October 30, 2018 at 10:56 am #806541
Guys, I cannot handle the country right now. I’m all out dreading next Tuesday because I’m terrified we will get more of the same. Everything is extra raw since I’m from Pittsburgh. I grew up here. Went to college right near Squirrel Hill and now live just about 30 min from the city. I’m tired of hearing about the mass shootings and then the completely inadequate responses from our leaders. I sure don’t want that asshole coming to my town today. I hear about the stupid amount of troops we are sending to our southern border and just think, look at what has happened this week!? Bombs, shootings! The danger is here! Everyone keeps sharing these images that say, hate can’t break a city of steel (seriously if you haven’t ever been here, it is kind of a weird little town and people are very proud of it and constantly wearing black and gold). I just keep hoping that they are right because some days it feels like hate and bigotry are breaking this country. How are you guys dealing? I’m doing things, writing, calling, volunteering and of course I vote, but it never feels enough.October 30, 2018 at 11:55 am #806545
I feel you. It’s not an exaggeration for me to say that the Trump and his followers a have brought me closer to suicide than anything else in my life.
Some days the only thing that keeps me going is knowing that that is exactly what they want – me silent, dead and preferably buried. I stay around out of spite with a tiny pinch of hope that shrinks every day.October 30, 2018 at 12:11 pm #806547
I’m with you guys, too. It’s constant work to stay semi sane and try to be a joyful person for my kids. It can push those with depression over the edge. It’s treacherous. I am so scared about the midterms, too. Take breaks from the news and social media. Be good to yourself. Exercise, preferably outside in nature. Keep the hope and try to be kind to everyone you meet. It’s so much more brutal of an administration than even I thought it could be.
I’m west of Philly, dmarie. I’ve been meaning to drive out to Pittsburgh because I love all things Mr. Rogers related.
I’m so tired of guns. How about republicans put in the same effort to control guns as they do to control the vote? I’d love that.October 30, 2018 at 12:21 pm #806549
God, it’s all so damn depressing. But, chin up. We can’t let them win. We can’t let them beat us down forever.October 30, 2018 at 12:46 pm #806550
I’m sorry dmarie. The shooting was awful. It must be really difficult to tune it out when it’s in the city you love and think of as your own.
One thing that sometimes helps me is to focus on whatever good I can find. Trump isn’t everybody. It irritates me to no end that we have to send troops to the border because to me this whole caravan seems like a direct result of Trump’s fearful rhetoric and immigration policy shifts.
Another thing that helps me is perspective. One of my parents lived as a child through the end of WWII. My last grandparent who passed gave birth in homes with no electricity (let alone pain relief). My life and my own kids have been fortunate.
I’ve donated, voted, called, and I’ve tried to be active but I can’t let the fear dominate me or ruin my whole life. This is still all the time I get to be here. But I feel you.
My husband and I have made (and are currently making) some choices to feel safer and to make more connections with like-minded people. The military changes have been jarring, the metoo news cycle has felt debilitating at times. The rescinding of DACA felt like it broke my brain, especially since one of my nearest and dearest married an undocumented person whom I’m close to, and continues to support Trump. I think I mentioned a family member who went out and bought a gun, right after the election (another Trump supporter). My primary support system included so many who think differently than I do. I didn’t realize just how large the ideological chasm was until after the election. As silly as it sounds, I really was and continue to feel devastated. I think things will get worse after the election if there isn’t a significant political shift. Trump will start tweeting again, because he enjoys it.
But we still have a justice department and an FBI. In fact they just busted a doctor I know. I’m guessing it had to do with opioid prescription abuse. I can’t tell you how uplifted I’ve felt and how grateful I feel towards all the people who have worked and continue to work in areas that are aimed to keep us safe. I also know people who have gone through foster classes and will be taking in kids who need a temporary safe space.
There is only so much outrage can do. Feeling guilty isn’t helping me add anything to anyone’s life including my own. So sometimes I take breaks. And that’s okay.
October 30, 2018 at 1:10 pm #806552
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I’m there with you too. I’ve been donating and canvassing for Democrats and that helps me sleep a little better. I’m trying to compartmentalize with varying degrees of success each day. I don’t know what I’ll do if we wake up next Wednesday and the GOP still controls Congress, especially if there was low turnout. What more do people need to see to convince them that they need to vote before the right is taken away altogether? (And sure, maybe the economy is doing all right at the moment, but the markets aren’t stable, the deficit is exploding, inflation is increasing and the trade war is just ramping up. The next recession will come and it will be worse than the last one.)October 30, 2018 at 1:11 pm #806553
I’m very hopeful of retaking the House next Tuesday — probably too hopeful for my own good. It will be terribly crushing if that doesn’t happen.October 30, 2018 at 1:51 pm #806556
Agreed. I have a pit in my stomach that won’t go away. I can’t distract myself enough. I could probably do more but I live in bluer than blue land and I can’t phone bank to save my life.
Meanwhile amazing how quiet Jared and Ivanka are during all of this. And Pence that fuckwit had a FREAKING CHRISTIAN RABBI (Jews for Jesus are NOT Jewish folks) give a sermon of peace. That’s a fucking slap in the face of every Jew out there with that schmuck in his tallis (religious shawl) praying to Jeebus.
What keeps me going is the knowledge that while things are bad, and they are really bad, not everything is. Three white woman (all blonde) got canned for being blatant racists. One is walking away with $69M but ok, I’ll take the little things. That and pictures of baby elephants, kittens and puppies. And babies in costumes. Babies in costumes are getting me through right now. Everyone with beebees -give me pictures.October 30, 2018 at 9:29 pm #806587
Seriously, my kids give me life, they are so fucking cute, smart and funny.
It’s been a hard few weeks for me. The Kavanaugh stuff really hit me where it hurts. I think since then it’s been harder to bounce back from the indignities we see each day. And I have it easy.
This morning the headlines were about taking away birthright citizenship and it hit me- no, he’s not. He can’t. He’s just saying what he can right now, to punch us in the gut and hope we don’t vote next week.October 31, 2018 at 10:28 am #806619
Right there with all of you. I’m so freaking grateful I don’t have kids, I don’t know how those of you who are parents do it. My anxiety is off the charts, I cannot imagine worrying about kiddos also. Stay strong.October 31, 2018 at 11:45 am #806633
My kids bring me back to earth. They got to dress up for school this morning. Life keeps spinning irrespective of all the other humans chaos. I’m also in a fortunate position that my spouse is supportive in my battle with anxiety and my kids have other outlets than just me.October 31, 2018 at 12:25 pm #806638
We have friends who were members there. I had to explain my eight year old daughter that there were people who might come murder us at temple. And that monster was back a few days later weaving the same crazy invasion stories that provoked this guy. I’m too numb to even get angry anymore.