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The baby is here, the baby is here! I’m going to take the next week to heal and start adjusting to life with a newborn (and life with two kids!), so, in lieu of new columns, please peruse the forums, use this post as an open thread, and check out some of these oldies from the last four and a half years that you may have missed (and in the meantime, you can see new pics of Joanie on Instagram, if you’re interested):


Lists! Lists! Lists!

30 Things I’m Glad I Didn’t Do Before I Turned 30

30 Things That Will (Probably) Happen in Your 30s

21 Things That Will (Probably) Happen to You in Your 20s

What Women Say Vs. What They Really Mean

50 Life Skills Every Modern Woman Should Know

15 Things in a Man’s Apartment that Will Scare a Woman Away

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Casual Dating to Longterm Relationships

“I Haven’t Had Sex in Four Years!”

“He Dumped Me Because I’m Married to Someone Else”

15 Things Couples Should Do Before Moving in Together

“Am I Just His Booty Call?”

“I Have a Boyfriend, but I Want a Sugar Daddy, Too”

The Six Things You Need for a Happy, Longterm Relationship

“My Boyfriend Got His Ex Pregnant with a Turkey Baster”

“My Boyfriend is having a Baby with Another Woman”

“My Ex is Sending Photos of Me to Swingers”

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Long Distance Relationships

10 Signs You’re Ready to Move for Love

“In a Long Distance Relationship, Who Should Be The One to Move?”

8 Things You Need to Do Before You Move For Love

8 Tips For Transitioning out of a Long Distance Relationship

Poll: Have You Moved or Would You Move for Love?

“Should I Move for My Career or Stay for Love?”

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15 Things Every Couple MUST Discuss Before Getting Married

“He Wants Me To Take His Name, But I Want to Keep Mine”

“My Husband Dismisses My Feminist Beliefs”

“I’m Married, But I’m Heartbroken Over My MIA Boyfriend”

“I Desperately Want Another Baby But My Husband Does Not”

“My Husband Got Another Woman Pregnant”


Family Ties

“My Mother Had Sex With My Husband”

Your Turn: “My Boyfriend’s Brother Tried to Sleep With Me!”

Afraid to Tell My Parents that I’m Moving in With My Boyfriend”

“My Parents Give My Sister Thousands of Dollars While I Get Nothing”

“I Think My Mother-in-Law Has Alzheimer’s and I’m Afraid to Leave my Kids With Her”

“My Father is Homeless, But My Husband Won’t Let Him Move in With Us”

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Pregnancy and Parenthood

20 Things Everyone Should Do Before Having Kids

Jackson’s Birth Story

Advice for New Moms (and Dads) / Stuff You Need for Baby’s First Six Months

“How Do You Know When You’re Ready To Have Kids?”

“How Do You Find Balance After You Have a Baby?”

Parenting a Toddler: It Gets Better…. Right?



How to Make Friends After College

“Should I Break Up With My Friend?”

“My Best Friend’s Husband Came On to Me!”

“My Friend in a Wheelchair Gives Me the Creeps”

“My Friend Resents Me For Making More Money Than She Does”

“Can I Dump My Pregnant Friend?”

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20 Wedding “Must-Haves” You DON’T Need

“Do We Have to Invite Plus Ones To Our Wedding?”

My Fiancé’s Groomsman Has No Teeth!

“Should I ask Wedding Guests Why I Haven’t Received a Gift From Them?”

“Being a Bridesmaid is Breaking My Budget!”

“Should I Tell My Friend Why I Don’t Want Her in My Wedding?”

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Making it Work with Co-Workers

“I’m in Love with My Married Boss”

“My Co-Worker is a Relentless Bigoted Sexist”

“Should I Ask My Co-Worker if She’s Anorexic?”

“My Co-Workers Are Jealous of my Promotion”

“My New Office-Mate is So Unprofessional!”

“My Colleague Stabbed Me in the Back!”


Getting along with Roommates

15 Things To Ask Your Potential Roommate Before You Sign a Lease

“I’m Falling for My Roommate!”

“My Baby’s Due in Three Weeks and the Roommate Still Hasn’t Moved Out!”

“My Roommate’s Dating a Psycho”

“Our Roommate Doesn’t Pay Her Rent”

“My Roommate Thinks He’s the ‘True Prophet of Jehovah’”

19 comments… add one
  • Ale July 8, 2015, 12:07 pm

    Those are the cutest photos ever! Congrats!

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    honeybeenicki July 8, 2015, 12:12 pm

    Oh my god. This is wonderful. Jackson looks so excited! And you look amazing! I hope I look half as good after having a baby. I almost sent you an email with a question last night, but for some reason decided you may not get to it before the baby (and turns out I was right!) so I’ll just post it in the forums.

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    Cassie July 8, 2015, 1:10 pm

    Congratulations!! She’s adorable!

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  • Taylor July 8, 2015, 1:51 pm

    Oh wow, just got weepy in my office. Beautiful pictures =) The best indeed.

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  • Jane63 July 8, 2015, 2:20 pm

    Awesome pics! Thanks for sharing.

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  • MissDre July 8, 2015, 2:58 pm

    I would just like to say that I hope I look as good as you do after I have a baby! You look beautiful, and your little family is just perfect 🙂

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  • stickelet July 8, 2015, 7:33 pm

    Adorable. I love how excited Jackson is. Congrats!

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  • Ange July 8, 2015, 9:45 pm

    I love those photos, they are so lovely. Definitely a framer as a collage.

    I’m also loving going through the list bit by bit, it’s a great idea. I must admit being fascinated by the discussion on 50 life skills saying we should know how to hold and change a baby. No shame in my game but I’ve never learned those things precisely because I’ve never wanted to do them. Admittedly I’ve held babies with guidance here and there but I think the last one was….. 2007? Anyway, point being my friends know that I am definitely not the one to call in a babysitting emergency and I think that’s ok. We all have our strengths and weaknesses 🙂

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    • MsMisery July 9, 2015, 12:10 pm

      I can’t hold/change a baby either. I mean, I probably can hold one without dropping it and could probably change one if I were the last person on earth (and the baby), but as an only child who never had children…. why clutter my brain with skillz I don’t need? I will leave that stuff to the pros.

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      • Ange July 9, 2015, 6:36 pm

        Right? I think it’s ok to decide you want to deal with the minimum amount of poo possible in your life lol.

  • Mnjammet July 8, 2015, 9:50 pm

    You are so amazing! I am so happy for you!

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  • Ali July 10, 2015, 8:58 am

    Congratulations! She is adorable and I love her name. So happy for you and your family!

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    Dear Wendy July 10, 2015, 9:03 am

    Thanks, everyone! We got to come home from he hospital yesterday and we’re all doing well. It turns out Joanie is a competitive sleeper and so far is the easiest baby ever. Polar opposite of her big brother, but it’s only day three…

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      honeybeenicki July 10, 2015, 1:24 pm

      That’s awesome! I want a competitive sleeper.

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        Dear Wendy July 11, 2015, 7:18 am

        I really can’t get over it. Last night she woke up maybe three times and was back to sleep as soon as she was changed and fed, no fussing or anything. I’ve slept way better the last two nights that we’ve been home than I did the last couple months of pregnancy. Maybe hard pregnancy = easy baby (I had an easy pregnancy with jackson and a challenging baby). Hope you get an easy baby too!

  • Rangerchic July 10, 2015, 2:43 pm

    Congratulations…she is beautiful! Hope your first week home goes smoothly.

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    Skyblossom July 10, 2015, 4:39 pm

    I love the pictures you keep posting! Thanks for sharing.

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    beelzebarb July 13, 2015, 1:49 pm

    No Ramona? 🙁

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    Miss MJ July 13, 2015, 5:56 pm


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