From a woman’s perspective, hooking up on a first date is a no for me. In your case it seems you two had a connection and it led to hooking up. Nothing wrong with that. She gave you her honest feedback, it wasn’t for her. You aren’t wrong and neither is she. Everything was consensual unless there is more to the story. If this is exactly what happened then it just didn’t work out.
Be a good guy and respect her wishes just like you would expect from her. Keep dating and find the person who is for you. You may be looking too much into it. I personally think your being judged pretty harshly here, your story seems genuine. Keep dating and enjoy meeting new people.
Rock on @anonymousse and @kate for calling out bullshit and being so very clear about consent.
I lol’ed at Jeff’s use of fake email addresses (bc Wendy would, what, send the “someone is acting like an asshole online” police after him?)
But that had nothing on his efforts a couple pages back to clarify how confusing consent is for possible future readers who might otherwise not get what they need from this thread. For fucks sake, to have the overconfidence of a mediocre man-child.