I agree.

It sounds like you guys have hit it off – which is great. But it’s very easy for people to hit it off and then for things to go nowhere because nobody actually makes that move.

It’s really easy for people to get the wrong end of the stick and not realise that you’ve actually made it, too. Hell, when I was younger I’ve been in scenarios where I didn’t think I was being asked out (or uh… asked to bed) by people whom I very much wanted to – because both of us were being chickens and hiding behind flirtation and hoping the other person would make their intentions more obvious. Sometimes it slowed things down until one of us worked up the guts to be more explicit about what we wanted and we got together in the end. But there were times where things just petered off because both of us assumed a lack of real interest in the other person beyond the chemistry and flirtation. You don’t want to miss the chance to even try because you both leave it just at that.

I think that chatting and building chemistry and getting to know each other before you ask each other out is great – but it shouldn’t go on for a long time. By now she knows whether she feels chemistry with you, or not. It sounds like she was flirting back – which is a good sign! But If you leave it at vague flirtation for too long, she might assume you just like to flirt and don’t want anything meaningful with her specificially, and if she’s not interested she won’t be sure how to let you down gently, because you’re not techically even asking her out. Asking her out is scary, but if she says no, at least you have an answer.

If you work together and get on there are plenty of excuses to talk to her – just as you’d be able to be friendly with anyone else. It feels more self-conscious when it’s someone you like.