August 28, 2015 at 2:22 pm #374035MoneypennyParticipant
@Hfantods, I think I can understand where you’re coming from a little. I have gone out with a couple of men who, from the get go, give me lots of compliments and while I’m flattered, part of me feels a little uneasy. Mainly because I feel like they don’t know me yet, I’m still feeling things out, and they are (possibly) moving way too fast for me. In my experience, it’s the guys who, after one date, tell me I’m amazing, so beautiful, special, etc etc and it makes me feel a little weird. I think it’s just me and what I’m comfortable with.August 28, 2015 at 2:41 pm #374039StonegypsyParticipant
Yeah, I always get a little suspicious when people are too flattering too quickly. Like, you’ve spent all of two hours with me. You can’t possibly know if I’m amazing and intelligent. And stop talking about how pretty I am, it’s making me feel like that is all you’re seeing.
So… I get where you’re coming from.August 29, 2015 at 7:32 pm #379380hfantodsParticipant
Yeah, it’s a bit of a mix of not feeling comfortable with compliments and then also moving too quickly kind of thing. That said, my third date with Tinder Finance Guy went pretty well today and I’m feeling more comfortable with him. I went over to his place in the morning and he made us breakfast including a lot of cut fruit/fruit arrangement, which was kind of impressive. Then we went to a street festival.
Later on he asked if I wanted to continue to hang out and I said yeah and he said he did too, so things seem to be progressing! We haven’t had a night time date and physically there’s not much yet. I do want to take things slowly but I guess that’s the next step.August 30, 2015 at 12:25 pm #379402ktfranParticipant
I echo others in that too many or too flattering of compliments too soon makes me a bit uncomfortable. I’m glad the third date went well though hfan!!!! The breakfast date was a fantastic idea.
Ver, how was your second date?
I had dinner plans with girlfriends Friday night, then I went over to the guy’s apartment and didn’t leave until this morning. In fact, we only left once to get coffee and go to the grocery store. Great weekend!!!! He also mentioned a day trip our coworker Lisa and their crew are doing. He mentioned me going, and I said that I would need an invite. He said he was… And I was like wait, can we do that? This is work people. And he said it was fine…. So that made me feel pretty good, that he’s ok with coworkers knowing about us now.August 30, 2015 at 4:59 pm #379408veritek33Participant
You guys. My date lasted 19 hours. And involved lots of naked adult time. 7 times. And snuggling. And wine. And I asked him how he felt about dating a girl that lives 2 1/2 hours away, and he said it will be hard but we should give it a shot. so I’m going up there in two weeks. Which will give me time to recover. But seriously. Damn, tinder teacher!August 30, 2015 at 5:10 pm #379409LadyinPurpleNotRedParticipant
Woooooo! Go Veritek, GO!!! That’s awesome.August 30, 2015 at 5:51 pm #379410hfantodsParticipant
Yeah, girl!!August 30, 2015 at 5:55 pm #379411AngeGuest
7 times?!?! I feel sore on your behalf, well done!August 30, 2015 at 6:00 pm #379412veritek33Participant
Lol blows my previous record of four times in one night out of the water. i’m spending the rest of the day hydrating and stretchingAugust 30, 2015 at 6:36 pm #379413mrmidtwentiesParticipant
7 times?!?!?! Way to go him and you!August 30, 2015 at 7:36 pm #379414kareGuest
Get it veritek! But holy shit 7 times, I would die.
I need to tell the guy I’ve been seeing that we should just be friends, but I had a shitty day yesterday (long story short my brother hasn’t been home in almost 2 weeks and is probabaly using again) and hung out with him. It feels like we’re just friends when we hang out, but then we did some more than friendly things once we were at his place. I might negotiate a FWB type thing, as long as it doesn’t interfere with me going out on real dates. I have a shitty work week coming up (daily meetings until we finish a project 30 days ahead of schedule!), so I doubt I’ll have time to do anything with anyone.
And ktfran, that’s exciting if he’s ready to let work people know! I’m so glad people are having fun dates!August 30, 2015 at 9:07 pm #379420MoneypennyParticipant
Woohoo! Get it girl! I will now break out one of my favorite gifs: http://imgur.com/gallery/P1QYppj
I’m glad everyone’s having good dates lately! 🙂
I, on the other hand, am not getting anywhere. It’s either: A guy messages me, we chat back and forth (over a few days), then he disappears. Or, I initiate, and the guy never replies. Oh well. My 1-year-since-last-had-the-sex is coming up next weekend (easy to remember, Labor Day weekend, haha!), but luckily I will be busy, out on the town with BitterGayMark! Oh yes, that’s right! We are hanging out and drinking tiki drinks! And, at least my job and workouts/healthy stuff are going well. So all is not lost! (I hope?)