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    Hi guys. I was with this guy fir almost six months but then stuff started to go wrong. By stuff I mean he’d show up late, show less effort, takes ages to reply back and then be childish about it.

    In addition to that if we’d be out and I didn’t listen or spoke over him he would raise his voice at me as that was him “only way to get through to me”. I didn’t like this. I understand I was wrong for not listening but it still felt wrong. I decided the rs was too mcuh for me and chose to break up in May. I did and he begged me to stay. I felt bad and considered giivng a second chance. I did.

    I realised it wasn’t really going well – he was putting in effort and trying to change but I was just not feeling it. Even now – we broken up but I don’t feel the same but he still wants me to try…

    What do I do??

    #1116622 Reply

    Do nothing. This just was not a good fit. You tried twice and you’re sure. You don’t need any more reason than that you’re not feeling it. And it doesn’t matter if he is; you’re not. So just tell him that unfortunately the chemistry is not there and you’re going to need to move on. And that for the good of both of you, you would like to stop talking. And then block him.

    Not that you need a reason, but raising his voice to you in public was a big red flag.

    #1116625 Reply

    Ugh, what you do is stop giving people a second and third chance just because they ask you to. Choose you. Make the best decision for your life and what you want, not this dude.

    Break up for good and block his number if he keeps begging.

    #1116628 Reply

    Words are really easy, but his actions speak volumes. He’s only crying because he’s a man-baby that doesn’t like it when he’s not in control.

    You owe it to yourself to be with a partner that builds you up, not tears you down. You owe him nothing.

    #1116636 Reply

    Thank you guys all for the advice! The last one made me laugh haha 100% true.

    #1116658 Reply
    Avatar photoPhoebe

    You don’t have to get back together with him because he wants it. You don’t need a reason to have broken up with him, and you don’t need a reason NOT to get back with him, and he doesn’t automatically deserve another chance. You know in your gut he’s not the right person for you. Don’t do it.

    #1116892 Reply
    Sasha group 104

    Oh, girl, run away from this guy. He is really stupid. I think, you must remember, that you a queen. The whole world is at your feet. I gave people like that a second chance. It was bad. Run, dear, run

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    Patricia Adams


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