Drew told me that his grandmother once told him that the key to staying youthful and active is to make two new friends every year. It can be a lot of work sometimes, especially when those friendships suddenly become long-distance ones, but it’s a general rule I’ve tried to stick to. And for clarity, I define a friend as someone I make plans with, confide in, trust, support, and like (as opposed to acquaintances whom I might like and may even confide in but don’t go out of my way to make plans with or extend emotional support to or seek it from, etc.). I think it’s too soon to say whether this rule of making two new friends a year keeps me youthful, but it does keep me active and it enriches my life and it forces me to step outside the comfort bubble of my immediate family and engage in life in ways I might not otherwise if I weren’t actively fostering new relationships.
Other good advice I try to follow:
My dad always said, “Don’t let the bastards get you down.” I haven’t always succeeded at this, but it’s a mantra that I repeat often and do embrace pretty frequently. Especially on the internet, oh my.
On old co-worker of mine from, like, fifteen or sixteen years ago once told me that you have to be with someone four whole seasons before you start making any grand plans for the future together. Definitely, there are people who have super happy and successful relationships that hit the fast track well before that one-year mark, so it’s not like you have to follow this rule or else, but, in general, I have found that it’s a good way to stay present and get to know someone without the pressure of figuring it all out right away.
Drew’s advice to drink a big glass of water before bed, after an evening of drinking, is solid, and if I ever don’t heed this advice, I really regret it the next day.
What is some of the best advice you’ve followed (or not followed)?