After my grandmother passed away last month, my cousin uploaded a video to YouTube of an interview she did with our grandma about ten years ago as part of a video editing class. I loved watching the video for several reasons: hearing my grandmother’s voice again; seeing and remembering how she was a decade ago before the ravages of multiple strokes, a heart attack, and the heartbreak of losing her husband took their toll; and learning how she and my grandfather met — a story I guess I never thought to ask for for some reason, and either never knew or maybe once heard but forgot.
In her telling of the story, she was invited to a friend’s church to go Christmas caroling because her own church wasn’t caroling that year and her friend knew how much my grandmother loved that holiday tradition. At the church, she met my grandfather — a tall, handsome redhead. She was 18, he was 24. She thought he was younger and he thought she was older. But, as my great-grandmother said after she met my grandfather, she knew my grandmother was a goner because he was tall (6’4″), went to church, and had red hair. (My grandmother had a lifelong obsession with red hair; I still love the story about how my mom called her to tell Her I was born, and after telling her my sex and my name, she said, “Mom…she has red hair!!” After having four kids who didn’t have red hair, my grandmother could not have been more excited to have her first grandbaby be a redhead, finally.)
When I think about what first attracted me to Drew, I know it happened about an hour into our first date when he made me really laugh. And laugh and laugh. Also, he was so excited about becoming a first-time uncle in a few months and I thought that was pretty sweet. And he not only knew who Lucinda Williams was, but he was a fan, too.
So, what about you? Were there traits that instantly attracted you to your now significant other? (Or, if you don’t have one, what about former partners?) Was it a love at first sight kind of thing or a slow build? Are you still attracted to the traits that first won you over?