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Am I settling?

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  • #864652 Reply

    She’s clingy; he’s a jerk. These two should not be together.

    #864656 Reply

    “I assumed you were cheating on me, so I cheated on you.”

    I mean, really- that was your sign it was time to leave. He’s a jerk who blamed you for what he chose to do.

    The clinginess is too much, but understandable given her age and the cheating, IMO.

    #864660 Reply
    avatarSylvie Fox

    LW: Please read up on anxious and avoidant attachment styles. Please work out what you need in a relationship going forward (with someone else) and then ask for that. If you need daily texting or whatever, you’ll need to be upfront about that with your ‘local’ guy.

    In a perfect world, I hope you can get therapy to help you figure out what to do with your anxiety other than resting it on the shoulders of your next guy.

    #864677 Reply
    avatarCollege girl

    Thank you, Sylvie Fox. The psychology behind the relationship’s issues makes complete sense after researching. Lack of understanding of our attachment styles played a vital role. This information provided me credible knowledge, rather than bias opinions. Thank you!

    #864716 Reply

    Please focus on finishing college and finding a good job after you graduate. Don’t limit yourself for this man. People forget that dating isn’t to be with someone until things completely fall apart, but dating is to figure out what works for you! Obviously you would like someone who keeps in touch more, that’s ok! Hopefully you’ve learned too that people need space, honestly I think your boyfriend was still cheating on you that’s why his phone was off.

    #864718 Reply

    To me it depends on how you guys met. If you guys met in person and really click and are very close to each other then maybe stick it out. But that is not a life. Especially when you guys aren’t visiting each other often. He doesn’t very committed. I think you would be a lot happier with somebody more geographically convenient to you. You have a lot of love to give and I think a closer relationship would be better for you.

    #864720 Reply

    Why does it matter how they met?

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