- January 24, 2020 at 12:47 pm #873482
I think even if you were at 3 months in, this would be fine, assuming you’d met her before.January 24, 2020 at 12:51 pm #873483CopaParticipant
So I posted about something similar in this thread a few months ago when I won Hamilton tickets and felt shy/nervous about asking BG’s mom to come with me. Like Kate said, it’s lower stakes, but doesn’t necessarily feel like it because it’s a small but new way of putting yourself out there.
Anyway, if you want to ask her — ask her! I didn’t have BG’s mom’s number at the time, so I had him ask her for me. You can ask him to get in touch with her directly even if you have her contact info if you don’t feel comfortable doing so. If it’s something she’s genuinely interested in and tickets are hard to come by, she’ll probably say yes. If she says no, she’ll probably be happy you thought of her and relay back a polite no and then you ask a friend. (BG’s mom couldn’t come to Hamilton with me, she was out of town, but she appreciated being asked and I was happy I put myself out there.)
It’s fine to turn this into an opportunity to bond with your boyfriend’s sister if that’s how you’re feeling. If you’d rather go with your boyfriend, wait to see if he can come before inviting anyone else (obviously).January 27, 2020 at 11:59 am #873717
LadyE – no advice but I work with Kathleen’s brother (the one she mentions a lot in her sets) and so she has at least one show a year in the College town I work in. Totally worth it to see her live – got to see her in May 2019 with Lewis Black and she’s awesome. Her brother is also awesome and equally as funny.January 27, 2020 at 5:48 pm #873761TheLadyEGuest
OMG Ver, that’s awesome! Pat Madigan? I feel like I know him from how much she talks about him onstage, haha. Like how he forbid her from talking about missing flight 370 and how he tries to get her to be more responsible with money, and how he said they should take their parents out as the decoy car when they decide to drink on the golf course.
I actually saw her live about a year and a half ago with a friend, but I had just had a random allergic reaction that day and my eyes were swelled up so I looked like Quasimodo and felt miserable. Hopefully this time will be more fun, even though we’re in the balcony because stupid Ticketmaster didn’t send me an email about the tickets until after they’d gone on sale…*grumble*.January 28, 2020 at 9:16 am #873809hfantodsParticipant
This is off topic but I know there are some dog owners here. My friend found out her dog has an aggressive cancer. About two more months expected. The dog is only five years old. So sad. The dog seems still normal now so I am glad he doesn’t “know” but he can deteriorate quickly. Once again I am not sure what to do.January 28, 2020 at 11:26 am #873834
@LadyE the one and only Patrick Madigan (of like 4 John Patrick Madigans). And we work in a financial services industry so that gives a bit of context 🙂January 28, 2020 at 11:48 am #873836
@hfantods, that happened to my parents’ dog in 2012. She was also only 5. Happened to me too with my 8-year-old dog a few years prior. It’s… seriously the worst. It broke my parents’ heart and they probably never really got over it. They feel they could not go through it again and won’t get another dog. I would expect your friend to be going through some major dark times and be very very sad for a while. I guess I would just extend your sympathy and say you know this is one of the hardest things to go through. Maybe see if she wants to go to dinner or something. Tell her how awesome her dog is and how much you know she loves him. When he passes, send a card. If you have any pics of him, send them along.January 28, 2020 at 5:39 pm #873862hfantodsParticipant
Agh sorry to hear that Kate. Yeah going out for a meal would be good. Just super sad.January 28, 2020 at 6:06 pm #873863
I just lost a dog 3 months ago, albeit he was 13. It hurts so bad, and there’s this big hole in your life and the house is too quiet. Also, you have a relationship with your dog that’s really not like any human relationship that you have, because it’s not complicated by any bullshit, it’s just pure love. And you’re totally responsible for them, so when something happens, you FEEL responsible. It’s really terrible. The best I can say is take her out, she’ll be lonely.February 3, 2020 at 10:38 am #874234CopaParticipant
BG and I had a super busy weekend! His dad was/still is in town from NY, and my aunt, uncle, cousin, and her two baby girls were in town as well. The weekend was a blur of family time and I’m less-than-rested on this Monday morning. But, I’m glad BG finally got to meet more of my family. I feel like we see his often due to proximity, but mine’s farther away. My aunt whispered to me as I was leaving that she really liked him, which meant a lot. I’ve been talking to my therapist lately about how I do find myself wishing for a bit of validation (not sure if this is the word I’m searching for) from my family that he’s as great as I think he is. My nuclear family is probably weirdly unemotional and we’re not very close — like before BG I just kinda felt like I existed alone, figured everything out alone, my parents truly do not care about my dating life and have never asked — but his family is so enthusiastic about me and I’ve been finding myself wishing for the same response from mine.February 3, 2020 at 10:42 am #874235
Well, what would such a response mean to you, or do for you?February 3, 2020 at 10:49 am #874241
I’m glad they liked him Copa. I can’t say my family is exactly the same but they just don’t get excited about much….so when they say they love my fiancé, it makes me happy. I think we all want our families to love the people we’ve chosen.