Robert is back in the forums again – If you don’t know the saga of Robert, the Cliff Notes version is:
he’s a single man in his mid-40s who has not had the dating success he wishes for. Two years ago he posted in the forums asking for advice on how to communicate with women. And, boy, did we give him advice (the original thread was deleted, but it was several hundred pages eventually)! I even gave him a free profile upgrade for his dating apps (I used to provide a service helping people edit their dating profiles). And, yet, two years later, he is still not having success in the dating world, and his most recent update has inspired a conversation in the forums about red flags that we see in profiles on dating apps, in communication with people we connect with on dating apps, and in first dates. Example: “If a 45+- year-old guy presented himself as a “business owner” or even as self-employed, but then I found out on a first date that he actually drove for Amazon and Uber Eats while not having enough money in the bank for car repairs, I would run far and fast.”
I thought I’d bring the conversation to the main page here and ask: What are some red flags you’ve experienced/seen in your foray(s) in the dating app/dating site world? Are their particular words or phrases that immediately make you run? Anything that triggers a sudden instinct to block?