Am i wrong for feeling gross
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So it all started when my bf and i were having funky time a week or two back. We were getting our rocks off and having a good time when i looked back he was watching a porn video and enjoying it more then he was with me. Instantly ruined the mood for me but i let him keep going till he finished. Now every time we’re about to do it i think back to that and notice that the girl looked nothing like me or even remotely close, does this mean he doesnt like me? Or does it mean he’s bored of me? I feel gross about myself eveytime i think about it or when we’re going to do it. Lately every time we do it its been boring or we just stop as soon as we start or he’s definitely not in the mood. I’m so confused as how to feel about anything. I feel like i have no right to feel the way i do but its just eating away at me.
I do think if people are going to watch porn during sex, they should discuss it with each other. It’s either a solo thing or a couples thing. If it’s a couples thing, then the couple should agree on it. But idk tho.
Why do you feel like you have no right to feel the way you do?
Seriously, examine that.
I would be grossed out if my husband was watching porn without asking me while we were having sex. It would have to be an agreed upon thing, that we were both excited about. Sex is for both of you, not just him. He sounds like he kind of sucks in general, definitely in bed and yet you feel like it’s somehow your fault?
You’re essentially saying you have no right to feel this way, why? You’ve been told your feelings don’t matter? Change that mindset. Ditch this dud.
I’m sorry for my tone, but I cannot tell you how many women write in here saying Am I wrong for feeling disgusted for being treated like a sex doll?
No, you’re not wrong. Stop thinking wanting to be treated differently- not a blow up doll made from human flesh to satisfy only straight sexist men, no judgement if that is truly your calling in life, but pretending to enjoy being treated like crap when you don’t like it is never, ever EVER going to lead to the same man treating you well and with respect.
Be yourself. Be vocal about what you want and stop doing things solely to please others.
Value yourself and honor what you actually want, and what makes you happy and feel fulfilled. This is not doing it for you.
Merry Christmas.
