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    I’m sorry but your expectations for him are so so so out of line. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean that you stop being human. And it doesn’t mean that you have to stop engaging with 50% of the population.

    Your BFF may think that she has to support you and be on your side, even if you’re wrong. That’s cool but a really good friend will tell you (privately) if you’re being unreasonable, rude or just plain stupid. She might have the same immature and ridiculous opinion that once you’re in a relationship an entire gender is off limits – or she might just be supporting you. Ultimately you made the decision to break up with someone you love because he couldn’t fit within this teeny, tiny, restrictive bubble you set up for him.

    If you can’t adjust your expectations of romantic partners – this is always going to happen. You are extremely controlling and insecure.

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    Didn’t you already write in about this weeks ago? Your bestie thinks he has lust in his heart or whatever and didn’t like him over this?

    Anyway, he’s not your boyfriend, he’s your ex-boyfriend since you claim to have broken up. And sure, it’s fine to want a boyfriend who doesn’t follow gross accounts on social media that objectify women. But you’re in the wrong here IMO. Why are you checking on the accounts he follows in the first place? There was never any trust to begin with if this is how you’re behaving. While this isn’t quite snooping since it’s readily available to you, what a weird use of your time. You sound insecure and controlling. Dating you sounds exhausting. Move on from this guy, find one who doesn’t make you feel compelled to waste your time scrolling through his follows looking for things to be offended by.

    “He proceeded to apologize and tell me he introduced me to his family formally and he had plans of proposing soon.”

    LOL. You sound like you’re in middle school, not old enough to legally marry. Marrying after four months would be ill advised even for happy mature couples.

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