Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

The Attractive Things Men Do that They Aren’t Aware Of


Most of us can agree that there are things men do that are universally attractive (even to those who aren’t into men): saving kittens from tall trees; carrying heavy sacks of groceries in one arm while wearing short-sleeved shirts that show off a hint of tan muscles; shaking cocktail mixers real fast. All hot, no? But what about those little things that maybe aren’t as universally appreciated? What about those little things that guys do that they don’t even realize are so hot?
The women of Reddit recently started a thread devoted to those very things and Nerve rounded up the ten most popular, including:

1. Softening Eyes
You know, when their eyes get all soft and dreamy while looking at you.

2. Relaxing After Work
As in, loosening up a necktie… or taking his pants off… or cracking open a beer and turning on some sports, I guess.

3. Sweaters
Yes! Sweaters, so hot. I got Drew a sweater from JCrew for Christmas and I think he’s so cute when he wears it (I think he just wears it to humor me, but it works! I’m humored).

4. Safe Driving
Eh, I like driving, period — doesn’t even have to be safe.

5. Forearms
Yes, yes, yes!! Forearms, so sexay.

6. Cooking
Yes, again! A man who knows how to competently get busy in the kitchen is hot. Especially if the food tastes good. Or, I guess, only if the food tastes good, if I’m being honest…

7. Being Nice
Well, duh.

8. Passion
Like, when they speak passionately about something they love. Eh, I am mixed on this. I like that Drew has passions, but when he starts talking about the Yankees my eyes sort of glaze over and I’m not like mentally undressing him with my eyes at that point.

9. Being Protective
Very sweet. I especially appreciated this when I was pregnant and Drew was extra protective. I am pretty independent and like to think I can take perfectly good care of myself, but when I was pregnant, I did especially appreciate the extra care and attention Drew gave me.

10. Fatherly Instinct
Of course. Nothing hotter than a hot guy walking around with a baby attached to his chest.

Things I like that men do: walking around inside in jeans and bare feet; not shaving for a couple days; getting really mad at someone who pissed you off/ hurt you (i.e. “I could rip your boss’s head off!!”); forehead kisses; rolling up sleeves of button-up shirts; sitting in a coffee shop reading a paperback; walking down the street eating an ice cream cone (bonus if he’s alone); walking in the rain without an umbrella; running with their dogs; ordering a scotch; carrying a goat around their necks with their shirt off.

What things do YOU find attractive in men that they don’t know about?

[via Nerve and Reddit]

91 comments… add one
  • ktfran January 27, 2014, 2:06 pm

    I LOVE this ” rolling up sleeves of button-up shirts.” Not just a lot. But a lot, a lot.

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    • Roxy_84 January 27, 2014, 4:55 pm

      YES. A LOT A LOT.

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      • mrmidtwenties January 27, 2014, 5:38 pm

        currently rolling up my sleeves 😉

      • Roxy_84 January 27, 2014, 5:57 pm


      • mrmidtwenties January 27, 2014, 6:42 pm

        watch or no watch?

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      • mrmidtwenties January 27, 2014, 8:55 pm

        done! 😉

      • Roxy_84 January 27, 2014, 10:03 pm

        I’m just going to think about that for a little bit…

  • lets_be_honest January 27, 2014, 2:09 pm

    Long Johns. I know TA agrees with me on this one! 😉

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    • lets_be_honest January 27, 2014, 2:11 pm

      and warming up my car every morning, getting gas (for the car!), getting the kiddo on/off the bus & peeing stance. I know that last one sounds weird, but I’m pretty sure Fab agreed on this once already.
      I’m looking forward to reading everyone else’s.

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      • GatorGirl January 27, 2014, 2:17 pm

        I love the getting gas thing. I haven’t pumped my own gas in a hot minute and I’m totally okay with that.

      • lets_be_honest January 27, 2014, 2:21 pm

        Yea, same here. Its turned into something that just…is always there? I never even check the little gas reader thing on my car. A small thing, but really nice.

    • theattack January 27, 2014, 2:22 pm

      Ohhh yeahhhh, can’t get enough of that long underwear. 😉

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  • GatorGirl January 27, 2014, 2:09 pm

    I have a weird love of guys in jeans and flip flops. I have no idea why but I think it’s dreamy.

    Being protective is my favorite. I love that. Oh and driving. I hate driving.

    Edit- I remembered another thing. I love it when he carries heavy stuff. Or just any stuff actually. GGuy constantly is carrying things for me and it’s SO nice.

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  • Fabelle January 27, 2014, 2:14 pm

    Safe driving? Um no, I kinda like it more when a dude drives too fast & a little recklessly. SKILLED driving, but definitely with a bit of adrenaline to the passengers? Dumb I know, but it’s the teenage girl in me.

    Also to add to the list: Fabello does this thing where, after pouring us wine, he’ll lick the stray drops off the neck of the bottle & I find it soooo hot. It’s a bit homoerotic though, I guess, because the bottle is phallic? Hmm what does this mean

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  • cdobbs January 27, 2014, 2:18 pm

    Number 9! A strong independent man that just protects you (without even asking)….just to know that he is there and that if you need him he will be up to the challenge….another attractive quality is bravery (firemen for example)

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  • bagge72 January 27, 2014, 2:20 pm

    everything bagge does.

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    • bagge72 January 27, 2014, 2:21 pm

      That should have been anonymous…

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  • Sansa January 27, 2014, 2:25 pm

    I was in the grocery store one time, and I guy walked by wearing a tie and a dress up shirt (and pants too lol) and his sleeves were rolled up to show arm tattoos.

    I just about passed out hahahaha. A bad boy underneath the professional exterior. MMMM

    And no, I’m not into the fifty shades trilogy, I don’t want to waste my money to read a story that’s basically all over the internet

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  • Kate January 27, 2014, 2:25 pm

    So I’m a little confused by that list. Because it’s about attractive / hot things about men *that they aren’t aware of.* I would argue that men are VERY aware that a lot of those things are sexy to women, including the forearms (bonus points for nice watch as far as they’re concerned), the cooking, the passion, the protectiveness, and the fatherly instinct.

    I’m also confused about why women chose some of these things. Safe driving isn’t sexy, per se. It’s just that aggressive, unsafe driving is awful, so we appreciate a guy who drives safely. I don’t really get the relaxing after work either. Or the sweaters. I mean, guys can look nice in a sweater, but are sweaters really SEXY?

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    • lets_be_honest January 27, 2014, 2:29 pm

      What do you find sexy?

      I totally got the relaxing thing, especially the tie loosening. My boyfriend tightened a screw yesterday and immediately asked if his forearms looked bigger (um, no, but don’t hurt yourself there tough guy). So you are right about the forearm thing, haha!

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      • Kate January 27, 2014, 2:40 pm

        Hmm, well, like a bunch of people mentioned already, I do love when they carry your stuff, move heavy things, switch your winter clothes to storage, do housework, that kind of thing. But again, I think guys KNOW that’s sexy to women and it scores them points. As far as clothing goes, I think I’m more into T-shirts and jeans on a guy than suits. I mean I think they look good in a suit if it fits well, but I think they look cuter/sexier in a T-shirt.

        I’m trying to think of anything about my guy that is sexy and he DOESN’T know it. Well ok, he doesn’t like to smile because he is self-conscious about his teeth. But I like how he looks when he smiles. I also like when he makes me feel empowered in front of people. Like, if we get really bad service and I want to talk to the manager, he lets me do my thing. Instead of trying to handle it for me or being embarrassed and not wanting me to make a thing of it. I also like how he handles his own business. Like, he recognizes when he’s in a mood about something, flags it for me, and is able to get out of it on his own. Those are things I can think of right now but I know there are more.

      • lets_be_honest January 27, 2014, 2:45 pm

        I like your answers! I’m not like that though – I threaten to run away if he tries to complain about service. haha. Maybe I should let him do his thing?

      • Kate January 27, 2014, 2:51 pm

        LBH, he’s actually like, “go for it, you’re good at it.” I find that attractive. We got bad service at a restaurant Saturday night and I spoke calmly to the manager about it and got most of our meal comped. I took the time to write to American Airlines and got us $1,000 in free vouchers. So I mean, another reason to let Peter do his thing, you could get $$$!

        Another time I was trying to buy a car and the guy was being a pain in the ass, wouldn’t get the model out that I was interested in, saying the keys were locked in the office or some BS. And my guy was like, “Dude, are you going to give up this sale? She will walk.” Or something like that. And the guy got the car out. I felt empowered… In a different way than if he was just like “let me handle this for you.” Although there are some things I definitely do like him to handle. I like that he knows the difference.

      • lets_be_honest January 27, 2014, 2:54 pm

        Oh I like that a lot. I could totally see why you think that’s sexy.

    • theattack January 27, 2014, 2:45 pm

      I think some of those things are sexy because they’re soft and sweet against a usually masculine self. Sweaters are cuddly and make a man seem secure to me. The safe driving plays into protectiveness and and makes it seem like he wants to take care of me, plus it makes him seem more responsible. So maybe not sexy in the traditional sense, but attractive anyway.

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      • kate January 27, 2014, 2:51 pm

        TA, I can see that!

  • muchachaenlaventana January 27, 2014, 2:28 pm

    When he takes off a necklace and then kisses the nape of my neck where the clasp was, not in like a seducing way but just a sweet little peck. Offering to pump my gas for me, because I hate doing it so much. Enjoying my cooking. Flannel, jeans, and boots.

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    • muchachaenlaventana January 27, 2014, 2:33 pm

      oh and sewing. This is weird I know, but I cannot sew to save my life and my boyfriend is great at it, and him sewing my button on my coat and fixing the sleeve of one of my dresses is maybe the sexiest thing he has ever done ha.

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  • Sansa January 27, 2014, 2:29 pm

    And taking care of me when I’m sick. I had a major headache one time and my left arm was going numb and I was having light sensitivity (this is from someone who has never had a migraine in her life) and we were out at a restaurant waiting for advil to kick in. I told him my left hand was going numb, he hit his hands on the table, got up, and filled a glass of water. Then he said, we are not going anywhere until you finish this.

    He was convinced that I was dehydrated and needed fluids. I thought it was cute how he cared

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  • theattack January 27, 2014, 2:31 pm

    Yes to getting mad at people who do you wrong! I love that. I also really love watching men shave, especially in undershirts. It’s just so raw and masculine.

    And in general, anything I catch him doing because I’m around that I know he wouldn’t do if he was by himself, especially if he doesn’t know that I know. Things like making sure he has an extra jacket in the car for when I get cold, or being cautious about our surroundings because he wants me to be safe, even though I know he’s never paid attention before.

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  • Diablo January 27, 2014, 2:36 pm

    #6 covers a lot deficiencies in other areas of sexiness for me. That’s why I do almost all the cooking. I also do my own laundry, and personally feel this has gotten me laid, and not just because of clean underpants. I also constantly make jokes, often noted but not on this list.

    @Wendy re #8 – Sports is more of an addiction than a passion. When someone signs up at the age of 8 for a lifelong win-or-lose relationship with a team, it’s hard to see it as anything but a co-dependency. (OK, sports fans, come at me.) Here’s a classic to illustrate: “Honey, make me feel like a woman!” “OK, get me a beer, i’m gonna watch the game.”

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    • GatorGirl January 27, 2014, 2:55 pm

      I totally want to comment on the sports thing, but I don’t really have the energy today. All I will say is- there are TONS of different passions (pro-sports, cars, exercising, etc) and people with all kinds of passions can be “co-dependent” to the point that it has negative effects on their relationships. Sports fans get an irrationally bad rap, IMO.

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      • Diablo January 28, 2014, 12:00 am

        GG, I would debate you passionately (because one of my passions is messing with people), but I’m concerned you are on the verge of taking my little jokes seriously. My problem may be that I can’t believe in ANYTHING as passionately as some people believe in their teams.

  • veritek33 January 27, 2014, 2:40 pm

    Beards. The ability to grow a beard. Sexy.

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  • mylaray January 27, 2014, 2:45 pm

    I love my husband’s bed head hair, and he thinks it looks bad.

    I like when he uses my shampoo.

    He’s usually always driving the speed limit and I’m the aggressive driver, and I love when he or anyone drives fast and gets a little road rage.

    I love when a man wears nice shoes with jeans.

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  • mcj2012 January 27, 2014, 3:02 pm

    A v neck with jeans, a little chest hair, a goatee, when i was drunk and i called my hub and asked him to set me up and we both had no idea what that meant but he put toothpaste on my toothbrush.

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    • lets_be_honest January 27, 2014, 3:10 pm

      Oh god that’s so sweet (the toothpaste thing!). Love it, love it!
      You reminded me of another-long story short, got sick in my new purse and he took care of me all night over the toilet and when I woke up, the purse was all cleaned out.

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  • bethany January 27, 2014, 3:03 pm

    Protective and forehead kisses, for sure.

    Dave is so relaxed and low key that he rarely gets forceful/protective, but when he does, I really, really like it.

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    • Lyra January 27, 2014, 3:25 pm

      Plus one for forehead kisses. Navy Guy does that all the time and it causes butterflies every time.

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    • TECH January 27, 2014, 6:19 pm

      I love it when a guy holds your hand and then raises it up to his lips and kisses your hand.

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    • rachel January 27, 2014, 6:39 pm

      Agreed on both counts. Once when Ross and I had been dating, oh, 6 months or so, we were out at a bar that had a co-ed bathroom. I wasn’t feeling well and was taking a while in the bathroom, and some guy was yelling at me to hurry up, and I could hear Ross yelling at him – even though he was getting over a chest cold and barely had any voice to speak of. I just have this memory of hearing his high pitched wheezy voice telling the guy to fuck off and let me do what I had to do.

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  • jlyfsh January 27, 2014, 3:06 pm

    when he’s worried about the dogs or takes care of them. when he picks out books for me, that he knows i’ll love. when he eats the food i completely mess up and doesn’t say it’s bad. and when he kisses my forehead, definitely or gives me a giant bear hug when he knows i’m sad.

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  • othy January 27, 2014, 3:11 pm

    Mr. Othy has very dark hair, and he’s starting to go just a bit grey, mostly in the temples and the beard. But damn I find that salt and pepper look sexy. And I think it will just get sexier as he gets older, but he freaks about it.

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    • GatorGirl January 27, 2014, 3:16 pm

      Oh I love the salt and pepper. Also just seeing my husband age is sexy. Like how mature he looks now rather than the baby faced 22 year old I started dating. How much better he carries himself.

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      • othy January 27, 2014, 5:43 pm

        Mr. Othy still has the baby face – when he shaves. I think it’s pretty funny.

    • BriarRose January 27, 2014, 3:23 pm

      My boyfriend’s hair has a lot of grey and it drives me absolutely bonkers. So sexy. He grew a beard a few weeks ago, and it had some grey too, and it almost killed me.

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    • Banana January 27, 2014, 5:28 pm

      I think my boyfriend is actually EXCITED to go gray. He has a short beard, and when I play with it he asks me all the time if I’ve found a gray. It’s cute. Though looking at both our families, I’m the one far more likely to go gray young — but I also dye my hair, so I’ve got no clue what’s going on under there.

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      • KKZ January 28, 2014, 9:34 am

        My husband’s dad’s hair was pretty much all-white before he was 30. Bear is 26 and starting to get white hairs around his temples and hairline. We love snuggling in bed on Sunday mornings counting his white hairs. He is looking forward to going gray for sure. What he doesn’t like is that he’s also starting to go bald in the back, he gets that from his mom’s side. If his older brother is any indication, there’s no hope. I told him he’s allowed to shave his head as long as he keeps his beard. 🙂

  • Miel January 27, 2014, 3:21 pm

    I like having a naked man in my bed. I think it’s sexy. You know, because he’s naked. My boyfriend doesn’t think it’s sexy, because he gets cold and wants to wear 5 layers of clothes in bed.

    And then he’s like “Can I put clothes on ?” and I’m like “NOPE”.

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    • othy January 27, 2014, 5:43 pm

      In my relationship, it’s the other way around.

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  • mandalee January 27, 2014, 3:27 pm

    Beards, chest hair (a little bit not a forest), and when my husband baby talks to my dog. he wakes up with her in the morning and he thinks I’m still sleeping and he will sing her these really silly songs that get her all amped up and it’s adorable. Also, I agree with the cooking thing, except he knows it’s sexy because I can’t cook to save my life.

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  • Lyra January 27, 2014, 3:33 pm

    Navy Guy will spend so much time playing with my cat and it’s freaking adorable. Like he’s 6’1″ and he will get down to her height and reach out his hand to pet her but he’s patient and lets her sniff it first since she’s skittish. Then he’ll take out the laser pointer and play with her for like 30 minutes at a time. And he’s allergic… Men that will take time for cats or dogs are super attractive to me. I found a calendar with hot men and kittens once! Let me find the link…here it is!

    He also puts his hand at the small of my back when we’re walking somewhere in a crowd and I love that. It’s not possessive but it is very kind and chivalrous. Hell, any chivalry is hot to me. Opening doors, paying for the date, etc.

    Men playing with/taking care of kids is really hot too. Navy Guy has a 3-year-old niece and he is very patient and will play games with her and will play dress up, etc. There are also a lot of hot young dads at the church that I go to. Of course they’re with their wives, but it always makes me go “awww” when I see a really hunky guy holding a baby or toddler. (Side note, I would never date a guy with a kid. Just admiring from afar. 🙂 )

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  • mylaray January 27, 2014, 3:38 pm

    Tan lines are a big turn off for me (and I know a lot of people like them), but I love scars and any weird marking. My husband has track marks from having IVs done for his medicine. He likes to cover them up, but I think they’re kinda sexy. Battle wounds I guess, haha.

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    • Cleopatra_30 January 28, 2014, 2:03 pm

      The guy i am seeing has a bunch of stretch marks on his biceps and then some lead onto his chest. They are from working out and bulking up too quickly. He used to hate them but doesn’t mind now, and i agree, they are really cool, like battle scars or natural tattoos 😛

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  • Cassie B January 27, 2014, 3:56 pm

    The goat picture cracked me up.

    Things I like:
    – when guys wear a plain t-shirt and jeans, a la James Dean
    – baseball caps
    – when they wake up first thing in the morning and look all cute with bed head and scruffy faces
    – singing songs on the radio to themselves
    – playing with animals or kids/holding babies/etc. Basically anything nurturing.

    There’s so many more, but my list would get too long.

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  • MissDre January 27, 2014, 4:16 pm

    I have no idea why but it makes me melt when I go to my boyfriend’s place and he’s already placed a set of clean folded pajamas for me on my side of the bed.

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  • something random January 27, 2014, 4:29 pm

    I like a guy in a killer suit (think early Don Draper), but I think guys are fully aware that this is a sexy look. I also like that moment when a guy (my man) has just gotten done exercising and he takes a long drink of something.

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  • HmC January 27, 2014, 4:34 pm

    Omg 10. My husband is fantastic with kids- he used to teach and his brother is 12 years younger than him so he practically raised him. He’s super comfortable around them and loves them, and it just makes my heart swell. I think I’m especially impressed because I suck being around most kids. I feel like I’m going to curse on accident or not fawn over them enough for their parents or something…

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  • Stonegypsy January 27, 2014, 4:47 pm

    Jeans with a button down shirt
    Coming up from behind me and kissing my neck
    Knowing how to make a really good Manhattan

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  • findingtheearth January 27, 2014, 4:48 pm

    I was in the grocery store the other day in the checkout line, and my daughter started giggling and laughing. I turned around and this gorgeous guy was playing peek a boo with her. My ovaries nearly exploded.

    Also, when a dad uses a sling or a carrier and wears his baby. Oh my goodness.

    And a guy with his dog. Always gets me.

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  • Monica M January 27, 2014, 4:49 pm

    Guys in black turtlenecks. I have no clue why. Tortured poet look maybe??

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  • Terrie Walters January 27, 2014, 4:53 pm

    OK, I’m probably older than most of the other commenters, but even when I was younger I always thought that men that wore pinky rings, were left handed and had a hairy chest were sexy. I don’t think they would normally think those things were sexy! Especially now that men shave their chests, ew!

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  • Stickelet January 27, 2014, 5:44 pm

    Came across this video the other day. How appropriate.

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  • applescruffs January 27, 2014, 5:53 pm

    Roundabout plays my guitar and sings…to my dog.

    I also love those moments (with him, or anyone I’ve been with) when they’re talking and laughing with someone across the room and don’t know that you’re watching them. That sounds creepy….just those moments when he’s at ease and himself and I get to see that directed at someone other than me.

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    • stickelet January 27, 2014, 7:57 pm

      I like the opposite, the moments when he is watching me across the room and I don’t realize until I glance over and he has that adorable, sexy smile on his face.

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      • applescruffs January 27, 2014, 9:09 pm

        I like those too!

  • theattack January 27, 2014, 6:01 pm

    This wasn’t really a turn-on but a heart-melter. When P was helping me take care of my grandfather in the hospital. When I left him in charge while I took a restroom break, and I came back to see him holding hands with my grandfather and trying to cheer him up when he was upset. Or asking him questions about growing up on the farm to get his mind off of his illness. And before he got sick, whenever P would be so respectful of him and shake hands with him and joke about how terrible I was to him. Whenever my grandfather would cry about missing my grandmother (very frequently), P would ask him about the Masons for hours and cheer him up. Generally loving my family members like I do and being an active participant.

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    • ApresMoi January 27, 2014, 7:05 pm

      This is specially sweet and as someone who is super close to my family, I can see how little things like these can come to mean the world sometimes.

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  • Bubbles January 27, 2014, 6:35 pm

    When he helps me with my coat and holds my hair up and over the collar – LOVE!!! I also love his forearms and when he rolls up his long sleeves, that’s a big yes.

    When he brings my purse with him when I move around at a party.

    And as a protector, I love it that I believe he can beat anybody up (he says no, but I truly believe he can kick everybody’s ass. I guess that’s a good thing since we’ve been married for decades and I still feel that way about him.)

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  • sobriquet January 27, 2014, 7:23 pm

    Ooh, I wanna play!

    -Fitted dress shirts with skinny ties.
    -A good beard.
    -Drummers. NEVER the egotistical lead singer/guitar player.
    -Decisiveness/taking charge.
    -Drinking dark IPA craft beers.
    -Fixing my car.
    -BOXERS not boxer-briefs.
    -Feminism/women’s rights.
    -Gay rights activist.
    -Building things (my fiance builds custom fences and he is constantly building stuff for our apt. I can’t wait to build all of our furniture some day).
    -Always driving and then daring to do things I would never do- like purposely wait until the last second to get in the turn lane. (I think I have driving PTSD)
    -Always complimenting the food I cook.
    -Grown-up swimming trunks.

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    • rachel January 27, 2014, 8:07 pm

      Oh, see, I’m for boxer-briefs all the way. As long as they’re not white.

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      • Lyra January 27, 2014, 9:32 pm

        My boyfriend (it’s still kind of weird saying that…?) wears boxer briefs and we’re not going to get to the stage of seeing each other in skivvies for quite some time so I don’t know exactly what I think about them. I LOVE a guy in boxers, not sure what it is. I’ve asked why Navy Guy wears boxer briefs and he says that he likes the goods held in. Of course I’m pretty sure all of them are white. I haven’t gone snooping or anything, but I’m pretty sure they are. He’s VERY opposed to boxers.

      • Anonymous January 27, 2014, 11:25 pm

        Mr Othy recently made the switch from boxers to boxer briefs. And he’s damn sexy in both. I would never let him get white ones though.

  • Fabelle January 27, 2014, 7:44 pm

    I thought of another one, in the clothing category this time—thermal shirts (Unless this is what above commenters meant by Long John’s? ) the only problem is that I ALSO think they’re sexy on me, so I wind up stealing them…

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    • Fabelle January 27, 2014, 8:51 pm

      And I’m getting an ad now for “women’s athletic shirts”. NO ADSERVICE, I WANT TO KEEP STEALING MY BOYFRIEND’S

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    • lets_be_honest January 28, 2014, 9:24 am

      That was me. Yes, thermal/long john’s. The pants though Fab! Its like leggings on men.

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  • Cleopatra_30 January 27, 2014, 8:38 pm

    Forearms?? It’s all about the biceps people! God i swoon so much when i see a nice pair of guns on a guy 😛

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    • Kate January 28, 2014, 6:46 am

      Agree! I don’t really notice forearms, but I like biceps and chest!

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      • Cleopatra_30 January 28, 2014, 2:07 pm

        Oh yes! Chest too! Nice and toned, but not too hard, and not too soft. Guy i am seeing as a lovely set of both 😛

  • Fabelle January 27, 2014, 8:48 pm

    But forearms have veins, & hair, & the hands are right in your vision when you’re looking at them also? (I have a thing for nice veiny forearms with big hands attached. Although I think I’ve found the least sexy way of phrasing it oops ha)

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  • Lyra January 27, 2014, 9:49 pm

    Ooooo, I also really like when a guy comes up from behind and hugs me around the waist. And carrying heavy things (I’ve made Navy Guy do this once or twice). I especially like when a guy warms up the car for me and scrapes the windows/digs it out of the snow. That is probably one of my LEAST favorite chores and I get really really lazy with it. I also think it’s really cute when my dad shovels the sidewalk/blows snow right away in the morning to make sure my mom (and other family members if we’re visiting) can get out of the driveway.

    I LOVE dark jeans/dark dress pants on a guy. Especially when they fit nice and snugly around the hips and just…accentuate things.

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  • Abby Normal January 27, 2014, 11:41 pm

    Being comfortable with helping me dye my hair is close to the top of the list for me. The first time I need help dying it bright red, I asked my boyfriend to help since I’m the one who always dyes his mohawk and I thought it was only fair that if I dyed his hair, he should help with mine. He was on board with idea and came and helped me out, though he was incredibly nervous the whole time that he was going to mess up. He did a really good job and now he’s always willing to help. It’s really attractive to me that he was so ok with it in the first place and it doesn’t hurt now that he’s gotten really good at it.

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  • AllegroFox January 28, 2014, 8:00 am

    The colour pink! BF has a closet full of pastel dress shirts, including a couple pale pink ones which he rocks with the top button undone and the sleeves rolled up. (short sleeved dress shirts are like a HORRIBLE TRAGEDY to him? So it’s long sleeves rolled up all the way.) OMNOM.

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  • j2 January 28, 2014, 10:22 am

    Back rubs!

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  • AliceInDairyland January 28, 2014, 10:55 am

    Man and his goat(s).

    Driving a tractor
    Getting my car unstuck from the snow because I was a complete dipshit and he had to use the come along winch. I just stared at him as he lifted my car out of a ditch using PHYSICS AND MUSCLES.
    When I get home and he magically has 2 cats snuggling on him while reading a book.

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  • Kate January 28, 2014, 2:26 pm

    I thought more about this, and I think what I was trying to say in my comments yesterday, is that what’s become most attractive to me over time is guys who do not have any weird issues about women, and truly do see them as equals. That doesn’t mean they don’t like to do “man things” or appreciate more traditionally “feminine” qualities about women. But, some examples: Guys who think they know best all the time and freak out if they think you’re not listening to their wisdom: That’s not attractive. Guys who make a little less than you (or a little more than you but feel like they should be making a LOT more) and are conflicted about it, trying to compete with you, resent you for it, etc. What IS attractive: Guys for whom it’s just normal and natural to share all the responsibilities around the house, including cooking, cleaning, and childcare. Guys who aren’t trying to tell you what to do all the time. Who treat you as a partner. They do what they need to do and value that you do what you need to do. Everything gets done and it’s a partnership. Guys who were raised to truly respect women, and are the type of quality guy that naturally attracts respect from women without having to demand it or act out to try and get it.

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    • Kate January 28, 2014, 2:30 pm

      Or basically the guy Salt ‘n Pepa are describing in the song “Whatta Man.”

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