Another from Intern Claire:
Isn’t it the worst feeling when you don’t know if you’re just a hook-up for a guy or if you’re a potential girlfriend for him? Isn’t it even worse having to bring up the “what are we?” talk after a certain amount of weeks or months go on? But for those of us who are stuck in that “I don’t know if I’m a friend, hook-up or what” place, it feels like there’s a fat elephant in the room until the talk happens.
Thankfully, the “what are we?” talk just got a thousand times easier thanks to an article featured in Glamour and msn.com recently. This article gives you sixteen helpful ways to handle this talk and how to not freak out (or freak him out) if the feelings aren’t mutual. Like this tip:
Did you know that men have an ideal attention-span time? We didn’t either, but according to Diana Kirschner, Ph.D., author of Sealing the Deal: the Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love, men’s testosterone levels drop between 4 p.m. and 6 p.m., which may make it easier for them to listen. “Obviously, if they’re just coming home from some horrible work crisis, you might want to take that into consideration,” she adds.
So ladies, if you’re in the awkward stage of not knowing what you are with your hook-up buddy—friend with benefits or significant other—and you’re tired of beating around the bush about it, do take a look at this article. I know “the talk” is always intimidating (no matter how close you are with him), but with these tips it’ll be much easier for you and your partner.