You too, AP. Is this a “meet the family” holiday?

      • Addie Pray November 22, 2012, 3:19 pm

        Yes! He has met my whole family. He’s sitting out by the pool (we are in sunny southern California) listening to my mom tell him the story about how she met my dad in college. While I drink red wine, with kids climbing all over me.

        Best. Thanksgiving. Ever.

      • Painted_lady November 22, 2012, 4:16 pm

        Yay for love!!!

      • Addie Pray November 22, 2012, 4:34 pm


  • jlyfsh November 22, 2012, 11:41 am

    Taking a break in between pies to come and say Thank you, Wendy! Thank you for the site, the newsletter, and creating this community. I’ve truly learned a lot about myself and others interacting with other commenters and reading the many letters you publish. I hope you have a wonderful day celebrating with Drew, his Dad and Jackson! I have so many things to be thankful for. Mostly a wonderful family, supportive friends and the sweetest dogs I could ever ask for! Now it’s off to eat chocolate meringue pie and celebrate with friends! 🙂

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  • SweetsAndBeats November 22, 2012, 12:57 pm

    Happy Thanksgiving, those who celebrate it! I don’t like the holiday much but will never pass up on an excuse to cook. I spent 2 hours last night making cranberry salsa and hammering macadamia nuts into a meal texture. Going to coat goat cheese in the macadamia meal and then lightly fry it, top with a dollop of cranberry salsa. And I’m about to go start making my bacon-chocolate-pecan pie for dessert.

    Then I get to go storm the front lines of my “His Parents Are Assholes” battle! I’m going over to his family’s house for dinner and I am really hoping that this holiday will repair the bridges that they have burned.

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    • lemongrass November 22, 2012, 3:23 pm

      Oh god I love macadamia nuts so much. They are hard to find here and the ones you do find are old and stale. You have given me a pregnancy craving for macadamia pancakes and coconut syrup.

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      • SweetsAndBeats November 23, 2012, 1:09 am

        I’m sorry, it wasn’t my intention 🙁 I hope you manage to find some! I think that recipe for macadamia pancakes is something you’ll have to let me know about… sounds delicious!

      • lemongrass November 23, 2012, 1:43 am

        They don’t have them here, but they were in all the restaurants while I was in Hawaii. So yummy! I made did with chocolate covered macadamia nuts from Costco. They’re cheap and not as good but better than nothing!

  • Pant-less drunky November 22, 2012, 1:50 pm

    Happy Thanksgiving!
    I don’t celebrate, but I’m thankful for finally getting the answer to a problem that I’ve had for months.
    Also Red Devil.

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    • Addie Pray November 22, 2012, 3:23 pm

      Is the answer red wine?

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      • Pant-less drunky November 22, 2012, 7:15 pm

        Not for me unfortunately.

  • FireStar November 22, 2012, 3:47 pm

    Happy Thanksgiving to everyone celebrating! I’m jealous of all the pie I won’t be having… 🙁

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  • Painted_lady November 22, 2012, 4:15 pm

    Happy Thanksgiving DW family! I’m so thankful for all of you for being support and an occasional kick in the ass, and for Wendy for bringing everyone together. I am so thankful for my job, which has finally turned into something I enjoy doing all the time as opposed to the source of stress, anxiety, and feelings of inadequacy I’ve had for the last couple of years. I’m thankful for my family, who are right now cracking me up setting up for a late lunch – my favorite cousin, whom I hadn’t seen in two years due to crazy schedules, came in last night and Walter and I picked him up at the airport. They’d never met, and they’re getting along like old friends. Walter’s family is from my cousin’s hometown, and it turns out my cousin was best friends with his cousin growing up! I’m thankful for living in a place and with a person that inspires me to pick up a paintbrush more than I have in years. I’m thankful for a partner who’s an equal and a friend as much as a boyfriend. And I’m thankful that I’m healthier today than I was last year.

    I have a great life 🙂

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  • iwannatalktosampson November 22, 2012, 5:28 pm

    Happy thanksgiving kids!!! Drunk faced!!

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  • L November 22, 2012, 10:40 pm

    I’m thankful for so many people who came to my aid this week when I really needed support. Friends, family, and you amazing DW’ers!

    I know I’ve talked about my breakup a TON in the past week on here as I’ve been processing it, but I’m incredibly thankful that I’m handling it well. In the newsletter last week, Wendy put “You reap just what you sow.” as the quote of the week. That hit home for me. After everything that happened in my life last weekend, I’m realizing just how true it is. I always take pride in the fact that I treat my friends and loved ones well. The fact that so many people wanted to help me showed me that they care just as much about me as I care about them. That in itself gave me more joy than I was getting from my boyfriend for the past few weeks. Because of this, I will never again take for granted what I have with my friends and family.

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  • the attack November 24, 2012, 12:55 pm

    I’m thankful for DearWendy, my new job, a mom who I love to cook with on Thanksgiving, and my awesome future in-laws. I’m thankful that combining our Thanksgivings went as smoothly as it did, and that both of our families are loving and accepting to us as new members. I’ve heard so much drama from other people, and I’m thankful that we don’t have any of that.

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