Your last sentence is interesting: “I thought that he was into younger girls given that he really liked me in the beginning…”

He really liked you…in the beginning? But not now? Do you feel his interest in you is waning?

Ask yourself this: Is he an outgoing, friendly person who easily engages in conversations with others? If so, he is doing what is in his nature. He is enjoying conversations with others. Some will be male and some will be female and that’s okay and normal as long as he is respectful to you.

You didn’t say he was flirting with other women, just talking to them. Talking to other people is okay, regardless of whether they are male or female.

It is to be expected that he will talk to his lawyer. What sort of things does he compliment her on? Her work? Winning a case? Her figure? Complimenting a business associate on winning a case is just what people do in the workplace. Complimenting her figure is a red flag. If he says something like, “Your new hairstyle suits you,” it is likely harmless.

You say he talks to others as if you are not even in the room. The next time it happens, try this: Smile, introduce yourself to them, shake hands, and join the conversation. Express genuine interest in getting to know them. It’s fun!

Your letter is difficult to understand. When you say “I thought that he was into younger girls given that he really liked me in the beginning. but it turns out that I was wrong.” — do you mean you were wrong that he likes you, that he originally liked you but no longer does, or that you are astounded that he can get along well with an older woman?

Would you honestly feel better if he talked with younger women? I doubt it.

You don’t say how much older the women he talks to are, but even from a dating standpoint, it wouldn’t be unusual if his dating range was 24-36.

And he’s just talking. Friends and business associates can be any age. When I was 40 (and married) I enjoyed conversations with women, who were colleagues or in outside work activities, or friends of family and friends, over twenty years older and almost 20 years younger. Conversations with decades older or younger people can be extremely interesting, because they have vastly different life experiences and viewpoints. That’s one way to learn about people and the world.

It just seems beyond strange that the fact that your bf happily talks with older women would cause you to think that he really isn’t romantically interested in women your age or that he no longer is attracted to you.

Something’s not jibing – perhaps because there are so many assumptions being thrown out. You said he’s being flirty, but he doesn’t perceive it as such. Can you give an example of him flirting? Smiling and being pleasant, making small talk or even cracking a joke is not necessarily flirting. How are his behaviors different than when talking to men?

A man likes you – who you are, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he has a type. And calling a woman who is his age – but older than you – does not make her an “older woman” to him. Just that she’s older than you. As is he.