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    bittergaymarkBittergaymark
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    No worries, TheLadyE: it just really cracked me up. I was like — Dang, I’m sorry, but TheLadyE REALLY needs to take parenting classes if her Girls are peeing on people all the time. 😉

    #884867 Reply
    bittergaymarkBittergaymark
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    No worries, TheLadyE: it just really cracked me up. I was like — Dang, I’m sorry, but TheLadyE REALLY needs to take parenting classes if her Girls are peeing on people all the time. 😉

    #884917 Reply
    veritek33veritek33
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    @LadyE and @BGM I literally laughed out loud at all of this exchange!

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    avatarFyodor
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    I missed the last month of your thread. Mazel tov veritek on your wedding.

    #885231 Reply
    veritek33veritek33
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    Thank you Fyodor! 1.5 months in and we still like each other! We were even featured in the local paper yesterday in a story about pandemic weddings!

    #891175 Reply
    veritek33veritek33
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    Sister in law is back on her bullshit.

    Her May Disney wedding has been postponed twice because Florida is a mess. I have SO MUCH sympathy for that, I really do. We sent her and her fiancé a cake and a wedding gift the week of her original date. I’ve offered to throw her a bridal shower because she has no bridal party or any close friends. We’ve left our travel schedule open for the new wedding date (next year) and gave up any ideas of a honeymoon for her wedding. Now her wedding has been postponed again to next year.

    She was at my house yesterday and three times made snarky comments about “well at least you got married” or “at least you got your wedding” – and so far I’ve kept my mouth shut – but I’m done now. (Comments were made when she saw some of our wedding photos displayed and when my mother and father in law saw our wine bottles that were supposed to be centerpieces at our originally planned wedding)

    We did not get the wedding we wanted or planned. My best friend in the world did not get to stand beside me as I said my vows like I did as her maid of honor. My grandparents, whose anniversary we got married on, did not get to be there. My husband did not get his best man standing beside him or his grandfather there. We did not get our first dance or our cake or our flowers. We made the best of a shitty situation because we wanted to be married and I’m tired of apologizing for the fact we got to have a legal ceremony. How can I respond in the future when she makes these comments? I just smiled and nodded yesterday but I’m done. ESPECIALLY in my home.

    #891177 Reply
    avatarktfran
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    Really, it’s as simple as saying “Yes, but we didn’t have the exact wedding we wanted, you can also get married any time you choose.”

    And then stop responding.

    Or don’t respond at all. Continue as if she said nothing.

    #891178 Reply
    CopaCopa
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    You’re being more gracious than I’d be. Is there a reason she can’t actually get married right now? Like is a courthouse ceremony not an option where she lives? Because if all she wants is to get married, it seems to me she should be able to have some kind of Plan B wedding. I’d probably be telling her bluntly she can still get legally married now and have a celebration more in line with what she was hoping for later. A LOT of people are doing that right now.

    #891179 Reply
    CopaCopa
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    As a side note, one of my coworkers was originally supposed to get married in early May. That pretty quickly was no longer an option for them, and in late March they rebooked at the same venue for an early August date. The venue recently came back and said NOPE, early August won’t work after all, sorry. So they just booked another venue for that same early August date, and had to alter the original guest list as well as the logistics for other wedding events they’d planned (welcome drinks, farewell brunch). Neither of their families are from the area and I’m kind of surprised, given how seriously she’s taken COVID, that she’s still moving forward with what will be a destination wedding for the vast majority of guests. At this point I think the courthouse option with a reception planned for maybe 2021 would’ve been easier than replanning the event three times.

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    #891182 Reply
    veritek33veritek33
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    It has been pointed out to her that she can get married now and have the celebration next year. But she only wants her magical Disney princess wedding. she doesn’t care about being married. Honestly I was gracious because my mother and father in law were there but if they hadn’t been, I probably would not have been as kind. I’m just tired of it. I’m sure if we get pregnant that will ruin her wedding too.

    As long as her wedding keeps being postponed she gets to be the victim and get attention. Sigh.

    #891184 Reply
    avatarktfran
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    Just stop responding. Continue on with your conversation as is she said nothing.

    This is who she is. She wants people to react and feel sorry for her. It won’t change. So don’t react.

    #891186 Reply
    veritek33veritek33
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    @Copa we have a Halloween reception planned but honestly if Missouri keeps fucking around that might not be an option. Even though it’s an outdoor venue with plenty of room for distancing. If we cancel that I’m done. We are married and clearly not meant to have a big wedding lol.

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