2 weeks too fast?
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Hi there,
I need some advice for my friend that just started a relationship with someone. They have only hung out in person for 2 weeks but are head over heels for each other and already talking about moving in together. I would like some advice to she can have some insight on if it’s too fast and she will end up regretting it, or just let her try it for herself and learn from her own experiences. Thanks!
I guess there’s some more information that would be helpful. How did they meet? Is he who seems to be and has she introduced him to friends and family? Is she usually someone who makes good decisions?
Some people do meet, it all clicks into place quickly and is the right thing for them. For others it all crashes and burns.
Unless you have concerns for her safety though, all you can do is be the supportive friend that speaks up if something is off, but otherwise let her make her own mistakes.
Are you actually asking for a friend or are you “asking for a friend”?
Yes, two weeks is very fast to be talking about this stuff and a red flag — if it’s a great fit, that won’t change, so why rush it? — but if this is really about your friend, I think you need to mind your own business.
Hi. It is fine, though pretty fast, that they are excited and talking about a possible future. But they need to continue to date and not move in or spend loads of time together. Let things unfold in time.
A typical timeline is 3 or 4 months for love to be declared and then months after that, talk of further commitment like moving in together. Moving in together right away or soon would almost certainly be a big mistake.The rush is the problem. When it’s real, it’s not rushed forward like this. You don’t know someone well enough after two weeks of dating. All they’ve presented is the very best version of themselves. After six months is when you have better insight.
