December 1, 2020 at 12:35 pm #968274
BREAKING NEWS LADIES
I broke up with him. I blocked him. Deleted him on socials, deleted his number, the whole nine yards. And after doing so, I giggled. That may sound sinister but, I’m free yall!!!!
(also in the short convo we had he really just proved him emotional immaturity so that rlly helped me pull the plug.)December 1, 2020 at 12:35 pm #968275
There’s more to life than flowers and cute dates of course, but yes, lots of guys do those things because they enjoy it. And you do things for them that they appreciate as well. That could be a healthy compatible relationship.December 1, 2020 at 12:53 pm #968276LisforLeslieGuest
I’m proud of you for putting yourself FIRST. You have to be your own advocate, set your own boundaries and determine what consequences you’ll impose on people who cross those boundaries.
2 years is a long time but you’re 17 you will totally be OK; if you were 38 I might have a different perspective, but my advice wouldn’t be different.
Being alone doesn’t mean you have to be lonely. There are people who love you and think you’re awesome. Focus on deciding what you want and what works for you.December 1, 2020 at 12:58 pm #968278
thanks queen! love this communityDecember 1, 2020 at 1:09 pm #968279
Now don’t backslide by unblocking him just to see if he’ll contact you, or to look at his socials, or so you can contact him. Just be aware that you’re probably going to be tempted to do that, and don’t do it. It will make everything worse and harder.December 1, 2020 at 1:12 pm #968280
hey i just wanted to ask for some very specific advice really quick.
ive been on prozac for about 4 months now for depression and anxiety. if you’ve taken this you may have also experienced that nasty feeling of coming off of it at night.so i am aware that right now i might be chill with the breakup bc my meds remove a LOT of my anxiety and make me feel kinda numbish so, when i start coming off of it this evening does anyone have any coping mechanisms that work for them? since i’m quite new to the medication i have not figured any out yet.December 1, 2020 at 1:23 pm #968282
You should call whoever prescribed it to you and ask that question, seriously. Please look out for yourself.December 1, 2020 at 2:08 pm #968283anonymousseParticipant
I think knowing you might feel differently later tonight, or tomorrow or a week from now, etc is a first good step. When you’re aware of how your feelings might convince you to do things that aren’t in your self interest, you can get prepared for that. You can remind yourself of what you know to be true- feeling regret is normal, not contacting him is what is best for you. Yes, it takes self control and I would say distracting yourself with books, movies, friends, whatever is your version of self care etc is a good way to even temporarily changing your mood. I would recommend not dating anyone until you build up your self worth quite a lot.December 1, 2020 at 2:08 pm #968284anonymousseParticipant
Yes, if you have a question about your medication you should discuss it with the doctor who prescribed it.December 1, 2020 at 3:21 pm #968287
thank you !December 1, 2020 at 5:23 pm #968307AngeGuest
Good stuff, he sounds ridiculous. I also side eye an 18 year old dating a 15 year old I really do. Enjoy this time before college and work through whatever you need to work through, I’m sure it’ll be easier now you don’t have that dummy to worry about.December 2, 2020 at 10:27 am #968339VillaGuest
You should just tell him that you feel uncomfortable when he do things like that cause it might seem like a small problem but if you don’t talk about it, it’s going to start growing and nobody wants that