August 26, 2015 at 8:38 am #373560
May i be stupid and mushy just for a moment? The other night I had both parents in the hospital (Dude, I know right?) and I was bouncing between waiting rooms with both of them and I was texting with tinder teacher to distract myself. And I told him hey, if I’m harassing you or you’re busy I can totally leave you alone just let me know. And his response was “please don’t”.
It was one of the only things that got me to smile that night. It’s not much but hey, it’s something.August 26, 2015 at 9:08 am #373580NookieParticipant
That is really sweet @Veritek, you’re meeting him this Saturday? I’m a little bummed I won’t be around next week to hear how it’s gone. But not totally bummed as I’ll be in Marrakech!
I hope your folks are going to be ok too.August 26, 2015 at 10:48 am #373607ktfranParticipant
That’s so cute Veritek!!! I’m sorry about your parents and hope they are doing better, or will be soon.
Soo…. another awesome date last night. We stayed at my place after. I gave him a toothbrush to use, so now he has one at my place. Is that too soon? I felt a little nervous about it.August 26, 2015 at 10:51 am #373609August 27, 2015 at 5:42 pm #373854LooGuest
@ktfran, what timeline do you think is ideal for calling him your boyfriend? I feel like it is too soon to call my new guy my boyfriend, but I feel like that conversation will come up in the next few weeks. We’ve been dating 7 weeks now.August 27, 2015 at 5:51 pm #373856HmCGuest
That is cute veritek! Awe it is nice to read this thread and see positive things happening, dating can be exciting! But you know, don’t attribute TOO much to stuff like that. It’s charm, and sometimes charm is backed up by a lovely heart and good intentions and sometimes it’s not.August 28, 2015 at 11:09 am #373961
Oh I hear ya @HmC he is very charming. So far no red flags and only good behavior, but we’ll see 🙂 Second date is tomorrow night.August 28, 2015 at 11:13 am #373963HmCGuest
Have fun!!August 28, 2015 at 11:15 am #373966ktfranParticipant
Ooh. Yay Veritek!!!
I don’t know Loo. In the past, I’ve never had the conversation. It always just kind of happened and bam, we’re together. With this buy, it’s too soon for me to broach the subject. But we do spend a lot of time together and text daily. I’m positive he likes me a lot. And even without any kind of exclusive talk, I’m certain that he’s not dating or even looking to date anyone else. Of course, I guess I can’t be 100% sure… but it’s a pretty safe bet.
This is actually the first time in a long time I’m not constantly freaking out or wondering if he’s actually into me. He lets me know he is, and he’s definitely still wooing me. All good signs, I think.August 28, 2015 at 12:29 pm #373989kareGuest
I went on a fifth date yesterday, but I don’t think it’s going to work out. He doesn’t want to have children, and I don’t want to take that off the table. He’s a fun guy though, so I’d be open to being friends with him. Other than that, not much in my world.August 28, 2015 at 1:39 pm #374020hfantodsParticipant
Sorry to hear that kare, but it’s good that you have that standard and you keep it.
I hope second date with Tinder Teacher goes well, veritek!! I also hope your parents feel better soon.
So I’m not going to Ottawa this weekend because they wanted me to start my new job Monday (!), but that means I’m seeing Tinder Finance Guy tomorrow for a third date. I’m starting to feel like I should be asking more serious questions, but I don’t know what. Like, is he looking for a relationship, does he want kids at some point, exes (but do I bring up my lack of experience?).. And I’m still testing out chemistry too.
He also said that hearing I was free “made his day” and that he can’t wait to see me again. I think it’s a bit too much, but am I being really cold? Why am I uncomfortable with compliments/flattery?August 28, 2015 at 1:45 pm #374022KGuest
@hfantods, did a past boyfriend not compliment you/flatter you? When I first started dating my boyfriend, I was a bit overwhelmed by his affection and compliments. It’s because I had recently gotten out of a relationship that I knew was going nowhere, but that guy never complimented me, made it near impossible to see him (always busy with work), etc. It was a big change, and obviously a good one.