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October 5, 2020 at 7:12 am #962903hfantodsParticipant
My boyfriend comes home tomorrow after being away for five weeks! I’m so excited. I’ve tried not to think about it but now that it’s almost here I’m so happy. It’s his birthday Thursday too. We both had crazy Septembers but we supported each other the best we could with the distance. Hope his flights go smoothly today and tomorrow!
What kind of duplicates did you get rid of copa? I’m just thinking that my boyfriend and I each have a nice set of pots and pans though his are a bit nicer. I wouldn’t want to get rid of either. I am kind of a pack rat though.October 5, 2020 at 9:25 am #962908MaterialsGirlParticipant
One of our neighbors stopped by yesterday with a bottle of wine! hooray! They are some of the original owners in the hood, and it was a very nice welcome (and extremely helpful “knock anytime” types).
Weekend was fairly productive with washing walls in the kids rooms and unpacking more. Made first dinner in the new place (pozole in the slow cooker, so nothing fancy, but not take out). The week ahead is nuts.. my daughter turned two, so hopefully mask-wearing goes well today at daycare. I need to take a day off work to pain or do something. I know what little energy I still have will be rapidly decreasing as i get further and further alongOctober 5, 2020 at 10:01 am #962913
@hfantods glad you get to see your boyfriend! Keep the pots in storage for when the other sets gets worn or damaged and you already have replacements!
@MG aren’t friendly neighbors the best? I had terrible ones and now I have the nicest neighbors on the planet that check on the place and catch our dog when he escapes the fence.
In wedding reception news – I finally negotiated to only lose HALF my deposit, which is still a significant chunk of our money but it is what it is and the event is cancelled. I’m still annoyed looking around and seeing all the couples in Missouri still having weddings and celebrating with hundreds of people as if nothing is happening. I couldn’t have more than 10 people at my wedding and I followed the rules when Missouri had less than a dozen cases of covid. It’s the right thing to do but I’m so very resentful of the people doing whatever they want right now.
But in other happy news, we get to keep the money we would have spent on the reception and use it for other things. We plan to do a 5 year anniversary vow renewal and have a huge party in 2025. And I’m one week left in the first trimester and we can start telling more people about the fetus I’m cooking.October 5, 2020 at 11:22 am #962927
@hfantods We had so many duplicates! Two couches (he donated his), three beds (he donated one), two kitchen tables with chairs (I donated mine), two TV stands (he donated his). We currently have five TVs for our 2B/2B — ridiculous, I know — because the previous owner left his mounted, I had one, and BG had three. I got rid of my plates because mine didn’t match and he has a nice enough matching set. I got rid of my drinking glasses cause I no longer had a full set, and we both donated quite a few mugs (we still have a lot of them). His pots were nicer than mine, my pans were nicer — I’d actually like to upgrade some of these items in the near-ish future. Donated my crockpot because his is nicer. I have quite a few kitchen gadgets (Instant Pot, air fryer, waffle iron, immersion blender, toaster oven, baking essentials, etc.) because I like cooking — luckily he didn’t have a lot of these because he doesn’t care as much about cooking, but for two avid cooks/bakers, I can see this being an issue. He had a TON of barware and donated some, but we still have a lot. We tried to do a lot of the donations before the move and I think we did a pretty good job of it, but we still found ourselves sorting through that stuff once we got into the new place. And then we’d see whose stuff was in better shape and if there was any emotional attachment to certain items. I underestimated how long it would take to unpack and organize.
I will also add, the older I get, the more wedding registries annoy me. Now that I’ve had to go through the process of combining two households worth of stuff, they annoy me even more. My married friends have all been through this exact process before, but still asked for more stuff/to buy their upgrades for them. I’ve felt for a long time that if I ever get married, I wouldn’t register, and now I’m 1,000% sure I won’t.October 7, 2020 at 11:20 am #963001Cleopatra_30ParticipantOctober 7, 2020 at 2:10 pm #963008RangerchicParticipant
@V – my best friends dad lives in Missouri (he’s in his 70’s). Him and his wife (who is early 60’s I think) attended her moms funeral and both came down with Covid. She ended up doing ok – my friends dad though – has been in the hospital for 6 weeks. He is still struggling to beat the pneumonia that Covid caused. He was recently moved from Covid ICU to regular ICU but still wearing a breathing machine gig. So it is still alive and kicking in Missouri! (Oh and congrats on the bun in your oven!)!!
My family is in Arkansas and I really, really, want to visit them for Christmas. But I just don’t think I can risk it. They have kids in school and my brother is a teacher. Sigh….I guess I’ll keep waiting.
In other news my anniversary (22 years!) is this Saturday so date night here at the house 🙂 I’m excited!October 7, 2020 at 4:12 pm #963012
Happy anniversary, @Rangerchic! Twenty-two years is such a long time. What is the plan for date night?
@veritek I’m glad you were able to get some of your deposit back. You’ll have to let us know how SIL reacts to the news of your pregnancy, too!
ETA: BG’s sister lives in South Carolina with her husband (a Trump supporter) and their kids. She offered to host Thanksgiving this year but I am adamantly opposed to going. Trying not to make a big stink out of it, but told BG I’d like to lay low this year and he’s ok with that. His bro and SIL were originally onboard with the trip until they saw pics of his sister and her husband on social media hanging out in a huge group with zero precautions being taken. I didn’t need to see the pics to know they’re acting like nothing’s changed. BG’s mom’s side of the family lives locally and I can see them still doing their large annual get-together this year and I don’t want to go to that either.
October 7, 2020 at 10:27 pm #963018RangerchicParticipant
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Thanks @Copa! I plan to make patty melts and tots and pick up a cake. Nothing fancy…I thought about getting some take-out but I really prefer my cooking to take-out most of the time LOL! Last year we were in Ireland…missing being able to travel. I hope you are enjoying your new place! How’s unpacking going?October 12, 2020 at 1:39 pm #963148
Patty melts, tots, and a cake sounds like a great anniversary dinner to me!
Unpacking is going well! Everything is out of boxes but we still need to find permanent places for some of our items and need to get art on the walls. It’s taking longer than I thought! His mom and stepdad actually brought by some of their old patio furniture for our rooftop on Friday, which was super generous of them, and they were all able to have a drink together up there.October 13, 2020 at 11:55 am #963168
Copa did you mention a rooftop patio before? Because that sounds awesome.
As for the SIL finding out about our pregnancy – my husband’s father forced our hands and now we know we can’t trust him with any secrets ever again.
We told MofV’s parent’s right before my first dr appointment because we knew we’d need support from our parents if anything was wrong (i was in a car accident before we knew i was pregnant so i was concerned). We asked them NOT to tell his sister. A few days later at a small family gathering FIL drank too much and started loudly asking us questions about the baby in front of her, which caused her to cry and storm out. As much as I dislike her, she didn’t deserve to find out that way and I’m still mad at my FIL for that. It should have been our decision when to share the news with more people and not his.
My husband had a private phone call with her that I left the house for and she was not happy with how she found out but understood why we were waiting on telling people. She claims she’s happy about it so I’ll take her word for it at this point. But I’m still going to be very careful around her.October 13, 2020 at 12:52 pm #963170
Yeah! We’re in one of the top floor units of our building and have the rooftop to ourselves. The previous owner left a grill, high top table and stools, and a hammock, and we already had zero gravity chairs, so we’ve already been able to have a few people over outside. We figured buying patio furniture was a problem for 2021 — but his mom and stepdad had some old love seats, ottomans, chairs, and tables. I was out of town when they dropped by and had no idea they were bringing anything so I was pleasantly surprised when I got home. BG put a TV out there and watches sports on the roof, haha. Now that we have comfortable furniture, we might splurge on some heaters or something this year after all so that we can take advantage of our outdoor space a little longer.
So I can understand SIL feeling like she should’ve been told that you guys are expecting in a different way, but bursting into tears and storming out of the room sounds so dramatic. Good grief. Although, really, I would’ve expected her to have that reaction because you’re “overshadowing” her fairytale Disney wedding rather than feeling left out of the news. But, yeah, if she says she’s happy, you can just take it at face value for now and assume she means it unless/until she pulls some kind of drama queen stunt.October 13, 2020 at 1:44 pm #963173
That roof sounds amazing! Can you have a portable fire pit? Or is open flame a no no?
And yeah, drama is her middle name. I was honestly shocked that she wasn’t more mad that the baby is due three weeks after her wedding but maybe she realizes we couldn’t really help that? We had been trying for a few months and had no idea when it might work.
But it’s all a guess anyway. It could come before or after that. I’m sure the closer we get and the more attention is put on the baby it might bring out her true feelings.
Or maybe she’s growing up? We can hope.