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  • TheHizzy
    December 20, 2018 at 10:10 am #812641

    We don’t do gifts. We are on “saving for the wedding” mode so I just got my brother and SIL gifts that they had wanted.

    I haven’t sent anything to my parents. I feel at a loss for that but they also know we’re saving. I might try to send them a gift card.

    I have my first dress fitting coming up, so I’m pretty excited to make it fit and look nice. It’s a beautiful dress but I don’t love it because I was basically swimming in it 🙁

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    December 20, 2018 at 2:47 pm #812702

    I am petitioning to officially change the name of the funny bone to the WTF bone. AHHH… Doesn’t help that I am a klutz. I swear if I ever have an autopsy they will think I was beat and tortured my whole life.


    @TheHizzy
    yah on wedding dress! I bet it will be so exciting to see it actually fit you better.

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    JD
    December 23, 2018 at 6:25 pm #812961

    Kid if off to moms. He wore his ugly Xmas sweater to the airport. I was cracking up. There were emotional support dogs all around which is so fun to see dogs of course. It was actually really nice to go, we walk him to security, and see all the families reuniniting for the holiday. I cried a little. Kids running into grandparents arms. Made me feel warm and fuzzy.

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    Fyodor
    December 24, 2018 at 5:50 am #812977

    I love dogs and don’t mind them on the plane but I think that the giant spike in purported emotional support dogs around the holidays has a lot to do with people not wanting to make long term boarding arrangements for their pets when they go home.

    I hope that you got a picture of him in his Xmas sweater. Teenagers appreciate when you keep record of these events.

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    JD
    December 24, 2018 at 8:09 am #812980

    I meant the airport ones. They bring them in.l and they walk around the airport to calm people. Not people’s dogs that fly. I should have clarified.

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    Kate
    December 24, 2018 at 8:11 am #812981

    Yeah,I love dogs too, but these are not emotional support dogs. You can buy a “support dog” kit online. My uncle got one for his collie last year when he drove cross country with him and wanted to make sure they could get into motels. Seems like every flight I’m on now has some kind of large dog lying in the aisle. One poor dog pooped a big runny mess at the gate as soon as he got off, thank god he didn’t do it on the plane. There’s a jumpy-ass French bulldog here at our resort with a support dog outfit on. Super cute, but lady, that’s your pet. Meanwhile I’m paying $60 a night for my dog to stay at a cageless place in Boston that caters to the elderly and special needs.

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    Kate
    December 24, 2018 at 8:12 am #812982

    Oh the ones that work at the airport are awesome.

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    JD
    December 24, 2018 at 8:23 am #812983

    Ya. Sadly the airlines charging so much has a lot to do with it. $25 per bag, $150 for an animal. I wouldn’t bring my dog just on a trip but I did have to fly with him when I moved. It was stressful for me quite frankly. Worried he’d pee somewhere, keeping him in his bag when he didn’t want to. He did pretty well in the end but it was not something I’d love to do again. I did get my dog an emotional support kit, not for the flight but because my last apartment manager told me to to not pay the $1200, insane, deposit that there’s no way is ever get back even with him not damaging anything, plus another $200 a month. It was slightly shady but it was their idea so I did it. He never once peed on the carpet and they charged me to replace it as it is saying he did, they even sent pics, writing another apartment number on it. Still fighting that since clearly it wasn’t mine but they have my deposit until I win that battle.

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    December 27, 2018 at 9:47 am #813308

    May I ask a bit of advice? If you scroll through the early days of this thread you’ll see that I dated a guy that was crazy, like legit crazy. Bought me a star on the first date – ring a bell?

    So then he sent me threatening texts in June 2016 and I blocked him on everything. Well this past spring he found me on snapchat and apologized for his behavior. I said thanks and he then said he wanted to win me back etc, blah blah I had to block him again. Apparently he showed up at my door last week when my boyfriend was at the house but my roommate and I were gone. I thought he lived in another state. He really rattled my boyfriend and told him that we’d dated a few years ago and hung out a few times since then, were still in contact, etc. None of that is true. I haven’t seen him since May 2016. What do I do? He hasn’t threatened me or the boyfriend but i’m completely unnerved that he showed up at my door. I’ve blocked him on everything I can think of and I don’t even have his phone number anymore. Is this worth reporting to the police? Anyone have any ideas what I can do?

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    JD
    December 27, 2018 at 9:52 am #813309

    Yes you need to report this to the police. They may not have anything to press any charges on but they keep reports and build cases on those reports. He found out where you lived and showed up? Not sure if he already knew were you lived. They will at the least take notes on this and each continued incident which can help you later.

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    TheRascal
    December 27, 2018 at 10:00 am #813310

    @Veritek that is so frightening.

    I recommend that you document everything, every message you still have, any screenshots you are able to take. Write down the time, date, and what your boyf recollects of your ex’s visit.

    I’d also recommend calling the non-emergency police number to report/ask what you can do. If you have any lawyer friends, maybe drop them a line and ask for legal advice.

    Guys like your ex are disturbing and you need to be proactive in protecting yourself, legally and physically. You should practice situational awareness whenever you are out and about. Might be worth it to have a safe word that you can text your boyf and roommate in the event he confronts you in person, so that if you can text it to them, they will automatically know that you are in distress.

    Very sorry this creep is trying to get back in your life. My recs may seem alarmist, but what you say about him makes all my internal warning bells go off full volume.

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    December 27, 2018 at 10:06 am #813311

    @JD he had been to my house once in April 2016 so he either remembered how to get there or looked up property records I guess.

    TheRascal – I was debating calling the cops on the non emergent number too. I also might get one of those video doorbells so I can see if he’s around the house again. He’s never threatened me with violence but he’s just so unstable. I’ve told the roommate and boyfriend to keep the doors and windows locked all the time.

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