Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

There’s an App for That: “Should I Break Up with my Boyfriend?”

A Chicago-based programmer who was tired of feeling like shit all the time when it came to her relationship, developed an iPhone app to help her and other people decide whether they’d be happier if they dumped their boyfriends and moved on already. Over a two-week period, users rate how they feel about their boyfriends and record their general life outlook on a daily basis. The app then analyzes the data, revealing how the user’s feelings to her boyfriend corresponds to her general mood. Graphs show how much time a user spends being sad or happy. To avoid being influenced by recent patterns, the “conflicted dater” can’t see the results for several days.

“We‘re quick to forget or dismiss past feelings that don’t fit in with our current mood, which is why seeing larger patterns can give you insight you might not have in the moment,” the developer of the app said. After seeing that her own results revealed a “good” mood only 39 percent of the time (and neutral the rest), she dumped her boyfriend. Of course, she credits the app for helping decide it was time to end the relationship

It’s a clever idea, sure. But here’s an even better one: ask your friends whether they’re sick of hearing you bitch about your boyfriend. Ask them in a course of a two-week period whether you spend more time complaining about him than not and whether you’ve seemed unhappy lately. Or! You can always write to Dear Wendy. I’ll/we’ll tell you whether it’s time to MOA, won’t we?

[via Daily Mail]

10 comments… add one
  • SGMcG June 12, 2012, 1:09 pm

    Although I admire the app creator’s creativity and entrepreneurial spirit, if you have to download an app to answer the question “Should I Break Up with my Boyfriend?” then chances are you’re already thinking about MOAing to begin with.

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    • ktfran June 12, 2012, 1:17 pm

      Hmm . . . you are so right. And it has me thinking that maybe I shouldn’t have bothered with therapy to decide whether or not to call off my engagement. Although, I have to admit, I was more comfortable making that decision after talking through it with a third party.

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  • bittergaymark June 12, 2012, 1:14 pm

    BEFORE I started reading this column and posting here, I would have said that such an app was beyond stupid… But I now think it is sorely needed as few out there seem to have any common sense whatsoever…

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  • katie June 12, 2012, 1:23 pm

    actually, this is kind of a good idea, just in general. when i was in high school, a junior, i met the guy who would become my boyfriend at the beginning of the school year, and then when basketball season rolled around in the fall/beginning of winter and i was doing pre-season stuff, he just looked at me and was like, you know, ive never heard you say anything good about basketball, ever. you have never said anything positive to me about it at all. and that was when i realized i hated playing basketball.

    sometimes you need to see those kinds of things from another perspective, you know?

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  • Kristina June 12, 2012, 1:29 pm

    I keep my relationship fairly private from my friends, so I don’t think they would really know if I should ever end it. I can see why this is useful, though I would never use it–but I like having outside opinions/perspectives in general.

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  • dandywarhol June 12, 2012, 2:22 pm

    If you have to question it enough to download an app…then yes, you probably should break up with your boyfriend. Unless thats just me being bitter again?

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  • Zepp June 12, 2012, 3:39 pm

    As a very in the moment person who tends to see everything in black or white, this is perfect. But I could use this for more than just my relationship.

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    • dandywarhol June 12, 2012, 5:02 pm

      Oooh I do like that idea, “should I dump my friend?”

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    • Sarah Gray (developer of SIBU) June 13, 2012, 8:51 am

      Hi! We’re looking at building other focused decision-tracking applications, such as “Should I Quit My Job?” We have a very generic version called MercuryApp, which is a website (www.mercuryapp.com). We picked breakups, as that was the original thing I used it for. Would love to hear any other ideas besides relationships. Thanks!

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  • Tracey June 13, 2012, 4:49 pm

    Perhaps a “Should I even consider dating him” app might cut down on the need for apps like this one…forewarned is forarmed…just a thought….

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