- May 2, 2019 at 6:56 pm #842363
I’ve been to three weddings in ten years, including my sister’s and a cousin that is actually divorcing right now. My closest friends aren’t married and aren’t planning to get married. A couple friends got married and didn’t invite me, for whatever reason.May 2, 2019 at 8:00 pm #842369
Weddings have been the big gay tax for me. I have bought stylish wedding gift after stylish wedding gift. Talk about money I will never get back.May 2, 2019 at 9:56 pm #842380
I’ve also been to 3 weddings in 10 years (actually 12): one was my best friend, which I was a bridesmaid in; one was a coworker; and one was my cousin’s last weekend. It has just so happened that many of the people I meet are already married or haven’t gotten married yet. Then again, my other cousin is getting married this summer and his fiancee is being a toolbag to my aunt, his mom. SO much drama, it’s exhausting. Ironically my aunt is fighting with her future daughter-in-law right now because she is going to take away the plus-ones for me and my sister and she’s pissed. Lol. I just find it all pretty amusing and think it’s ridiculous that there’s so much drama.May 3, 2019 at 7:47 am #842393
I was down to elope after having gone to 24 weddings in the last 13 years. A lot of my college friends got married shortly after school. There were a couple years that there were like 5 weddings. It was pretty bonkers. I’m the last of the college friends to get married. And really, last of the high school friends. I’m not the last of the cousins though.
Of those 24 only 1 is divorced. I kinda knew it before they got married too. I was like “Really, she wants HIM?” because he was a giant tool bag. She’s already planning her second wedding, and not engaged yet. Totally up to her, she claims to not want a big wedding again but has dropped hints.
RE: Dating profile professionals. I think it’s a good thing! So many people are meeting online now and it’s good to have someone really do your profile well. So many people get passed on because they don’t have a great profile. I know mine was crap. I also didn’t give a f*ck. I can only imagine with FMH’s looked like.May 3, 2019 at 8:20 am #842397
I was actually swiping on Tinder a couple nights ago and found my cousin there (the one that is divorcing). Closed my account inmediately.May 3, 2019 at 8:28 am #842398
Re the professionals, I think that the outsourcing initial communicatons is pretty dishonest.May 3, 2019 at 8:39 am #842399
The outsourcing communication is definitely weird and I would feel like I was duped.
The helping with the profile/photos… even some of the writing, totally ok. If I were to seriously use a dating app, I probably would have asked/paid Wendy to help overhaul it.May 3, 2019 at 8:44 am #842401
Totally support getting professional help with the profile, but sorry, all communications need to be from the actual dater, not their agent. The communication needs to be totally authentic. Even with the profile, someone should not be writing it for the dater from scratch. You should already have done your best with the profile, and the professional is polishing it for you.May 3, 2019 at 8:57 am #842402
Finding out that you’ve been talking to a paid professional and not your date would be a deal breaker for me.May 3, 2019 at 9:10 am #842404
Yeah, I look at that like when I used Monster to polish my resume: I had the bones of it and the content; they structured and polished it. I would never expect Monster to go on a job interview for me or communicate with a potential employer on my behalf.
Anyone have fun weekend plans? I do – I am going to see Iliza Shlesinger perform (she’s my FAVORITE comic) and I’ll be in the second row and then I get to MEET HER!! I am over the moon excited. I’m taking one of my guy friends with me. Ironically I have an open mic right beforehand about 2 blocks away so I hope I can do both (open mic starts at 6:30 and the concert starts at 7). Comedy has been going really well and I’ve been booked in some really awesome shows lately. I’m pretty happy. 🙂May 3, 2019 at 9:36 am #842406
Derby party at the new club we joined. I got a $200 dress for $40 on Poshmark from some young woman who lives in Kentucky and has several of these dresses from the Vineyard Vines Derby Collection, lol. It’s strapless and blue gingham with a hot pink sash and little pink horseshoes embroidered on it. I got a little fascinator hat to match for $10. My husband has the red pants, a fancy blue blazer with red trim, and I got him a straw hat on Amazon with a red and blue band. He won’t wear a bow tie, but that would really take it to the right level.May 3, 2019 at 9:38 am #842407
I wondered about the make-over described in the article, too. It’s great that she helped him with his wardrobe for the photos, but I think if I saw photos of a guy who is well groomed/dressed, but when we went out or started dating, he was completely different, I’d find that off-putting as well. The guy profiled didn’t seem like a total slob or anything, but seemed uncomfortable in the clothes she picked out for him cause it’s not who he is. It’s great to put your best foot forward, but yeah, needs to be true to you.
I have a work meeting tomorrow morning, which is unfortunate, but BG and I are going to a wedding tomorrow night. It rained for like four days straight here, and we had a freak snow storm last weekend, but today is shaping up to be lovely and I think tomorrow will be too.