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    avatarKate
    Keymaster

    I really don’t want to socialize. Not at all. I’m fine with this one couple who are about to have a baby, because they’re really careful. They’re my husband’s friends. I don’t even want to see my own friends.

    But I’m keeping my conversational skills sharp right now by doing a bunch of in-depth interviews with small business owners on Zoom. My startup sold a project to one of the telecom/internet companies and we’re starting with this background research. Meanwhile I work 32-40 hrs a week under contract at an investment firm. It’s crazy.

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    avatarFyodor
    Participant

    thanks to everyone for your kind remarks. It’s nice being able to unload about this stuff anonymously though I am lucky to have as good a support network as one can in this particular era.

    #892456 Reply
    veritek33veritek33
    Participant

    @Copa – sister in laws wedding is now rescheduled for April in Florida. So unless things change RAPIDLY I don’t see myself going to that. Even more so if we get pregnant. I feel nervous for all the weddings happening in mid Missouri right now anyway.

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    avatarFyodor
    Participant

    Maybe it will be like a software product launch, with endless rolling delays.

    #892501 Reply
    avatarLisforLeslie
    Guest

    @Fyodor – it sounds like you’re managing which in and of itself is impressive, but you’re managing in the worst of times with constant stress. Please be patient with yourself if you find moving forward feels like you’re moving backwards.

    As much as I want to go home to NYC – now I’m secretly staying because I don’t want my mom to be lonely and do stupid stuff like go to friends’ backyards. They announced a few more people in the community got the ‘rona so now everyone’s backing up and making more on line instead of IRL plans. I keep telling my mom that I have no time for travel (which is kind of true through the end of the month). Or that I’m scared to go on a plane (also kind a true). Would it be too much if I said I didn’t want to lose access to HBO and her Disney+ account?

    #892535 Reply
    hfantodshfantods
    Participant

    I’m sorry again @Fyodor for your loss and grief.

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    avatarHelen
    Guest

    I’m so sorry fyodor. That is heartbreaking. I’m glad your support system is strong

    #892593 Reply
    TheLadyETheLadyE
    Guest

    I’m so, so sorry Fyodor. I can’t even imagine. I’m so sorry you didn’t get to have a funeral and just…everything. My heart goes out to you and BOF and SOF and HOF. (Can’t forget HOF!)

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    avatarFyodor
    Guest

    Thank you. The HOF, who used to collect pets from every stranger on the street and play with all the dogs, is having a hard time with the social distancing.

    #892964 Reply
    CopaCopa
    Participant

    So my boyfriend’s stepdad emailed my boyfriend and his siblings last night offering to pay their airfare down to Florida to surprise their mom for her birthday later this summer. And I’m here rolling my eyes like WHY? It’s a nice thought, sure, but is that necessary *this year*? They’re flying to their Florida house for a week for her birthday, and if they NEED to surprise her, why can’t they all just stay HERE where everyone but his sister lives to minimize the risk? I take calculated risks here and there — like driving to another state to see my own parents — but his mom and stepdad are repeatedly doing things lately that make me kind of uncomfortable. I knew they were getting together for Fourth of July in their backyard but assumed it was family BBQ. I learned when I got home that they’d thrown a legit party that exceeded the gathering limits. And I’m sitting here frustrated that they can’t even follow the guidelines or travel between their homes less. His stepdad is higher risk FFS.

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    BethanyBethany
    Participant

    @Fyodor I’m sorry for your loss and I am sorry that you aren’t able to grieve with your loved ones like you should be able to.

    For the other parents, our school district (who I work for at an HS) is allowing parents to choose virtual or hybrid (in school 2 days a week) but the decision is binding for the entire school year and the decision has to be made by July 10. As you can imagine this has caused such an uproar with parents and students – not to mention the staff. I do not have a school-aged child yet (she’ll be 4 in August) but if we did I think my husband and I would choose virtual because it is the safest option at the moment, especially after seeing pictures of all the crowds at beaches this past weekend. Some of my husband’s friends are asking him what he would choose (he is an MD) and he tells him that his office is trying to hold out until January to start seeing patients in person. I also just received (like yesterday July 6) an email saying that we will be doing a version of teleworking/going into the school beginning July 13. Also that we will be allowing visitors (ie parents) in by appointment only.

    I knew this was going to have to happen but it feels like a complete disregard to the adults at the schools. Some of us aren’t teachers/principals and we are not being given choices by district leadership on requesting new schedules. We don’t even have the choice of teleworking. I am somewhat protected as I am the Principals admin and back in the corner, but there are so many others that aren’t. Also, there is no communication about what is going to happen when someone gets sick (either covid or regular school sick). We’re told to stay home if we are sick, but most staff don’t have enough leave to cover it.

    Also, there is the childcare issue. My daughter’s daycare is open, but limited to 12 people in a classroom, including the teacher. How are we suppose to arrange daycare when my husband is back seeing patients in person? And what will the cost be?

    I keep telling my husband you can tell the generations that never truly worried about contracting HIV/AIDs or other STIs because they don’t get the idea of the chain of transmission. It is all utterly exhausting and at this point, I am praying for the aliens to invade AND DO something. Obviously the US can’t fix itself at this point.

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    #892982 Reply
    BethanyBethany
    Participant

    Oh and Bolsonaro just tested positive – why is it skipping Pence and Trump?

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