I received an invitation to a friend’s 50th birthday party, being held at a wine bar in town. This morning I responded that I would attend. This evening, from the “party committee,” I received an email stating that “the committee is writing to only a few of X’s friends to see if you would be interested in contributing to the party — it would be lovely if her party was a gift and you could cover the costs of food, wine, deocrations, cake, etc. Let us know if this sounds like a plan.” My first thought was that this was very inappropriate to ask people to underwrite this party. In my opinion, the hosts should cover the costs of the party, or at least ask the guests to pay for their own drinks at the wine bar (which I would expect to do). But to ask just a few to cover all the costs is pretty tacky. Am I wrong? I’m not rolling in the dough, but that’s besides the point. Interested in your thoughts.
Yeah, I think if you have a milestone birthday party, you either pay for it yourself, or some family members or close friends throw it for you. You don’t have the organizers send out invitations and THEN ask guests who respond “yes” to pay for the party. I’d just respond and say no, thank you, it’s a nice thought, but you’re not in a position to pay for a birthday party right now.